Discussion About Being Single in Atlanta with Tripp Ali ("About Him", "Tex Brown")

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    I think these guys are single somewhat for the reason you stated: They want a fantasy guy, or a dude who at least meets the level of Instagram displaying. They want someone who has status and money, even though they don't. I could be wrong, but actions speak louder than words, and unlike many of the Squad Members commenting, I've seen these dudes in the wild (so to speak). I've seen who they interact with, how the carry themselves, how aloof they can appear if a "regular guy" tries to make conversation with them.

    As for me and @SB3, I actually somewhat agree with your analysis for me. I def feel like I'm a weirdo, a nerd who re-watches David Attenborough docs right after a night of clubbing at a straight party playing nothing but ghetto ATL Trap Music. Plus the insecurities and the tunnel vision for work...I'm good catch on paper but a mess in reality.

    I think @SB3 may just not have good gaydar. Based on what he's told us, he's an masculine in-shape bartender and dancer (so he's flexible) who lives in a city full of masculine, discreet and down low gay men. On top of that, he's open to non-black men, so that increases his options. I find it hard to believe that no one at his bar or even on a MTA train has caught his eye or vice versa...Maybe he's just scared of NYC peen/booty unless its thrown at him.
     
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    And we have in this thread an example of why Nick and Ocky do not show their faces or do video stuff lol.

    ^^ SB3...yeah he may also actually scare/intimidate people away too without realizing it lol. You are kind of a mess but not in a bad way at all. The thing is, do you have to have someone just. like. you.??? Just finding some attraction and common things and someone who can tolerate you and someone you can tolerate is a big thing-no one person is going to complete or fulfill all or even most of what someone wants-that is why friends, personal interests, groups, clubs, relatives, etc. etc. etc. are important. I figured as much for those guys-why be grilled on video?-cause they want the attention and love those cameras!

    *I never follow any of my own advice for some reason though...
     
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    Yes.

    I've done the opposites attract thing, it never worked out for me...
     
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    'The thing is, do you have to have someone just. like. you.???' does not equal the exact opposite of you, right?-there is a lot of middle ground before you get to 'opposites'. Black and white thinking in a mostly gray world ;)

    *really...David Attenborough though? You are NEVER going to find someone 'just. like. you.' lol.





    Keep working on all of the things you are doing, and buy a dog as a companion I guess. Unconditional love. :yeshrug:

    :troll: (had to have Lebron since he did so well this past game and passed MJ and all.)
     
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    Not gonna get a dog, but I've accepted that I'll be a confirmed bachelor for quite awhile, and I'm cool with that...its still fun to jokingly complain about it occasionally though, lol. Also, I'll never be as extreme as the guys in this video (ie: dating someone for a year b4 I say we're actually dating and breaking up with someone for having an app on their phone that I also had on my phone at one point).
     
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    Let's make this a thing!
    -Are you gay
    -We limit love with labels.Im not hetero or homo, Im just sexual #AlternativeLabels
     
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    You let them finish then go "...and your second thought is?" I call people ( a lot of black women) out of this shit all the time.
     
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    This is why I hate you :dead1:
     
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    This. The fantasy mentality says more about ones own insecurity and messiness than what one is seeking. Once I accepted my own imperfectness, being a regular guy attracting (and attracted to) regular guys was natural and easy. Unlike Mr. Karen Carpenter Delmacy, my work hours regularly take me into the actual realm of being the "fat black guy on NBA panel with Shaq and Barkley" territory. Yet I still get it on the regular as well as propositioned, which always amazes and amuses the fuck outta me. So, dudes who are younger, fitter, more handsome than me who complain about being single need to examine self. If you're a Lexus, but one on cinder blocks, you're still useless compared to a Nissan that's on the road and moving.
     
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    I saw the video on Facebook and that it was kind of fascinating. Unlike some have mentioned I actually don't see any issue with the Gentleman's Ball highlighting these people that although may be a subset of the larger same gender loving community still have had something valuable to offer those seeking some kind of community. This event has gone on since I was still in high school I believe and it's always uplifted different facets of the community I don't see this as something too different from what it seems to stand for.

    I knew that dudes "gay voice" would be a hot topic! Lmao I was saying to myself while watching I bet Tripp although not more physically attractive in my opinion gets the most play because he's more that stereotypical thing so many black gay folk revere. The "gay voice and mannerisms" don't bother me at all. It's kind of a trivial thing to focus on.

    I think both dudes have some growing and work to do on themselves before trying to connect with someone else and that might be a huge issue. I think most time we get caught up in what might look the best for us instead of what will be the best to us and that shit screws up many great opportunities we could have.
     
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    Ain't nobody scared of @SB3

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    I *heart* SB3. Plus he is a bartender! That was always a weakness of mine! But he does watch those killer shows and knows EVERYTHING about killing and hiding bodies and getting away with it and all of that....just saying...lol.

    If I ever feel threatened I will just hold up a shirtless pic of that Omari guy lol.
     
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    I didn't watch the video, I just couldn't stomach it. I couldn't sit there yeh and entertain a group of niggas complain about dating and why they're single when they're possibly the one making that shit more difficult than it has to be innit.

    Listen here, I haven't got the energy to deal with your art heaux shit on here too yeh.
    ...just @ me mate
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    Lmao! If you hurt my feelings, I'm gonna kill you...that's why I don't date. Lol. But on a serious note yeh, I didn't start dating until about 3yrs ago when I was 22. And out of those three years, two of them, I was with someone (or I thought). I now just want to be out here actually dating for the first time and just allow myself to be open and available for different experiences. If I get off the market, that would be dope, but I'm not losing any sleep over that I'm not.
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    Because niggas don't know how to communicate, no one knows how to converse anymore; plus, all niggas want to do is text.

    In addition, 90% of them out there are supercilious dickheads with interminable standards and requirements. There are over a million profiles that have an incessant list of, "if you're : ___, just keep it moving.", it's madness. How does one expect to date by trimming nearly 95% of prospects?
     
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    This is a reach mate and you know it.
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    Added to the lexicon !
     
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    Your [​IMG] is a [​IMG] .

    @Champagne_Papi How's ^that for Art Heaux sh_t
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    I think that's a great perspective to have especially in your 20s. I never get why some young ppl are so in a rush to get into a relationship and be married with babies in their 20s.

    As I have stating in another post
    I have a lot of things to get in order before I can even think about being open to dating anyone.

    @Champagne_Papi I fear though when I do start dating because of my lack of of experience I wont have any clue what im doing. I might get overly attached to the wrong dude or be too stubborn about things. I too would have to killim of they hurt my feelings.:mad: lol.
     
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    right!!!!!!! I had to tell this one dude that I am not looking for a text buddy... that position has already been filled. The fact that be are adamant to meeting in person and doing things; I cant tell if it is insecurity, laziness, or something entirely different all together.
     
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    I'm just seeing this and the entire 2nd half of the comments in this thread...

    Lmao!
     
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    You better had used a meme of my boo to shade me!
     
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    ...and here you were wanting to meet him and talking about how he is your type and all that...smh and LOL!:troll::mjlol:
     
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    I wasn't gonna comment because I dislike these gay talky videos. Often times they make me cringe. This one was no exception. The first 3 min could've been completely cut out because it was just useless filler. Since @SB3 tagged me I figured I'd add my 2cents. Out of all the people in this video Tripp Ali is the only person I would probably feel the most comfortable with hanging out with. He seems to be the most "regular." That said I don't envy single people now. It's gotta really be difficult to date in the age of social media and hookup apps. If this video is representative of what Atlanta has to offer in terms of men I'm so glad I decided against moving there. There's a whole lot of fruit in that bowl.....jeez. :whut::franko1::iverson2:
     
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    As much shit I talk about ATL i gotta admit that these dudes in the video def don't represent the masses. Many of them exist tho. I would say the bigger issue with ATL is game playing and having too many options so dudes like the play the "friends first" card for eons while they explore their options.
     
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    Not just the game playing but the whole I prefer texting over talking. Rampant here. And why the fuck does it take 24 hours to respond to a text but then when i stop responding to yo ass, I'm the one with the problem.
     
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    Yeah one of the last dudes I dated in ATL and was really feeling was both of these. Like, how you gonna be a dude who prefers texting over talking yet it takes hours for you to reply to a text convo that YOU initiated? And this dude was a fucking night shift security guard, not the busy CEO of Uber or Amazon.


    I mean, its not a big deal, I just push them to the back of the line of potentials or cut them off altogether, but I don't understand their logic and motivations. Seems like a waste of time.
     
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    Yeah. And when you call them on it, they try and make it look like you the one either desperate, insecure or needy. Fuck these niggas. LOL
     
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    Having said that, you made me (somewhat) re-think my feelings about the men in the video interview (Tripp Ali & Brodney).

    Like...being black gaylebrities and/or socialites, they undoubtedly have more options than the both of us combined...but that doesn't mean the men available are no less full of shit.

    These dudes could still be really good dates and potential boyfriends to guys who don't mind their exposure/status in the gay community, but finding a dude who isn't playing games, wasting time, just looking for sex, etc is still probably very difficult for them.
     
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    What happened to characters like Carter(Michael Boatman)? He seemed just like any other guy really(given that it was a sitcom)and was portrayed more as one of the saner ones as well? I did not think of his character as a 'coon'(but not always sure what is meant by that anyway since it seems to be applied by some blacks to so. many. different. things.?) and he was no less masculine than any of the other male (admittedly white and we all know white men are less masculine except for Chuck Norris blah blah) characters. Maybe he was not hyper-masculine and all but he was more 'average Joe' than most white gay characters at the time(Will and Grace, Queer as Folk, etc).

    * LOL at Ocky's workplace...maybe we need a chronicles ala The Flophouse Chronicles?
     
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    His character was before it became 'cool' (as long as he stays in his lane and only opens his mouth to say a shady/aggressively gay as fuk comment) to have a gay character.
     
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    It might be completely baseless, but I think a lot of ppl might not take them seriously because the perception is that they're both trying so hard to be famous that it's hard to imagine them finding the time to be in the trenches dealing with the common bs that the rest of us consistently deal with while trying to date.

    I honestly couldn't even imagine trying to find time to date if I was trying to pursue their paths.
     
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    True, but the same could be said for working single mothers that still find time to date and go to night school. Point is, if it's important to you, you'll always find the time for it.
     
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    Nah, I've seen Brodney at my gym and you described him to a T. He is standoffish and very much above dudes at the gym. On one occassion, I watched him literally ignore a dude who was just trying to have conversation with him and the dude was attractive. Maybe he didn't have an instagram body yet, but he was attractive. He definitely gives me the vibe that any dude that steps to him better have a fit body, wear trendy clothes, be uber masculine and have lots of money.
     
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