Hooking up or dating friends

I've had this happen before. No full on sex just like yourself. It became a bit too frequent for my taste and not as satisfying for me so I just told that person we need to cut it off and he was cool with it.

I don't see anything wrong with it as your friends are the one's you have the most in common with or get along the most with. Just gotta be adults about it.

 

I was actually going to say NO and NO and then I remembered that an old friend that I just invited to lunch about 10 minutes ago was someone I had sex with years ago and it has never been a big deal so I guess I am ok with it.

 

I too am guilty and no its hasn't negatively impacted our friendship

 

I think as long as it's clear it's just entertainment and there's no expectations and no kiss and tell, then it could work as long as there's no jealous feelings from when either party gets a relationship.

It's gonna be hard to explain why you and your buddy fooled around if it got out there.That would seem to be a serious Bro Code violation considering that only the two involved would know what, if anything did happen.

 

I've messed around a few times with a "straight" friend. It began with silly bro-like homoerotic touching and challenges and eventually went a little further for a brief period. He genuinely seems interested in women, but I think he'd be willing to dabble in uncharted waters more often if it were more accepted. It didn't change things but we never talk about it and I kindly keep it to myself (or at least don't give details), and we rarely speak anyway.

Something happened once with a gay acquaintance and we practically stopped speaking afterwards. Don't think we would have ever become serious friends anyway, though we might have occasionally stayed in touch if it hadn't happened. We hung out once in his room, I confirmed my suspicions, and I wanted to see how far I could take the situation.

A few times, I've hooked up with people first and sorta became friends later. Maybe more like friendly acquaintances.

 

It happened in the past with a long term friend and after it happened a few times it was never an issue or even brought up except mentally when they talk about their past exploits and claim strictly top status.

 

Dead. X_x

 

Once, but in hindsight we weren't really "friends" to begin with, just very cordial with one another. "Frenemies" at best. Ironically it was the best sex I've had LOL

 

Damn @alton Why is it sometimes so good with the wrong nucca?

First time I had sex with a dude was back in college with a close friend and it had me convinced that I wasn't really gay because it was just OK. Took me years to realize I needed an emotional connection to have sex and that was missing with the friend.

 

LOL Weird shit, bro

 

Maybe thats why it was so good, it was a "Love/Hate" situation. We loved to hate each other. smh

 

Long story short...I had a trainer who knew I was bi. He is straight, but I would later find out, a bit curious. We eventually became good friends (for about 2 years) to the point where we would go out to bars together, hang out at each other's house, and I eventually didn't have to pay him for training--in exchange for cooking lessons that he quickly gave up on. lol. We never had sex, but somehow massages became a regular thing between us and for him, that was like a sexual fix to cure his curiosities when we had those moments. It was nothing awkward after the massages and I didn't make a big deal or question him over it. As far as I was concerned, a massage is a massage and he was my trainer so bro was fine as fuck. Ya boy wasn't complaining. I've always been respectful of people's boundaries and have a good emotional filter, and he just wanted to have questionably "gay" massages. lol. it was all good.

 

I've dated a friend before and I think it can be sometimes the coolest thing, because it's like you have someone where you guys can laugh at each other's jokes and just act a fool together from time to time and get a little something extra on the side.You know how back in the day you used to order something off the menu at mcdonalds and they would ask you if you wanted it "supersized" and that's kind of how it is lol. And things faded out, but we still remain friends, and I feel that when that happens that's when you know you have a solid connection with that person. Although I've had some experiences not so great, and that's because there's too many emotions that become involved, and it might become a hard task to separate the friend from the relationship. lol.

 

I don't date friends. Ive seen a few of them in various states of undress and mid "adult" interactions.

It would kinda make sense to date someone you know inside and out...for some.

 

Sex is a great experience to have with someone. However, sex can enhance a relationship just as much it can kill or limit a connection from even growing no more than a physical connection. In my opinion, I considered myself a great friend to all my friends and #1 rule to all my successful friendship is that I dont fuck my friends. If we having sexual relations, you could be my nsa or my dude I hit up if we both up for it. But a friend? Idk. If we trying to be friends and the only thing that attracts us is some physical lust, then you probably dont have the tools to manifest a true friendship from happening. Sex can be misleading these days. It not always good to build with first. Some successful relationship exist on starting with sex but I guarantee you thats a small percentage. Some folks overcompensate with sex just to overlook quality they lack. Its all preference and what you do for.

 

Nothing wrong with two (or three) consenting adult friends engaged in a little sexual play. Better a friend than a stranger from the internet.