Ask Juan & Gee: We are BOTH BOTTOMS! Can it work?

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  1. OckyDub

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    Ask Juan & Gee: We are BOTH BOTTOMS! Can it work?

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    NO... Be friends and keep it moving. Stop being thirsty just for a date or for a relationship.

    I so disagree with most of the commentary here. Friendship IS a real relationship. This seems like something is attempting to be forced when it doesn't need to be. I do agree penetration isn't everything; however when one of the two or both is craving someone "authentic" to penetrate them...if it has to be forced just to please, its not real.
     
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    If you are not willing to compromise then move on.
     
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    From your point of view, how would, should or can this dude compromise? I hope that's not a dumb question.
     
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    For young dudes, probably not successfully but I think much older dudes could make it work out, especially if they're entering the decline of their sex drive.
     
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    i would like to think it could work but I'm not going bet money on it. but i do feel sex should not rule a relationship
     
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    Actually I do not get this either?
     
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    If two people are not willing to compromise and be versatile (pun intended) it wont work. That's why its important to ask sexual compatibility questions from the start of the relationship so everyone is on one page. Its just the crux of being gay.
     
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    If the people involved have expressed interest in each other and really wanna make it work either one is gonna top or both are gonna become vers in the relationship. If your sexual position is not something you are willing to budge on then continue to search for your strict top.
     
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    What if one or both are total(strict) bottoms and can't top(you know, the kind who will not even aknowledge their 'manhood' and don't want it touched and could not get it up to penetrate if they had to?)
     
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    Then be honest with yourself and only entertain the person as a friend or nothing at all
     
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    I'm sorry. I'm with @Ockydub on this one. If no one is willing to compromise then it's better if the two people just move on or be friends if possible. There's going to come a time when the urge is going to be too strong and someone is going to have to "flip" their role.

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    Can two bottoms work out? The short answer is possibly.

    Sex is complex in its own right but shouldnt be complicated as folks try to make it. If Im a bottom & I like another bottom it can work until one of us wants to get penetrated, then what? Booty bumping via a double ended dildo? Sounds interesting but very repetitive and limited.
    The REAL Deal Please.:foxxxy:

    It really has nothing to do with mirroring HETERO folks. Some men like to penetrate, quite a few like getting the P-spot tapped and some are into both.

    A friend & myself were just arguing about this and I mentioned lables & he made it clear that people are always trying to lable everything & everyone should just go with the flow. I personally think lables are fine and I told him I disagree with him.

    Anywayz. I really think you should go with what you like and not try to make it work just because. Though this may sound selfish, why do I have to comprimise? If Im not comfortable being a top or a bottom, why should I have to force myself to..Doesn't sound genuine to me.

    Still some relationships don't require penetration. But I can't imagine what it would be like with a TOP who doesn't want to REALLY TOP you but is "comprmising" or a Bottom that is the same way.
     
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    If sex is very important to both of them, either will be feenin for the D. I would advise bringing in a top to handle the D fever from time to time (one go to if possible). I know of two guys who are in a relationship and who both are tops that have threesomes with bottoms from time to time.
     
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    I think it could work, me and my dude started off both being tops when our relationship began. Things change and if your feeling that person then you do what you can to please them.
     
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    I think it can work. I've never been in this situation. If sex is high on the priority list as far as the relationship is concerned I would imagine that the two guys in the relationship can make things work out for each other.
     
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    Hey there handsome.

    ....listen yeh, how's are things working? I think I've got a top on my hands and I'm just trying to get some insight.
     
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    Two bottoms can be in a relationship together, however, I think you would need to be more...creative and be open to an alternative relationship style. IDK why being in a stereotypical relationship has to be the ultimate goal, especially if there's something that could prevent that with someone you really like. My advice would be to try something out, but don't tell ANYONE how you're deviating from the norm, if it's working and you're happy, be happy in private & silence.

    It's stupid to say completely take his role preference off the table and it shouldn't matter, because it does. Sex is ABSOLUTELY in the top 5 things to make a relationship work, hell that's why A LOT of people cheat.
     
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