QUESTION OF THE WEEK: $250 and Up...How Much Do You Spend On A Gay First Date?

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    That's way too much money for a date, I would spend that amount for an anniversary or some important shit like that.
     
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    Right now, unfortunately I am on the broke side lol...I'll try to put away at least $100 or more for a nice night out with the boyfriend, but it could be less (he's in the same boat, so he's pretty understanding). On a first date, it can vary between $50 and $200 (I don't think I've ever spent over $200 on a first date).
     
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    Guys, I'm late to this, and this is my first post, but two things: What's the problem with actually inviting another guy out on a date, as in, "Can I take you out for dinner Friday night?"? Are we afraid of appearing too gay? Too White? Also, I think that spending a huge amount of money (more than $100) sets you up for spending that kind of money in the future (what are you gonna do for the second date?). Also, what if the other person is expected to pay that type of money when it's his turn, and he can't afford it?
     
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    So I asked some random heterosexual white people this question and they all said, "Hell Fuck No!" to the $200 and up first date... But admittedly none of them were Richard Gere in "Pretty Woman" ballers...just regular men and women. Even one woman said that a $5-8 first date at a coffee spot is the most that should be spent. One dude said no more than $45 per person...he said that even $50 per person was outrageous for a first date, so $45 was the cap, lol.
     
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    50 dollars maximum for a first date. I once had a guy that was blowing so much money on the first date to impress me and it actually even turned me off.
     
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    Welcome to posting man! I don't think its a big deal at all to ask someone out on a date w the intent to treat. I just think a lot of guys typically try to avoid the str8 gender dating roles, so are more adamant abt goin dutch.
     
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    I don't believe in putting minimums or maximums on dates. I do whatever feels right/comfortable. I've gone on some free dates where we came with our own snacks & just walked the beach for hours and talked. I've also treated a guy to an Outkast concert and a pretty nice dinner afterward. The former we stayed together for about 6 months, whereas the latter... lol. Me and that guy ended up not going past 2 dates. It's fine, I don't regret either of em.

    I do think it's CRAZY to expect multiple c-notes to be dropped in on the first date. If you judge a guy by the type of date or how much of his wallet he opened/didn't open, then that says more about you. Dates are meant to create experience and foster bonding. The best things in life truly are free, so you really don't need a lavish meal to get to the best part of knowing someone. Those things are great, but so are picnics at the park, laying out on the beach or long walks. Folks gotta get off their damn high horses.
     
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    Yeah, as a student dates for us are not as expensive. But I think that's a good thing, because it allows us to focus more on the conversation that is being had at the table and less on the price of the check. Also I agree with the person who said "date within your mean". If you have a rough week and all you can afford in Wendy's, that's cool with me...
     
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    Nick, I'm with you bruh. I don't come to a date on an empty stomach. In my mind, you should be more reserved in terms of spending on a first date. No matter how much you make. I learned my lesson in that regard. I took a girl on a date once and spent about $150 between the two of us. And she ended up being pretty obnoxious. If I had the chance to do it all over again, I'd have spent half that. The first date is about getting to know a person one-on-one in various public settings. It shouldn't be about letting someone know how lavishly you can spend for a night on the town. Problem is some folks might get accustomed to that and keep you in their back pocket because of it. The moment you downgrade from Mr. Chow's to TGI Fridays, they'll probably stop returning your text messages. Honestly, I prefer to go dutch on a first date. I just went on a second date with a dude a few nights ago and we took turns covering the bill each place we went. No one felt pressured or "owed" anything. That set the tone for us to just enjoy each other's company. Doing it big should be reserved for special occasions.
     
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    Even when I was married, we saved the big expenses for special occasions. Takeout by candle light and good conversation can be a phenomenal date. Live within your financial means.. even when dating. I'm more impressed with an individuals ability skill in saving and financial planning for the future then their wallet/assets
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    Dating is a new thing for me and I do believe in getting to know a person without breaking the bank. I don't mind paying for a date only if I feel there may be a second but I truly feel you should go dutch on a first date.
     
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