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  1. Lancer

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    I don't know why but this is annoying to me. He's still posting thirst trap pictures on a daily basis I'm sure so he's not learned much from being dismissed. The attention is like a drug and folk can't get enough of it no matter how much they receive.
     
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    It's ironic that he's become one of those tumblr/ig dudes he was talking about. But I can't blame him. Hell if I had a body like that prob due the same. 100dap

    He overall seems like a really nice person. He's one of the few people i see that I actually like his tattoos.
     
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    I don't know who this young is but damn, that body is ridiculous. What's his story? I can't watch the video as I don't have headphones and I'm with fam
     
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    When he 1st came out he basically got validation w/ himself through meetups anyone that had interest in him he had sex with. He also would compare himself to tumblr/ig models. Then realized this was wrong and just worries about what makes him happy.... fitness/working out for health, living his best life now etc.
     
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    don't hate the player, hate the game.

    i never fully buy the fitness argument, the same way i rarely buy a woman's suggestion that "i'm only dressing like this for myself". but i'm all for freedom of choice: he can set daily thirst traps and navigate the potential shallow friendships and relationships that often come with it. we make choices. we live with our choices. we make new ones.

    he isn't the most, shall i say, butch or attractive guy out there. if muscularity is how he attained self confidence in our culture of consumption and disposal, then i say, don't hate the player, hate the game. in my experience, everyone derives confidence from smthng and markets themselves based on it: dudes lead with their resume #datingindc, their education, their dick size, their cuteness, their money, their style/ wardrobe, their masculinity, you name it. some things, like muscles, just pop more on IG than other traits. looks like he even spun that phatty into a modeling career. get ya money, shawty. #nohateration
     
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    I agree with you. I can understand wanting to be in shape for your health but people don't bodybuild for themselves. It's an aesthetic. Inherently, you like it because other people like it and it's seen as favorable.
     
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    Your first paragraph is on point. When I first came out I immediately realized going to the gym and getting fit would be a boon if I wanted to be out in the gay scene. It's never really just about health. If that's the case alotta these fit dudes wouldn't be out raw dogging but I digress. He also mentioned how people would see him mainly thirst trap but there's more to him. That's all well and good but if he wants others to see that side post more non half naked pics and ur interests. That ain't getting the likes though so I get it. But if he is happy what can I really say more power to him. His skin tone and ass are amazing definitely body goals.
     
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    Agreed. Its like when straight men get back tattoos. Those are not for them, they are for other people to look at while they walk around shirtless like peacocks.

    As far as the dude in the video, I need to see him with the "good guy" with an average body before I buy his new found awakening. Like @RolandG said, he still projects the image/behavior that he said was unfulfilling and attracted the wrong type of guys.
     
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    There are SO many layers to this, as many here have mentioned. Honestly, I think he has to repackage the message he is trying to get across by covering up a little. Folks coming to his page are NOT going to look deeper, its insta! 98% of your photos are you barely clothed or in some form of nudity, c'mon! Folks will only be in his DM's looking to F**k, no matter how well they mask their intentions.
    Also, and I might be wrong but I think I am 85% correct, he gives me 'I mostly date/hook up white guys' vibe. Just from the finding them on Tumblr+the Grindr( predominantly white)+additional research. lol
    This just shows its a tough gay world out there, even tougher for a black gay dude:(

    THAT BAWDDDY THOUGH!!!
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    I don't know of many personal trainers who are balling out. Just want to know what type of money these guys are bringing in and how because I just want to get in on this low responsibility/high disposable income and time gig myself.

    One thing to keep in mind is that they probably take 50 shots before posting the perfect one and most of them only show the positive things going on, not the struggle or hoe shit they had to do to get something.some guys just ask if they can photo shoot in someone else's penthouse room.

    That being said even if I had a rocking body I would not show it off all the time. Like a little mystery. There's guys I have seen butt ass naked on Tumblr and unfollowed their ig because I saw what I wanted. ButI uunfollowed a bunch of people anyway recently so... There's that lol
     
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    One thing the muscular fem guy in video said that I feel is actually good advice is to unfollow and delete all social media accounts that add to the feelings of insecurity or being inadequate, especially in the gay community.

    Coincidently a guy I follow on social media recently posted this:
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    Shyd, take it one step further and delete/block all those random/late responding dudes from your phone. They leave you feeling needy and inadequate too. LOL
     
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    Now why he gotta be muscular AND fem in your description? LMAO. See, if this was the old Discreet City, black fem twitter would be all over yo ass.
     
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    So you trying to say you wouldn't hit it?
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    Actually I wouldn’t. Too muscular. Would be like having sex with a granite statue. I need some cushion for the pushin’...
     
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    I DO NOT BELIEVE YOU!!!!!

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    As mentioned.... I unfollowed every account that wasn't following me on IG. There was so much noise I couldn't see photos of people I actually knew. I like a good thirst trap every now and then but seeing these guys with nice bodies, on trips, shopping and 'living their best lives' can get you in your head wondering "why not you." I still have some traps but at least they are following me too so it's mutual at least even without a "like"

    It definitely affected me and my body image issue following those guys. I wasn't feeling motivated or even "fitspo" to work out by looking at them.maybe that works for some people but I was working out before I had an IG account and rediscovered that my inspiration comes from within. I am the only one who will be angry/disappointed/down if a shirt is too tight on the middle or pants won't button and no one can work out or eat right for me.

    We all like " likes " I think and it is nice to see the notification. Especially when it's from new people or you gain a "real follower. "
     
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    I loled at that too.

    The shade of it all. Lol
     
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    Ocky will tell you, I’ve rejected them hard body dudes right in front of him.

    Sex with them be like:

     
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    You know I have heard people say something like this on multiple occasions. The "people only show positive things going on" on social media etc.

    While I totally think the shit of using someones else's penthouse or car for instagram pictures is lame as fuck, I as a person who looks at instagram DEFINITELY only want to see the positive side of a persons life. Keep the negative shit to yourself, I give zero fucks.

    Dont get me wrong, its nice to see the process. For instance the behind the scenes of a photoshoot / someone getting ready or even someone cooking and the later finished beautiful dish. But I could careless about seeing someone at a damn funeral, a dead body, or a posting of a breakup, drug addiction etc.

    I focus on the positive and looking at people living their "best lives" on instagram whether its surface level or not inspires me to find mine. Which should be what instagram could be best used as.

    If all you feel is what you lack when you see people living very well with good looks and great bodies maybe a person should challenge themselves to be inspired and shift their point of view.
     
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    I'm guilty of it too. I have had a rough week but my IG posts ... I don't think I looked much better.inside though was turmoil..but I'm not a trap so I there's that. I can take a photo of a random thing Because I don't need the lense to be focused on me. I like togtake photos of what's around me.I'm not attractive enough to have a following, so since I know hardly anyone cares, I have freedom to post what I want.

    Some of the guys I used to follow were starting to get so desperate for a few likes that it was starting take them unattractive.

    I like people to be genuine.
     
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    I made a conscious decision to not follow accounts on IG that would make me feel insecure or view men as only sexual objects when I first got on IG last year. I really limit what I expose myself to and make myself my main priority when it comes to my physical, emotional and mental wellness.
     
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