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Discussion in 'Dating and Relationships' started by ControlledXaos, Sep 24, 2015.

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  1. I'm keeping my last name

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  2. I'm taking my spouse's name

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  3. We will hyphenate names

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  4. We will create a new surname

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  1. ControlledXaos

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    Or Who's Last Name?

    So I was talking to a coworker who said that his wife was making a big deal about taking his last name once they were married which got me thinking about what would be the case for two guys?

    I'm keeping my last name. But I know many same sex couples hyphenate. What would you do and why?
     
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    Hyphenate: It's a union.
     
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    I would hyphenate as I would view us as equals and thats part of the package.
     
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    I'd keep my name...if he chose to add it onto his, that's his choice...I'm not a stickler though, he could keep his own name if he wanted...If we had a kid or adopted one, I'd be down for a hyphenate or new combined name for the child.
     
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    Have no clue, but I think the amalgamation thing is cool, although although a part of me feels like I would be turning my back on my family.
     
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    I love my last name so much that I would want to share it lol. But with the hyphenation thing, people will automatically know you're gay. To each his own if you want to be out like that because most people don't just have a hyphenated last name.
     
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    I'm ok with hyphenation, it all depends. I'm extremely fond of my last name too so if we have kids hopefully the hyphenated surname won't be too long. Don't want my babies struggling in Kindergarten lol
     
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    Mmmm I'd have to keep my last name. My parents only had me and my sister sooo If I change it then it would disappear. I'd be down to hyphenate if we had kids but I can't change mine.
     
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    I don't think hyphenated names are an automatic red flag to someone's sexuality. Hyphenated last names are very common in Hispanic communities. My own last name is hyphenated, and even though I usually just use my Dad's name because it's easier.
     
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    I would probably go with hyphenated so that I could keep my own name. I definitely wouldn't change my last name completely to his and wouldn't be opposed to us having two different last names.
     
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    Like what was said above I would keep my own last name and wouldn't mind him keeping his own.
     
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    Wow I grew up around Hispanics (mostly Mexicans) but never noticed hyphenation. I saw it sometimes but not really. I do know that some Africans have hyphenated names as well.

    I know that if I were to EVER hyphenate my name for anyone, it would have to be with an African man (more so West African) because it will look really weird to have an Euro-centric surname next to my West African surname. Just my opinion.
     
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    I would hyphenate my name. My last name is family history, so I can't dismiss that. That's where I stand.
     
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    Hyphenated seems best
     
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    If I were closer with my paternal side, I would have, but I'm not so I don't mind changing my last name.
     
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    i like the idea off all new last names, in a way its like we're starting our own new lineage, that will most likely end with us, but the thought sounds good.
     
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    Well for me after going to the Million Man March and hearing Minister Farrakhan speak about how slave owners branded us with names I would be down to change my name to something we both agree on totally different. However, being the last known male in my family carrying the family name, I don't know how I would feel when that child(ren) come around.
     

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