Have you ever dated an ugly dude?

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    I can't say that I have but I def would b/c some of them/you can be REALLY attractive if they/you can dress and have a nice body.

    Sometimes ugly dudes overcompensate though...They overdo the gym routine or they overdo the fashion thing to the point where they look like clowns.
     
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    Sorry. The upside is that everyone is unique when it comes to who/what they're attracted to. But if I'm not physically attracted to u, then it's a wrap.

    Ive tried being more 'open minded' in the past, and giving someone a shot on gp, but Im not w it. Its one thing for ur looks to not have been the original catalyst for us dating, but if I see u as 'ugly' (a term I dont like to use), Im gonna pass and hope u come to terms w how to stay in ur lane where ur more likely to find success.
     
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    I've dated a somewhat ugly dude before lol. He was a few years older than me so he was a little more established than I was as a Junior in college. I think I was a little more attracted to that rather than his looks. But looking back, anigif_enhanced-buzz-7804-1355426438-3.gif

    Never again!
     
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    Depends on what you mean by "ugly". Now that I think about it, all of my exes are ugly lol fuck 'em fuckboys
     
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    Lol I like how "f u c k" is sensored but fuckboys is not.

    I know myself well enough that there has to be some physical attraction. Not a model but you can't be completely busted. I can slide on your build but ideally your face is going to be in my face. You can't be invading my personal space looking like chewed up tobacco.
     
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    I just like people who are well-put together and who are not lunatics lol is that too much to ask in this gay and age??(pun intended)
    Trust me I have seen conventionally good looking dude who look like they just rolled out of a horse's mouth yuck.:lupe1:


    and yea, someone needs to check the regular expressions parsing the F word. Otherwise, edge cases like fboy will slide through.
     
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    I concur dude!
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    Ha! now I gotta find another way to break your system.:youngsabu:
     
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    I spent my very late teen-twenties in a long term relationship and didn't start actively dating until I hit 30.
    So when I did, I dated every type imaginable
    (as long as they weren't Caucasian)
    fat, balding, senior, below normal stature, above average weight,
    a very sweet transsexual who wasn't from Transylvania (hi-5 if you get that reference)
    poor, etc. etc. etc.
    I thought of it as my own little social experiment and i enjoyed Interacting with types of men I normally wouldn't have ever thought about before.
    I've always believed looks are secondary and don't last very long and that if you are attracted to what's inside of a person over the outside,
    you're more likely to find happiness...even if he Looks like something that should have been put down in a shelter.
     
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    Alright for the Rocky Horror reference lol. On topic, though, I've dated an ugly guy and felt so bad because otherwise he was wonderful. I just wasn't physically attracted to him but I gave it the good old college try.
     
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    Nope, anyone I'm dating would have to be in some way attractive. I'm not putting myself through something I know isn't going to work out.
     
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    About 10yrs ago, I messed around with this frat dude (blue&white) who wasn't my ideal type at all. Something about him was good for me at that moment, but it was just a fling so it really didn't matter anyway. That situation made me think though. Could I, long-term, date someone I really didn't find physically attractive? Or better yet, could I date someone that I KNOW my mom would side eye because he wasn't up to par in the handsome department but he made me feel good, secure, and we had great chemistry otherwise?
    :sucka:
     
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    I tend to be a be more compassionate and diplomatic with my choice of words and don't use "ugly" to describe a person's physical attributes. That said, I have dated someone who is not the most attractive person to the majority of people in the world. (Lol) But he was sexy in ways that I could appreciate, beyond his physical stature. (That's a concept worth exploring....a person doesn't have to be "beautiful" to be beautiful, or "attractive" to be sexy.) Part of his sexiness was his confidence and humility all wrapped up in one. For lack of a better way of putting it, he was the atypical "good catch," in every sense, with that one flaw, which is fatal to some. I know I'm not perfect, so I'm usually able to look beyond looks and physical attributes and date someone who is not as attractive. (But you still gotta be well put together and carry yourself with some swag and humility.)
     
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    My last relationship I found him attractive but I was definitely compromising on looks because he was very nice, consistent, and had other good qualities. Would I do it again? Probably not. However I date next I want to have that feeling of wanting to rip their clothes off again.
     
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    I've been called handsome and attractive but I'm not buying it, lol, I know I'm decent looking but def not 'bout to be no ones magazine model anytime soon. Having said that, I compensate in other ways by being a great conversationalist and dater, making the other dude super comfortable and at ease with me.

    To be honest, in my history of dating the best dudes have been the average looking guys. The "pretty boys" or very handsome men have either been vapid, narcissistic, lacking in conversation, lacking in culture, overly trendy and unusually obsessed with status and music/celebrity culture. This is a generalization but that's been my experience, albeit primarily in Atlanta. And my track record is comprised of about 95% masculine men, so the feminine thing wasn't a factor at all.

    I never believed that whole "personality can make a person sexy" until I started dating dudes in Atlanta and realized how sexy a dope convo can be, or someone that can tell a witty ass joke off the top of the dome or someone that you just enjoy being around, despite their looks. If I could be with that person for years on years remains to be seen, but I'm def open to it...

    Most overly attractive guys like the ones we post here on The Boards are too much work keep their attention. :shaq2:
     
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    I know a lot of people say "I don't have a type", but I truly don't have a physical type, so some of the dudes I've dated have stretched the gambit looks wise and some been a lot more attractive that others. I wouldn't call any of them ugly per say (well, maybe one back in HS, but we weren't "dating", no one knew, and I wasn't really doing anything to him...Nevermind), but my friends have let me know that they weren't the most attractive lol.

    I truly date off compatibility. The cuter ones cause the most problems lol. I don't even consider myself super attractive (but I know I'm not ugly) and I see how crazily dudes come at me, so dealing with someone who looked exponentially better than me could cause some insecurities in the beginning.
     
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    I really agree with you because as much as everyone gates to admit it attraction is a really big part to a successful relationship
     
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    I find that 'ugly' men are great in the sack. lol
     
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    I've dated a dude who in retrospect, probably wouldn't be considered attractive by most. But he was cute to me, and he had a nice shape, and an intense personality. Very passionate. Having said that, he was a rarity, the exception not the rule.
     
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    I have dated a guy that all of my friends considered less aesthetically pleasing. I tend to block him from my memory at times. His problem was he had bad skin, he was one of the unfortunate souls that didn't see a dermatologist before his face got permanently ruined. He was really funny though and he never seemed to have a problem pulling men despite his acne scars.
     
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    yes lol, my ex was cross eyed
     
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    So did I, but then I felt bad...lol
     
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    Rocky Horror! Happy 40th Anniversary to that classic. ;)
     
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    lol
    My friends generally say I date ugly guys...I can agree with them on maybe two guys out of my share...
    What I can say about the "ugly" guys I've dated though is that they have all been brilliant, sweet, loving, guys. And as a bonus, they tend to be "sexperts". ;)
    I learn a LOT from their smarts and as a result, I grow TREMENDOUSLY. I love that.
    I tend to like them big, strong, caring, honest and smart. The face is secondary tbh. Take care of yourself and just don't look like like Freddy Krueger and we're good. lol
     
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