Don't Be A Nickle Looking For A Dime

Also, I didnt mean to use 'go back and take inventory'. I'm sure @Nick Delmacy is very self aware. I was just agreeing w @Rico abt maybe needing to switch up the lakes you're fishing in or whatever.

 

OK....I didn't hear anything inconsistent with what's being discussed here.

 

Wow, this thread still hot! Went on a date, saw a play, had dinner, @SB3 got a summer makeover, and it dipped into page two territory.

Staying in my lane...

 

Did I hear 'date'??

 

All of you guys have a valid point as it is drawn from your own personal experience. Nick mentioned about the importance of self-confidence. Self-Confidence has to be fostered and nurtured in order to grow like a tree. Particularly, this lyfestyle can chew you up and spit you out. You definitely have to grow a thick skin for you are being judged within the first few seconds. Initially, looks, physique, masculinity, your clothing and then your job, car, and where you live. The first three items mentioned speaks to what you represent and the latter to affluence for affluence means success and being comfortable.
Living where most 9s are looking for a 10 can be intimidating. The fact of the matter is there are slim pickings. My experience a few months ago, when I attempted to date, is meeting one guy who was unemployed and unmotivated, another guy who I later discovered liked to parTy & play (which means using/on Meth while having unprotected sex), and the last one expected me to chase. I decided to take a break from trying to date altogether.
Years ago, I went clubbing with friends during MLK weekend. I remember seeing this hot one at the bar. He was tall, had model looks, and a shredded body with a tight muscle ass. I made my way over and tried to shoot my shot and immediately got shot tha phuk down. My pride was wounded for I've been told that I'm very attractive but HE rejected me. I had to walk it off and not internalize it. I know my value, character, and self-worth lies beyond my looks. Usually, those who try to create an outer image of what they deem “perfect” are the broken ones. Their ugly could be using people to get what they want, placating to their friends who do have wealth, or masking their own insecurities and want that control over other men for control means power. I am conscientious of that for whenever I got approached, I was still polite and engaging. Nowadays, it takes some courage to try to step up to someone who you'd like to get to know. Every hello doesn't mean that they are hitting on you or even leaving with your contact info after. A respectful response either way shows how humble of a man they truly are. As philosophical as it may sound, I feel that no one is out of anyone's league.
Nick, I wouldn't be too concerned about trying to figure those guys out. They are the losers. I respect the fact that you trusted the try. I truly feel there's a match out there for everyone. The practice is the experience gained from dating different types. I'd like to think that when left to chance and a serendipitous meeting that you could find the guy that can be your next lesson or the right one. There is a fine line between personal preference and seeking your personification of pulchritude and perfection as the ideal and only. Eff'em!

 

Castro's stunt double? Ocky packin lih det?? >_>

 

Yeah, right now in an Archie-Betty-Veronica situation smh like danny glover i’m too old for this shit

 

I see you playa...

 

See...that's how rumors get started...

 

Nah, Archie is the playa. Dumped Veronica, kept Betty.

Lane issues lol

 

Uuh got me thinking about the some of the men I find attractive. Not everyone Im attracted to are necessarily model-ish. Sometimes I just find their masculinity attractive. LIke this

 

Umm...that dude looks good

 

Yeah he does but I typical don't like skinny dudes.

Also I guess I find myself at times attracted to "non-traditional western" and "non-typical model-ish" types
ie.

 

Whatever floats your boat man. Trust, I leave ppl scratching their heads abt who I find attractive all of the time. There's def no clear rhyme or reason.

 

What the hell does non-traditional western mean lmao

 

real talk, i had the same question, but didnt wanna start nothing lol i thought being black was by definition non-traditional, with some exceptions (i.e., blk ppl have have more european-like features and complexions).

 

Basically non-european/non-white (features) lol Trying not not sound...... u know what I mean. @takeyourmeds91 U just wanted me say it u big "troll" haah lol .

But, the features that are not desired in the mainstream (well until recent maybe). Or at least I was taught to hate them until I became older and found them attractive. i.e. Overly wide big Large noses, overly Large Lips, very dark ebony black skin, overly hairy body, extremely long thick beards (@takeyourmeds91 the ones u hate lol)etc.

 

So black folks haha - and NO, I don't hate them and yes, I agree with you. As I've gotten older, these have become very sexy, masculine features.

I'll be honest, my eyes do wander quicker to light skin dudes but I am NOT against a fine ass chocolate motherfckah

 

Oh man, all of these comments! I'm exhausted! I was going give my opinion but I think EVERYBODY said everything themselves so I'll just come back to this later.

 

LOL at @Aejae bumping this dead thread back to life and then leaving.

Re-reading my responses, I was definitely going through something at the time, LOL. I still feel the same way but I'm less, um, passionate about it now.

 

I definitely feel this way daily. Besides me not having a stereotypical "good looking" face (you know, the kind to where a guy is always fine as hell even if he'd have get a haircut or shaved. He was always fine af in the face), I also think I have what I call a "personality disorder." I'm not the type who can effortlessly draw people towards me by just being me. I'm kinda boring being tasty I don't kiss how to hand interesting conversations and how to stay on topic for a lengthy period of time. Maybe I need to hit up a Bradley Cooper and obtain one of those NZTs and try my luck.