How do you start conversation with someone at the gym?

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  1. Nicholan

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    I've read a handful of dating blogs in the past catered to same-gender-loving men. One place that makes everyone's dating list as a means of meeting someone is THE GYM.

    I personally love the gym. I've been going for years. Ideally, I think it would be a great place to meet someone because everyone there has a common goal. In theory, the gym would be a good place to meet friends, people you may know in passing, and dates. However, I never seem to meet anyone.


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    This could absolutely be something on MY PART, so I'm open to the idea of me doing something wrong.

    Let's skip the friends part, although I'm definitely open to that to, and focus on dating. I've seen plenty of guys who I am attracted to at the gym. But as far as interaction, I never even know where to start!

    Do you guys have any tips?
     
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    Yeah man, there are some sexy dudes at the gym. I also would like to know how. I never met someone at the gym and dated them. I only had some young twink leave a note with his number on my car windshield. I'm guessing you don't want to do that, lol

    I made some gym friends along the way and some of them were nice looking. I think they were all straight. They never did or say anything to suggest they were down. I know you said "skip friends part" But you might have to start out as friends first especially if you don't know if he is even into dudes. Are you noticing sexy gym dude is checking you out a lot, have you seen him at a gay club?

    Just like in other settings, you have to somehow be brave enough to break the ice which is probably the hardest part. Maybe if you want to use equipment next to sexy gym dude you can ask "hey is anyone using this?" Then judge by his response to see if he is open to more conversation. If he likes you too, he probably will be. But l would say keep conversation short some people don't like to have their workout interrupted. Maybe try to strike up a conversation during a time he is taking a break, like at the bubbler, stretching, or after his workout and he is at the juice bar, or some gyms have tv's and there's a game on and he's watching some if it. Try to find an opportunity where you can have a conversation about something. And it may take several conversation, but, but build a gym friendship.

    I'm not sure if this was any help, but that's the best I got. lol

    Or if the gym has wi-fi see if any of the sexy gym dudes are on grindr or jack'd.
     
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    This was great advice actually! Thanks!

    See, like you said, it's difficult because lots of guys come off as if they are so focused on working out that they don't have time to talk to anybody new lol.

    And yes, you're right, it would have to start as a friendship so that I could feel things out.

    I may have to practice with someone who I'm NOT attracted to first just to get my feet wet. Haha

    Thanks again for your insight!
     
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    This dude tried to get at me in the showers today - talk about "no thanks" (older, like olldderrr, man)

    @Apollo That was actually solid advice. The dudes who want to be approached create moments for folks to approach them. I'm actually one of those dudes that will stop in between sets and watch game highlights, CNN, etc for a lil second.

    At any rate, I understand where you're coming from because I don't approach guys in the gym for same reasons - I do try to be near them when it makes sense during my workout though lol. Wish I had something substantial to actually contribute.

    Edit: motherfuckeres at the gym be fine af with booties and prints...don't make no sense smh
     
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    That's a good point about guys who are open to being approached making moments. See, you did have something substantial to contribute. Lol :)
     
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    There are legit fine men at my regular gym. However, I don't want to really approach them there primarily because I know that it would get awkward if things didn't work out and I see they are with a gym crush that wasn't paying me no kinda mind. lol SO I kinda keep the gym it's own thing. Now, my non regular gym branches would be different but I'm not sure how that would work because I wouldn't just randomly talk to another dude at the gym as I'm really focused on my workout and phone.

    However, you can usually ask a dude to spot you on bench press and they'd be glad to help, if not, they a asshole and avoid them. lol

    But even if you don't need the help, you can ask and most dudes obliige. At least your head will be near his crotch. You can also ask a guy when he's doing abs to explain the movement and what's improvement he seen. After his set, just lead with "Hey man, excuse me, I know you're busy but can I ask you about this exercise?"

    Plus, look for the 'gay tells'. Equal sign tattoos, subtle pride shirts, pink tennis shoes, etc. Also check the apps and A4A.
     
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    Haha...thanks!
     
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    The crazy part about this post is, I want the opposite lol When I'm in the gym, I want to focus on running my 5 miles but there is ALWAYS a guy trying to talk to me and I get annoyed because I get lost in my music lol Maybe it's the compression pants, maybe the way I walk on the treadmill or the fact that I'm not giving them attention but they ALWAYS come. Try smiling more and not being stand-offish or wear something sexy. I'm sure you'll have no issue finding what you want :diddydatazz:
     
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    Lol! @ "wearing something sexy"
     
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    they must not be attractive cause ppl don't complain when it's a cutie! when they're not your type, then they're buggin you, calling too much or interrupting your work out

    and i love how you low key just told us your milkshake brings all the boys to the yard lol #compressionpants #datwalkshawty

     
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    I also caught that humblebrag but I wasn't going to say anything but now that you have .....
     
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    You broke this down to a science lmao
     
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    Not THIS pamphlet!
     
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    @Nicholan :umad:Its all in your walk

    Just copy what Zeke's doing:
    • confident, nonchalant stank walk,
    • football crop top,
    • compression leggings,
    • n a lil towel booty bounce
    All in this video lol:youngsabu:


    Oh they will want to talk.....
    Have em looking like:johnwall: .. "Hey breh how's ur workout going?":):D haaah lol
     
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    LOLOL! This legit made me laugh.

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    I mean, I can't help that the squats are blessing a brotha lol @ControlledXaos Don't cosign this madness lol
     
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    The last guy I dated I met in the gym. I actually met him on an "app", but I approached him when we discovered we both went to the same gym. We dated for 3 months and it went to sh*t.
    I was at the gym for almost 2 years, but after I ended it with him, I never wanted to see him again so I left MY gym in order to avoid awkward encounters.
    I wish I never dated someone that went to a gym I really enjoyed.
    My advice is only date guys that go to your "rotating" gyms and not your main one.
     
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    That's a good point
     
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