We both dudes. But if I invite you out I'm prepared to pay for everything and I'm being courteous. That said this goes both ways. Don't order anything you wouldn't ordinarily order yourself or that is way higher priced than the average item on the menu. This is not an opportunity for you to finally get a stuffed lobster or a Porterhouse.
We have discussed this before here. Black gay men have a problem with the word "date" even if all things that would involve a typical date are involved, a lot of us avoid that word. It should be called what it is. Even if it's just meeting up to share a malt, it's a date.
I think texting is fine after you've set up the details via phone first for said date. But we can't go all day texting and no call.
I've been the slut and the Goodie Two Shoes. I don't think it makes much difference how the relationship will be but I definitely like ST and mystery so I'm OK with getting to it or a build up.
On this I think limiting the circle is good. Say the BFF meets them first but they don't see The Crew until after a while when you've had the chance to get to know better.
Slides and sweats is not a good date outfit. But you don't need your flyest outfit either. Casual is good. t shirts and jeans/appropriate length shirts are OK.
Conversation is a volley... One sentence answers shows you're not really interested and not asking about the other person anything makes it about you. Also it's not an interview so do not constantly ask stuff without volunteering information yourself. This makes you look nosey.
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I cynically laughed at all of these. While I agree we should bring most of these back...kats have "evolved" beyond these.
1. Practice chivalry.
2. Ask someone out on a real date instead of suggesting something vague like “hanging out.”
3. Pick up the phone and call your date.
4. Let the mystery and sexual tension build up before you jump into bed.
5. Don’t introduce this person to your friends until you’re serious.
6. Dress up for the occasion.
7. Fill awkward silences with questions about your date — and definitely don’t spend the whole time talking about yourself.
7 'Outdated' Dating Rules We Should Bring Back
Let me add my two cents;
2. When you ask to go on a date and use the word, they take it as you are coming on too strong, needy or thirsty. They prefer hangout, meet up or chill cos it removes expectations or responsibilities if they decide not to show up. I prefer to use the word date, cos I think it lays out my intentions out clearly.
3. I like to mix it up calling and messaging. Guys nowadays would not answer calls, but will then hit you immediately with 'what's up, why you calling?' msg. smh
4. I am divided on this, on one hand I feel delayed gratification is the definition of maturity on the other hand I feel if the chemistry is right, you ain't gotta keep it tight! lol
5. 100% on this! I have never even made it to that point of a guy meeting my friends and I am always happy they didn't.
6. Sweats, ''athleisure'' no matter how GQ said you can year them or if you got them from Off White, hoodies, baggy jeans, shorts, vests, bold print designer logos are a NO! I feel casual chic is good. Something that shows you put effort into it, but also feel relaxed.
I feel dating rules, like the ones mentioned above, are very good and remind me of a time I wish would come back. However, there has been a serious evolution of dating and its rules over the last 15 years, that traditional rules or set standards would have to go through some revision or amendments.