So are we just assuming that everyone is into being fucked or fucking?
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I've always found asking someone their position to be kinda crude. I prefer to ask probing questions and I'll usually get a sense of what the persons into... or I'll just do a little background investigation and find out
- Aug 28, 2015
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It may seem awkward or rude but its a honest "gay" question. Some people are not as versatile in that area as others. Some people are very strict about their sexual position and do not wavier. Its best to know as soon as possible so no one is wasting their time if that a non flexible for you.
If you think you'll want to be intimate with this person, it's better to bring the subject of sex up in a space that's nurtral. On the phone or on the freeway in the car, not pulled over behind the abandoned Burger King. This lowers the expedition so it doesn't seem like you are asking these question now to immediately roll into the sack.
Talk generally and then build up to it. It shouldn't be the first question. "How important is sex to you? Is penetration a requirement for you to consider sexual activity actual sex? What do you enjoy sexually?" You want to think about it as a line of questioning than just one question.
You'll get your answer that way by framing it and it won't sound so crass.
Things don't have to be so polarized, as a verse guy, I just need to know if you are verse. Be verse top or verse bottom if you want to call it that but to me, verse is verse. Some men don't like penetration at all, receiving or giving so those are things to be considered as well.
The best way to ask without appearing crude is to ask "What are you in to?" This is after it's already been established that you're both interested in pursuing more. If someone asked me right off the bat, I would feel kinda violated. Then again, I hate the terms "top" and "bottom" and their connotations.