Romantic Attraction...Where is it?

I think "romantic attraction/ connection" may be the reason a lot of us aren't in relationships. Sexual attraction is cool and definitely can be fun, but I feel that it rarely leads to anything "meaningful" or long lasting. Not every case, but a lot of cases. For those dudes that need something more than sexual attraction, it can be difficult, because it tends to be a lot harder for us to connect with someone on that romantic level. Its (relatively) easy to give in to someone that you find sexually attractive, but to try and connect with someone on a romantic/mental/"spiritual" level is (imo) a lil different. But even that is subjective to the individual(s) because some dudes fall "romantically" in love every other week. LOL

 

I am single and currently one of those "not looking for a relationship" people. However, I've had "friends" with benefits situations that were initially based on sex and, over time, lead to us getting to know one another and having extended conversations about personal stuff. Sometimes, they were up for hanging out for nonsexual purposes and just wanted my company. I don't know if I had romantic interests in them (though one or two gave me the feeling that they'd be open to dating me, but didn't expect or push it), but we did enjoy getting to know one another. I might have considered trying it under different circumstances.

I've met guys that don't want to get personal at all. There have been others who initially have a certain level of detachment but are happy to get to know others, at least for a little while. I'm guessing that some of the latter might maintain contact and "see where things go" if they like what they hear and get a good vibe. Sometimes they tell me that they are interested in romance (not necessarily with me, but in general), but won't turn down a fun hookup in the meantime.

 

Well I think people see this lifestyle as the sexual/physical comes before the emotional. Since technology has made it so easy to get sex much quicker; its harder to come by a genuine guy who is interested in the romance and passion. So many times I have heard a guy say they want something romantic based, but if I wasn't willing to jump in bed with them by midnight than their interest faded pretty quickly. So now I'm just vested in building friendships until a guy who I feel I'm connected with on a emotional level comes along. If he can gain my heart then the physical and sexual relationship will fall into place.

 

I follow this guy on YouTube and he is the truth. Raunchy. But, I think that he will give you that extra encouragement you need.

 

I am interested in what a relationship would look like in my life, seeing as though I don't really consider myself having ever been in one. I feel like people are overly sexual now a days just because of technology, but I could be wrong because I have never been in an era as an adult without technology. I want to open up and share a lot of stuff but can't find the right one who is willing to do the same with me and listen to me, so I am still single.

 

I've been in and felt romantic attraction with another dude(s)
I know I'm not that unique, It's out there but I think it's hard to find someone that you can really vibe with on a deeper level over the physical.
I always liked to personally think of it as no loss on either side if that romantic attraction wasn't there rather than waste time with the wrong person.

When I was in my longest term relationship, it was an initial physical/sexual attraction on his part to me but then it grew romantic once we got to know each other and he learned that I wasn't as dumb as he assumed. For me, it was love at first sight! The balances were there and we had a good run.

I was around in a time before the internet and cell phones and sex and hookups existed here in NY very, very easily. There was cruising, movie theaters, bars, train stations, bridges, beaches, you name the place and there was sex happening there.

 

Coming from someone in a relationship the romance started once I realized I wanted to be with him so I did things to impress him. Now I do things romantically to keep him happy.