How Old Were You When You Had Your First REAL Boyfriend?

24. It taught me that I did not really know what I wanted at that time.

 

Double dap. Very introspective.

 

I was 28, he was 31. I had just started "exploring my sexuality" less than a year ago, and found myself in a situation where I met a guy one night who was really attracted to me. I've told my story in here somewhere before, but we ended up together for over a year. It was unhealthy from the beginning, and all the lessons I've learned are too numerous to go into. (Definitely for locker room conversation! Lol.) But the big picture lesson I got was this: you live life, make mistakes, have regrets, but you move on, keep living and try not to make the same mistakes again. At the same time, don't let past mistakes, regrets, and hurt overtake your judgement when it comes to moving forward.

 

F---in' fairy tail shit. gtfoh.

lol...jus kiddin

 

I was 20 and he was 29. We dated for 2 years.
He was my first real boyfriend. It was weird and we are cool today, but I don't like him.
He left his wife for me, and when they divorced he became an asshole and a queen. Here is what i learned:

1. It takes a lot to make me happy. He bent over backwards for me and I was never satisfied. It is because deep down I did not like him as a person and did not trust him. Anyone who breaks a commitment of marriage THE WAY HE DID aint shit, is unstable and cannot be trusted.
2. I now only date men with ambition. After his divorce, he was back at home with his father, sleeping on a blow up mattress. I ended up using him to do things for me (cook, laundry, buy me dinner, massages, etc)
3. I am always the Alpha Male in my relationships.
4. I get bored easily and cannot be faithful.
5. Summing up all my relationships (about 6): Love comes in different shades. I wonder if I have ever been in love enough with someone to marry then, or love them unconditionally without prejudice.

Damn. What a question. Thank you.

 

So, I am 25 (26 in March) & I can honestly say that I do not think I've really had a genuine "boyfriend". I have definitely dated guys (my first being when I was 20); but the dudes haven't really lasted long enough to be my boyfriend. Typically 3-5 months into getting to know a guy, we move on to other ppl....

 

Wow,

My first boyfriend was in college when I was around 21 or so. I was enrolled in an HBCU in the 1980,s when gay was not accepted and it was exacerbated by the brothers of all the fraternities on campus whenever they went. Anyway, I was dating this girl and she cheated on me. I was young in love with her. However, the pain of that heartbreak flung wide open that door within me "that dare not speak its name". He sensed it too. He made all the right moves and I responded to his every innuendo of wanting to be sexual with me. Each time we were near each other, my attraction to him was volcanic-like. Finally, at his off-campus apartment, we connected. I was afraid at first. I mean, I had never in my life ever kissed a guy before. So much of my religious upbringing was there, but being near and close to him made it worth being totally relaxed. To ease my fears, he asked that I close my eyes. Once I did, he kissed me! He kissed me as if he and I would never, ever, ever kiss again. I exploded.....literally. I was so overtaken with how natural this felt. I was drawn even to his scent and natural pheromones that were helping me to relax even more. I had arrived finally where I was free. He introduced me to much of what being gay, loving yourself, and most of all, what it meant to love another man had to offer. It was the lesson of all lessons. Nevertheless, my first experience was beautiful. I pray I never forget.

If I may, his name is Tyrone. We are worlds apart now, but have stayed in cordial contact to this day.

Thanks.