I’m mixed on this. I do feel that both gay and straight couples sometimes share idealized images of their relationship on social media for fame and/or to cover up deficiencies in their relationship. But I don’t think this is always the case.
For me, I do sometimes share my relationship on social media. He’s part of my life, so I don’t feel the need to hide that aspect. My Instagram and Facebook are both private though, so these images are generally for folks on my friend/follower list as opposed to the wider public.
My partner, on the other hand, very rarely uses social media. No instagram and almost never posts on Facebook. He’s changed his profile picture twice in the past 12 years.
With that said, I do think it’s important to see images of black gay couples. And I’m not gonna lie, I like seeing them. It’s comforting and it forces white folks and straight people to confront it head on. And it helps other black gay men. So many black gay men are afraid to post anything on social media due to shame or fear of negative repercussions. It’s good to know you’re not alone.