Getting Older

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  1. grownman

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    Maybe next time.
     
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    Too late. I already had the page cached on my phone.

    I hope to be like my mom... In good shape, healthy, active, and spry so that I can take care of myself. The plan is to include long term care money as a part of my retirement just in case.

    Most of the people who I know who are active in their retirement are better off than those who retired and just sit at home and watch their stories and The Wheel.
     
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    I saw it late last night. Maybe you were thinking of the Seasoned Gays thread, though want exactly the same discussion?

    Seasoned Gays

    I hope to be able to take care of myself when I'm older, but I also have a large extended family with many members in somewhat close proximity. They tend to look out for one another, especially those who make an effort to keep in touch. I'm a longer of sorts but sometimes want company and I'll likely always be able to visit them if no one else is available.

    Though I'm thankful for them, they're not the most ideal support system because I don't relate much to most of them. A lover or group of close friends would be better but I don't know what those situations will look like in the distant future. I'm not too worried since I do enjoy my alone time and space.

    Why was this on your mind?
     
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    Okay...

    We'll leave that alone.
     
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    I don't know how you did that...

    But yes, I agree. I want to be active too. I hate working out but I like the results of it. I was watching this girl (who plays for our team) and she was reading. I was thinking to myself "self, when was the last time you picked up a book? I don't mean Toni Braxton's autobiography either."

    I need to be able to take care of myself-you're right. Just needed to hear that from people who can relate.
     
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    How the hell did you guys see this? I deleted it.

    Yes sir, I will check that out. I come from a big extended family as well. But, also like you I am a loner. That's probably why I posted this. In fact, that's exactly why I posted this. Me and my sister were having a discussion once and we got on this subject. She is single and has one child a nine year old boy who is very active. This little guy is heavily into sports and loves being around other people. She used to be a "people person" but got reclusive after his father and her broke up. She jokes around a lot saying he is going to leave her. "B. I am scared of being the lady with ten cats." Lol. . It's funny but not at the same time. But, to answer your question reading the article from the Huffington Post had me reexamine some things.
     
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    @ockydub and I discussed this topic on the last couple podcasts in relation to both dating and having kids.

    But "having a man" or popping out kids is no guaranteed Lonliness Insurance in old age. There are plenty of Old Heteros who had families that are still lonely or feel abandoned.

    I always find it odd when ppl spend a lifetime pushing ppl away and/or being anti-social long for friends and family as they age. As if those relationships should magically appear without tons of work and time invested.
     
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    I guess eventually someone was going to slap me upside the head...
     
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    LOL not a slap, just a different point of view... Its kinda like wanting a gym body without actually going to the gym or eating right...
     
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    Absolutely.
     
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    I loaded up Cypher last night. I went to another tab on my phone's browser and when I went back to the Cypher tab, which had the main boards page up I read your post. Have I clicked to enter a response my phone loaded up the updated post which you deleted. Though I couldn't read the original again, I knew what my response was going to be .
     
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    Thanks guys. You starting to get a taste of my personality huh? Lol.

    It basically it boils down to common sense. You have to put in the work. This site has helped me a lot in terms of wanting to meet other people. Gay or straight. To possibly form friendships. AIso, mending the ones that I had. If it's not too late. We'll see.

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    Interesting...
    Technology is something else, right? Lol. I guess another reminder to watch you put out there. But, I loved your response and grateful that you did.

    *Side note-you got tired of your face avatar?
     
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    I turn 50 this Wednesday. Life is good but like everything else you have to work at it. Believe it or not; somethings actually get better with age.
     
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    Thanks man. Happy early b-day in case that I am not on here to tell you.
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    Yes. I was gonna be Lamar before the face pic thread came to be. I like to change things up.
     
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    This is my reality here.
    It's scary for me when I think about it so I try not to.

    I know I'm not old but I'm far from young.

    I only have one close relation left, my sister and I'm still taking care of and guiding her life.
    She, my niece and the dog keep me grounded and make me take care of myself because I know they need me.

    It'd be very easy for me to slip into old bad habits but I keep thinking about what would happen to them.

    There is no one that's gonna or can help me if time and life brings on problems, which being completely honest, I know is good because if I had some kind of safety net, I would take it for granted and slack.
     
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    I think we look at aging the wrong way. As I'm now approaching middle age I think aging a can be conquered. It's not a period of inevitable decline in which one has to become frail or a burden on family members or depend on the children to take care of you. These two brothers are an example of this both are in their 70s and still bodybuilding. They're in better shape than many men in the prime of life.



     
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    I think we look at aging the wrong way. As I'm now approaching middle age I think aging a can be conquered. It's not a period of inevitable decline in which one has to become frail or a burden on family members or depend on the children to take care of you. These two brothers are an example of this both are in their 70s and still bodybuilding. They're in better shape than many men in the prime of life.



     
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