Hasn't Been On A Date Since 1998?

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  1. mojoreece

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    Just to be clear... I'm not using / co-signing "gay" in a negative way.

    Just what I get from him and my impression of men I have interacted with on here. He is the type of kat I could easily see myself having non-superficial conversations with and hanging out with.

    If he was younger and light skin with one chest tattoo he would absolutely be @Nick Delmacy 's type.
     
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    Well, w ur long azz disclaimer, I guess I was saying, what makes u think he's basically a squad member (in a way where u meant no offense)...but then i stopped over thinking it lol
     
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    Neither was I. Im not racist.
     
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    Really? IDK Aside from the gay angle, I think the rest of the commentary was on point based on dude's original article from The Root and his interview.
     
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    Not one for generalisation, as camp people could very well be straight as an arrow but considering the subject matter of the piece and from 3:49 minutes of the video, one could very well be forgiven for concluding he is at the minimum, latently gay.

    More disturbing than his poor dating experience (besides the fact one wonders why he is putting his business out in public in the first instance), is that dreadfully hideous thing he has on.
     
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    Found another article that this
    8 Reasons You Might Still Be Single:

    1) Defenses
    2) Unhealthy Attractions
    3) Fear of Intimacy
    4) Pickiness
    5) Low Self-Esteem
    6) Fear of Competition
    7) Isolation and Routine
    8) Rule-making

    I think the key ones are

    6) Fear of Competition
    "We may feel unwilling to compete, particularly as we get older, and we start to have self-attacks like "You're time has passed, you're too old for this." Our fears of competition can lead us to avoid putting ourselves out there........ The simple truth is: dating is competitive. "

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    7) Isolation and Routine
    " It can feel harder to take risks or put themselves out there. After a long day's work, many of us may feel more like putting on pajamas and crawling into bed than going out into the uncertain and anxiety-provoking world of meeting people."

    I think the overall thing for gay (sgl) folk like us (me included lol) when dating got to get over fear and just put yourself out there and not get let down by negative experiences. Just chop it up (negative people/experiences) as there were just not for me and on to the next one. But we have to actually take ricks and intentionally put our self in situation where we are meeting other eligible single people. But @Nick Delmacy has already stated all of this in his previous post on dating though lol. Just food for thought.
     
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    I did find the part with expectations set up from others about your personal ideals in partners which is interesting. Similarly, people assume that because I speak Japanese and (some) Korean on top of Spanish, that my ideal mate would have to be Asian. I really don't have a racial preference and as I've gotten older I've found myself more and more attracted to intellectualism especially surrounding the umbrella of black studies--but I know that there's some people who are afraid to approach me because they think I'm just into rice (when I'm in the States).

    *edit* It interested me when he was talking about how he was perceived as preferring European women because of his studies and interests in Russian; despite being false.
     
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    Im as confused as Chloé
     
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