Should I explore my Ex-turbation?

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  1. Omega Level

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    So I have this thing I do that I never really explored. I love porn as well as porn tumblr blogs of naked men. Having a very vivid imagination, I can easily jack off to naked pictures and develop a whole story in my head that eventually gets me off.

    However, for some time now many of my masturbation episodes without porn or blogs have been me thinking of my ex or men I have dated in the past on a close to serious level.

    I wondered is this is something any of you do as well?

    When it comes to my ex or past dates, the sex was usually off the chain. In fact it may have been one of the only things we were actually really good at. But I can also admit that while I love sex, I love intimacy sex more. When you are really into someone your either in love with or infatuated by, the sex is just intense.

    So having said that maybe what is getting me off when I masturbate about my ex and past dates is not only the hot sex, but how I felt having sex with them.

    You think I may still be hung up on these dudes more than sex? (gawd I hope not) :snoop:
     
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    I think it's normal to draw from past sexual experiences when masturbating without porn. It's natural. You have to find a way to arouse yourself and your memory bank is the best way to do that. It's filled with memories of one night flings, but also if we're being realistic, if you had a longterm partner, you obviously had sex with them on a regular basis and that's going to be a huge chunk of your sexual memory as well. I don't think that's really different from porn. You don't necessarily want to go out and marry the dudes you see in a porn video. Likewise, just because you think about sex with your ex doesn't necessarily mean you want to get back with them.
     
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    I have definitely gone into the memory bank to dig up some hot times with exes or flings. It's a little more freeing too since I can embellish in my mind's eye and because I'm reliving it and not bring programmed by porn, I can be more relaxed, don't have to be in a position to watch the screen, remember smells and tastes from before.
     
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    Maybe you just need something to get off on, and maybe the memory of being with them just helps you get off. Doesn't mean you miss being with them or want to get with them. As long as it's not a habit, I personally don't think it's too bad, especially if you're single. (I hope I don't shoot myself in the foot feeling the same way someday) but with me you're okay.
     
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