Attraction: That thing that makes you go "hmm"

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    So as of lately, I have been doing a lot of research into sex, sexuality, attraction and the list goes on. I personally have struggled with sexuality and labels, and in my late 20s decided to settle down and really learn to understand myself. It lead to me labeling myself Pansexual from not feeling the gay, straight, and bisexual labels didn't categorize how I genuinely feel. That further led me to a question...

    When it comes to who I am attracted to, what really makes me go HMMM????

    Now we can all say "oh a phat butt, a nice penis/bulge, and some nice muscles and abs", BUT when you take away those 3 things about a guy what really is a physical trait that you can look at and say about many dudes that will 9 times out of 10 catch your eye?

    I looked around and around this site and saw the thirst traps and some of them I have to admit were attractive. I feel like some where more attractive to me than others and I couldn't quite figure out what it was. I looked at my daily life and cut out looking at phat butts (some of the time) and really tried to focus on what was my definite "hmm".

    It turned out to be ears for me. Here's a few examples:
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    Yes they are overall attractive, but it was that particular feature that make them win for me every time.

    What is that one feature for you? I mean, Minus the main 3 I mentioned.
     
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    Just ears??? I notice another common denominater
     
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    Weirdly enough its two that are at the top for me. I usually look at teeth/mouth and hands.
     
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    Lips, Teeth, Eyebrows & Chest
     
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    No shade...both exes were light brights/1 p rican...but i dont give a shyt abt complexion. That was def random.
     
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    aside from people I notice every day, those guys were just ones I could quickly pull for reference. They came from remembering their name not their skin color is all.
     
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    Cool. I'll take ur word for it man.
     
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    The EYES.
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    Nose and teefs. One or both of those being off can kill a whole face on an otherwise good looking dude.
     
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    The butt and thighs on an Asian guy can really get me going.
     
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    A big, genuine smile draws me in
     
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    Is it possible that even physical attraction to someone is fluid?

    We could all admit that there are some physical features that we just go for. For example, great teeth and a genuine smile are great, but put great teeth on Celie from the Color Purple and you still have Celie, but with great teeth. At the same time, you may take someone who doesn't have great teeth, but their nose is sexy or you can't resist how much a person's eyes draw you in. (Speaking of eyes, I've seen beautiful eyes on not as beautiful people.)

    Could it be that with all the variations and complexities of human biology , certain features make a person attractive, and make us attracted to them even when we may think we wouldn't be? You know that statement we find ourselves saying about people from time to time? "You know? It's just something about them..."
     
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    I talked briefly to another member about this but a man's eyes (people in general) are usually a draw in for me. Everything about them, the shape, color eyelash length, the light in them has to resonate with me in way. They don't have to be blue, green, or hazel (although I'm not apposed to that) just soulful and alluring in some ambiguous way to me. I like guys with thick/heavy brows as well. You can tell so much about that person by looking into their eyes. I'm sure I make some people uncomfortable because when I talk to anyone I usually tend to make as much eye contact as possible because it genuinely makes communicating how I feel easier.
     
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    I'd say teeth are the biggest one for me. They can definitely make or break my attraction to someone. It is literally the first thing that I look at. If you pass that, then I'll start really checking out the rest lol.

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    Easy....TEETH! ALL THE WAY! Nothing compares to teeth (especially the ones with a gap) when it comes to initial attraction....the only other competitor that compels me is height. If a n*ggas has both (tied with an age older than mine), he's a winner in my books. The only other thing I can think about is a beard....and who doesn't love beards?
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    ....I don't know....but d*ck prints, muscles, abs, ass (well maybe not ass) have always fallen short on being key features....I'd be gravitated more to ankles than them.
     
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    If it's ears that you like, you can't beat Park Hyeong Seop.
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    I feel you....to be honest, I don't think men with dark skin like me bro. Either than this Nigerian guy, all the dudes that I was involved with were lighter than me or not Black.
     
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    For me its overall face. A great body is a plus but I have to be attracted to their face.
     
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    WOW!!!!
     
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    Just a note because folk have pointed out and commented on this part of the post a few times

    What's funny is the moment a black person likes someone who is more fair skinned than they appear it's pointed out as a negative. I could have posted a couple guys that come to mind... Lance Gross, I went to Howard and I don't like him, Michael Jordan, Tyrese, Tyson Beckford... I don't like their public image. Porn stars get paid to have sex and look good while doing it. I could have posted Osiris Blade, he reminds me of an ex date, so not doing it. Plus im not really into the bald head look, both my step fathers were bald and that's weird to me. Also an unknown mystery of the Universe is that bald men look like thumbs without the nail attached a lot of times.



    With all that said, I did however try to amend my original post and have a photo of Cypher Avenues favorite Frank Ocean
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    But that's what happens when we focus on skin color, you always look at the fact someone is lighter than the fact that they are just simply human. That's how we ended up with racism lol.
     
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    ....actually yeh, it's not funny at all. And it's not that it's negative but it's doltish of someone not to question the predeliction a person has.
    ....lets be honest yeh, there is something more than going to Howard or their "public image" that has to do with these fine ass Black men not being liked.... ....and to make it more clear, let's just say it's a common trait that they share yeh.
    @SB3 ....I think shots are being fired bro?
    (p.s. bald Black men are a national treasure. All of them is fine as hell!)
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    ....don't take this the wrong way (for some reason, I come off harsher than I intend), but this whole "kumbaya, let's hold hands together because we are of the one human race" is f*cking rubbish and quite frankly, it's dehumanising.
     
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    I love caramel color guys..Just a deep brown...oh wait. Um, the size oand shape of a guy's head. Kinda big ears. I find myself looking at men sometimes, checking their cheeks, lips, ears, nose, eyes and the the shape of their head. I like smooth faces so the beard thing never appealed to me though a light goatee is nice.

    Almost all bald men are sexy...
     
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    Ohhhhh kaaaaay....
    Well this thread went several directions.... And since its seems to be centered around colorisim I'm just going to post darker skinned brothers because ALL BLACK is beautiful.

    I like that "tight eyed" look in a guy, definitely a bright full smile as well. If these guys weren't uber masculine presenting yeah...

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    ANYTHING can be a kill for u mane
     
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    Gtfoh on deciding 'who/what' likes u. Just keep showing up lil bro
     
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