I'm Saying Though...Closed Mouths Don't Get Fed.

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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    I imagine dating in Atlanta and dating in Los Angeles are two very different beasts.
     
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    How so?
     
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    Speaking from my experience, the main area's that are considered "gay" are predominately white; Hollywood, Long Beach, Santa Monica, etc. So, black people don't really gather in those places, but I don't know where they do.

    I've already told you about the whole older men ordeal, most of my friends are older so they don't party.

    Meeting quality gay black men here is not as simple as walking out the door.
     
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    Its not that easy here in Atlanta either. But I don't think staying in the house works either. Black gay men don't go to the gym in LA? They don't shop for groceries?
     
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    I'm not saying its easy, I'm saying it's probably easier if black people are your aim. Yeah black dudes do all that, but they give you that "how dare you approach me" kind of look. Unlike the gay black mecca that Atlanta is known to be, LA has no main black scene like that. So many people I've known have moved to Atlanta because of it. Even I've contemplated moving there as well.
     
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    Yeah maybe its the circles and people you know...I just find it really hard to believe that as much as the entertainment industry is associated with gay men, there aren't many black gay men in Los Angeles, the entertainment capitol of the world.
     
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    Any black person I've meet wants to be a part of the entertainment industry it seems. Everyone want to be a dancer, rapper, singer, model, etc. Which is fine I guess.

    I'll put it like this, all the more masculine leaning men I know don't really do anything and are all so secretive and private about their lives. Like if I don't ask them if they're dating they won't simply tell me. Basically to meet the most black people, one would have to subject themselves to hanging out with queens and divas on a consistent basis.
     
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    Kinda the same shi!t here in NYC. To @Nick Delmacy 's point, yeah, Gay Masc dudes buy groceries, go to the gym, go to Barnes & Noble, buy pet food, probably even work in the building with me, but you'de rarely know because we all give each other the "Ice Grill". The dudes that do visually express interest, are (at least for me) generally not what I'm lookin' for. LOL
     
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    Hmmm, you guys act like Atlanta is over flowing with masc dudes who bend over if you just look at them. It's work no matter where you live, you just gotta be brave and tenacious. In my opinion. To each his own tho.
     
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    I hear what you're saying @Nick Delmacy. Just seems like a cruel joke of fate that there are so many potentials on here for probably everyone, but we are all miles apart.
     
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    Some of them shop for groceries in the gym. :sass2:
     
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    Yup @Nick Delmacy , this is a lesson I had to learn in my earlier years. It really does take bravery. Me living living in a Metropolitan City I usually meet potentials on the subway, cafes and bars.
     
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    I say this abt NY ALL THE DAMN TIME. Ppl assume big city means big opportunities, but the blk gay visibility/presence in ny pales in comparison to a place like atl.
     
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    I think it all depends on what you are looking for. I know for me in Richmond it is a lot of guys I am interested in, but it always is my luck that the feeling is not mutual.
     
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    Well guys have to be visible. Gay in Atlanta can be found all across the metro area. There's known gay hotspots in every city but I do think that Atlanta as the square mile visibility thing on lock.

    I also think men are more comfortable here with their sexuality. LA and NYC are big cities but I think there's plenty of areas where many gay men probably wouldn't feel comfortable with everyone knowing. I don't get that in Atlanta. But Georgia is still the south and I'm sure those that can 'turn it off' do so as soon as they leave the Atlanta metro area.
     
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    But yea, we dont even have a 7 day a week blk gay spot. We get 'nights'.
     
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    Even when they do come out; the majority forget to leave the resting B face at home...
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    Yup, and even those have dwindled down to nothing.
     
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    Im like, can we just get 1 blk gay bar so that I don't have to pretend I'm having fun on Fri n Sat at the clubs w the 21 year olds, n drink my drank in peace?!
     
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    Hell even Columbus had a full time black gay bar back in the day. Acceptance is destroying us lol
     
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    Yeah man, the "ethnic" spots used to be relatively abundant. Warehouse and Mi Casa (BX), Krash (Qns), and some other random spots I frequented on whims. But you missed all that because you was in that closet with all them fabulous clothes LOL!!
     
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    Yea. Idk abt the fab clothes part, but I was def in a damn closet.

    N idk why langstons isnt open every night, but all of his str8 bars are open ev day.

    Found a random blk owned bar on franklin last wkend w a blk gay bartender, n a mixed crowd of literally 20/30/40/50s straights n gays. I went the other day on a night off, and it was closed. At 6 pm. Prime Happy hour time. Smh
     
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    I haven't been to "Langston's" in years, but from what I remember, it sucked anyways. They were aight waaay back when they had the skrippa's. I don't think there's a lot of "black" establishments because the land lords and real estate brokers make it next to impossible for us to to even rent spots, especially for entertainment, and then when we do manage to get them, it's usually in a f@#ked up, "back alley" spot that muhfuk@z gotta travel 100 miles to get to, and the rent is so ridiculous that they dont end up lasting long before they close down. Frankly, I'm surprised "Langston's" has lasted as long as it has.
     
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    Yea, Ive only been 2x, but the owner has a really reputable history. He own's both Mo's (str8, ironically) and Bedford Hall (also str8). He's gay n his str8 spots are the only one's open 7 days a week.
     
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    And when I say 'closed', I mean CLOSED, maybe permanently. It was just crazy because 2 days before I dropped by, was super bowl sunday, n they were promoting a big super bowl party.

    Health dept prob came for that azz...
     
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    Smh. What other venues were around it/ Sound like maybe someone(s) were plottin' to close them down, like "Beauty Shop" LOL

     
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    The funny part about your comment, is that there are like 3 other blk/carib restaurants within 3 blocks of them on that Franklin Ave strip. Lol
     
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