Self Control Challenge

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  1. ctforbes

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    Sup guys?

    It's my first official thread, so I figured I'd share a challenge with the group. I'm in an open, long distance relationship with my girlfriend of 4 years, and we're both Scorpios (i.e have really high sex drives). Needless to say, we're both bi, have regional fuck buddies, and often enjoy porn together from time to time.

    What was the challenge you ask? No sexual stimulation whatsoever for 7 days straight (meaning no porn, no buddies, no masturbation, etc.), earning a "free-for-all" on the 8th day. The catch? Each time we slip up, we owe the other $20/incident, with a goal to double the "no-go" period after each free-for-all is met.

    A little random/crazy, I know, but the whole idea came about after we both felt we might be too reliant on sexual energies/release as a form of de-stressor and were curious about sex/porn addiction. We felt this would be a fun way to test our self control and learn more about each others kinks at the same time.

    What's the longest you've gone without ANY sexual stimulation (temptation/distraction)? Have you and your partner ever challenged one another similarly? Any squad members down to try something like this via the Boards?

    Have at it below, an be nice please lol!
     
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    First I had to take this in you came in the gate guns blazing bro! Lmao! No seriously four years and it's working for you both do your thing. Perhaps isn't everyone's move but aye.

    To answer your questions...

    The longest I've ever been without any stimulation period was 6 months... The longest I haven't had sex is now which next month will make a year.


    I have had that challenge in a relationship where it was built on sex and then emotions sort of happened. She wanted to make sure I wasn't sticking around just to have on call so she put me on sexual ice for about a month. I will say it got us to open up and know one another more and when it did go down again it made for an uhhhhh interesting night.

    I would as I'm not in a relationship so I have no immediate temptations.
     
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    A period of a few months, maybe 6. However, I was taking some medication at the time and decreased sex drive was a possible side effect. The longest I've been without any stimulation, even solo, without that caveat may be a couple of weeks. Never challenged a partner.
     
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    Open, long-distance relationship? How does that work?
     
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    Without any self sexual stimulation-2 weeks. Without actual sex-year. Me and my ex just dwindled down to roommates towards the end of the relationship.The way my life is currently it may be 2 years. I am just sticking to taking care of myself until I come across anyone that I would want to have fun with. No challenge-not my thing. I can't wait to hear what the others say. I like the fact that you bringing up a different view on here.
     
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    Commenting to say congratulations on your first thread but Nooo I don't think I'm up for the challenge...
    [​IMG]
    Good luck though!
     
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    It fucking doesn't
     
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    Like any other relationship honestly. We call, talk, text daily. Visit/spend time with one another regularly. The only difference is that we both can see others as we please, or connect with other bi couples when we want to share the fun together.

    It def aint for everybody, but it DOES work, especially for us. Its all a matter of how well you and your partner communicate/trust one another.
     
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    For a challenge I could probably do this easily since I can quit most things cold turkey. Plus ain't nobody knocking at my door anyway so can't miss what you're not getting.
     
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    LOL Man, this is sooo easy for me...I have a super high sex drive but I'm also a paranoid hypochondriac who fears HIV, Herpes, HPV, etc...

    As for self stimulation, I can def keep my hands off...

    Also, I'm just not pressed... I wrote a post about this too, I think there are MANY men, straight and gay, who are not having sex that often, not as often as they claim at least.

    That Time I Was "Reverse Slut Shamed" By A Black Gay Man

    And many of those dudes NOT having sex every other day lie about it because they think that all the other guys they see ARE having sex every other day. So they want to fit in...

     
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    UPDATE: For full transparency, we technically started this challenge on Thursday and I already owe her $60. I made it three days strong cold turkey, but this 3day weekend has me stuck on a "idle hands, idle minds" loop SMDH
    :mjlol:
     
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    If this is a board challenge, money is on this guy for the win.
    A "master of his own domain" and an expert on abstention.

    I admit I find self gratification relaxing and stress relieving but I'm disciplined enough that can keep my hands off of Spock for extended periods of time.
     
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    I ain't tryna knock you. I've been through that and I guess it's not for me. But then at the same time I don't even think I can blame the failure on the open-long distance thing, it's the individual that I was dealing with that was fucked up.
     
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    I didn't have a choice, but I went over a year without stimulation and 3 years without sex. (Had some serious health issues in my mid 20s.) On my own, I've gone as long as a month without jacking off and recently 14 months without sex, got me some, then went another year without.
     
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    I recently went 8 days w/o j/o after another squad member told me he was on like, day, 22, but i failed on day 9...

    As for sex, I can, and usually do, go months at a time
     
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    This is interesting. I see you all as my peers - in terms of being Gay Black men and this is weird to me at how many people can restrain from sexual stimulation. I have never gone more than 3 days without masturbating. As for sex, I get more gratification out of jacking off than sex when I am in a relationship (i know, i think its weird too) so I have gone weeks without sex when in a relationship and about 3 months when not in a relationship.

    But - barring sickness, I just cannot imagine a male who does not bust one a few times a week. Im I alone of just weird?
     
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    I've gone probably 6 months to a year during the latter part of my marriage with no stimulation. I did have 1 or 2 wet dreams, bu those don't count.
     
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    You'd be surprised. I don't think of it as weird so much as everybody's libidinous urges are different. I've always had a higher urge for gratification in warmer weather, like spring to fall and less so during winter weather.
    Psychologically I'm dead below the waist when my Sister and Niece are staying with me, which have been weeks to months long visits.
     
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    I feel u. I only went so long becus it was a personal challenge for myself. But normally, myvidster n i have a very active relationship. Eventho w that i've consciously cut back a lil cus i dont wana become one of the guys who cant function w/o porn. Thats a lot more common than ppl realize.
     
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    I have never had a wet dream. I have gone without sex for over a year twice in my life. Months usually between sex.

    I'm an active domain master. No more than 4 days recently. Around that time, morning wood is too often. I have woken up because of night wood and had trouble getting back to sleep. It just wouldn't go down on its own. The only thing that would let me rest was to rub it out.
     
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    Okay. I am starting to become a little self conscious about this now and have thought about it for the better part of the afternoon. I was talking to a good friend of mine this afternoon and he told me that he too can go for months without even jacking off. I asked why - he started talking about Jesus and creation and sin and I hung up on his ass. I am going to explore this further, talk to some more people and get back with y'all on this... I just thought everyone did it everyday like me.
     
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    This. :deadmanny:
     
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    Please. I already "mentally" lost this challenge before I even got to the bottom of the thread. And when I get home, this is gonna be me...
    I'M OUT!!!
    [​IMG]

    and I apologize in advance for using a "Kramer" gif, but it's the only one I could find that referred to the "no masturbating" Seinfeld episode.
     
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    "he started talking about Jesus and creation and sin and I hung up on his ass"
    LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm right on the floor beside @SB3 with this one!!!
     
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    This was one of the realest episodes they had. I think so many people related to this one. Lol
     
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    The longest I've gone without masturbating was a month, my senior year of high school (which was also the year Katrina hit and changed everything for me). Due to this, I had my first ever wet-dream. First I freak out cause I thought I peed on myself lol. That's when I realized stopping all together was dumb because my body was going to get it's release anyway. Next time I went 3-weeks, had another wet dream. So I'll never actively deprive myself anymore, but I will cut back if I feel like it's distracting me.

    The longest I've gone without intercourse was a year, I did that twice actually.
     
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