As strong as many heterosexual Black men claim to be, why are they so threatened the gays?
I just don’t get it.
In a world where heterosexuality permeates literally every crevice of every culture for every Black person all over the world, we still see this crippling fear of homosexuality.
It’s as if they view becoming gay is as transmissible as the Delta variant of COVID-19. No, actually in their minds being gay is even more transmissible since they believe you can catch it from merely seeing a gay person in a music video.
Where is my rant coming from, you may be asking? Recent events, of course. In case you’ve missed them:
During a recent Rolling Loud performance popular rap artist DaBaby started an unusual call-and-response with his audience where he asked them to put their cell phone lights in the air if they didn’t have HIV or AIDS that would “make you die and 2, 3 weeks” and if the fellas didn’t “suck a nigga dick in the parking lot.”
Many people in the audience have since given their testimony that this rant was unnecessary and not even celebrated by the fans in the crowd:
After the backlash began, DaBaby quickly hopped on social media to give obligatory half apologies that only made the situation even worse for his PR team.
Then came the responses in his defense, mostly from fellow homophobic rappers, but also from the Black hoteps and the “preserving the Black family” types (who always happen have YouTube channel and/or books to sell you).
What is Tariq Nasheed (producer of the Hidden Colors documentaries) talking about? Lil Nas X, of course.
I can only imagine how much venom is quietly being thrown out there by Black men given how much attention Lil Nas X has received from his provocative and unabashedly gay music videos over the past year or so.
Not every Black man is what we would call progressive when it comes to homosexuality. They are when it applies to buxom bisexuals or “lipstick lesbians,” as they call them, but not gay men who they will likely never meet or intimately come across with in their lives.
Homophobia in the Black community is far from a new thing, but thanks to progressive LGBT movements, Black Creatives dominating their fields and the use of social media, Black bisexuals and gays have forced many of the outright bigots to hold their tongues.
However, like Trump supporters fearing that they’re losing their grip on the culture, maybe the Black homophobes feel the need to start pushing back again.
Although I feel that the dam has already broken and there’s no turning back to the way things were back in the 1990’s and earlier, many of these prominent Black men can still do a lot of damage to our already mentally fragile community dealing with so many other traumas and threats.
This brings me back to my original question, why are they so threatened?
There are no shortages of Black families out there. There are no shortages of Black children being born. Literally no one can become gay just by seeing another gay person in a music video or on a TV show…or even seeing one sucking dick in a parking lot.
Heterosexuality is still the dominate imagery in Black culture. The most popular Black television shows, movies, musicians, athletes and entertainers are all heterosexual or promote a heterosexual lifestyle.
Even if some men were “sucking dick in the parking lot” before DaBaby’s performance, how does that affect him? They still paid for their tickets to support him just like everyone else.
For the likes of Dr. Boyce Watkins and Tariq Nasheed, how does one music video released by “white execs” (that no one is forced to watch, by the way) somehow reveal a master racist conspiracy or promote sexual irresponsibility? Especially when we see thousands more examples of this from heterosexuals?
As Lil Nas X put it, “just say you hate people, musty.”
So what is the point of this blog post? Not much that we haven’t already discussed, to be honest. Just venting, I guess.
Many Black men feel insecure and threatened by homosexuality and nothing I write or say will change that. All I can do is live my life and try to ignore their intolerance that will likely continue as long as religion, ignorance and hyper masculinity has its grasp on our collective psyches.