Thoughts? Should/Do you treat your dude like this?

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    ...on a different note, I'm always a lil jittery when somebody comes up behind me. Them streets done ruined me for life. :birdman:
     
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    I think it makes perfect sense, as long as its a 2 way street.
     
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    The way this whole thing is worded it feels like that quote was intended for a woman and somebody just copy and pasted it. I may be new at this, but you cares about whether or not you cook for your man!? Do traditional female roles really apply that much that it's necessary to make this??
     
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    oh yeah it was mos def copied from a meme I'm sure was for women, just wondering who agreed or disagreed.
     
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    Well in that case sign me up!

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    I agree 100% lol I suck at massages though.....but I'll try!
     
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    This is some bitch-made shit...real talk :rudy:
     
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    This was definitely intended for a 50s hetero relationship. I'm not trying to be no wife to no dude. You scratch my back, I scratch yours. That's ideal.
     
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    Exactly! Was I the only one who didnt interpret it literally? I thought some parts went w/o saying..
     
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    I'm doing all this while that same bitter single braud is fucking the man that I've decided to be a slave for.. Okay.
     
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    :sabu: so you saying you wouldn't do any of this for yo man? Come on dude.
     
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    Ni@@as like...fuck this bytch shit LMAO
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    look its 2015.:khart1: We both work. we are both tired. we are both are hungry.:feedme: We can order out food. :sass2:Yeah and I don't clean up after grown people.:ufdup:Now the love and pray part I can do. Its about equality not hetro normative roles.
     
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    That shyt is gay, and not the good kind of gay. Just my opinion. To each his own.
     
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    LMAO!

    Yes! Treat your man like a king, if he is WORTHY. At least that's what I take from it. And give him bomb head (no teeth, all suction) DAILY!
     
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    Maybe its just me, but as someone who lived w my partner for years, I don't see anything strange. He cooked sometimes, I cooked sometimes. He cleaned sometimes, I cleaned sometimes. Certainly wasnt heteronormative compliance in our eyes.
     
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    I like this idea in the meme. It was made by a woman for a man I think but yeah. Do like Destiny's Child say...



    I agree with @SB3 that both parties should just do it for each other. Heterosexuals do the same thing. Men may do it by providing material things and security for the females. Then females may do it by providing the massages and the home cooked meals. Homosexuals can do it in whatever way works for their respective relationship.
     
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    I hate when people try apply heteronormative gender roles and relationship rules to homosexual relationships. That said I think you should make your mate feel special and meat his needs. But he should also do the same for you. I think the key to making a gay relationship work is to share household duties, and adjust according to the strengths and weaknesses of your partner. Also you gotta know when to spoil him and when to give him space.
     
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    Ha! I was thinking about this song when reading this thread!...is it corny that I fantasize about playing this in the background as I give my guy a home cooked meal?? LOL!!!
     
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    Yall are reaching now, lol. The key to my point was taking care of each other. Not literally catering
     
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    I know, I'm just talking about when it's my turn to do things for him queue the song! Lol Or maybe I'll just play it while I'm cooking! I fully expect just as much effort on his part.
     
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    I think although the exact wording isn't there, it can be implied that its not saying to do this even if your "man" not doing it for you. I would like to think its saying that take care of your dude and let him take care of you as well.

    I 100% would do this for mine and it will definitely be expected to be reciprocated. Everything doest have to be taken SO literal.

    "Some bytch made shyt" Really? Its no wonder dudes that think like that are single and alone and probably will be forever. IMO
     
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    Being the one who posed the question, while also in a functional relationship, wtf do u think @ockydub ?

    I know yall dont live together but I recall u posting how you've come home from work n Prince had cleaned YOUR crib, cooked, mowed the lawn, etc, n it certainly seemed to put a smile on your face, otherwise idk why youd have posted it.

    N u make too much sense overall to make me think these are things u wouldn't reciprocate for him. Esp based on the number of yrs u guys have.
     
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    This part might be a lil harsh...ijs. We dont want them alone forever! Def would like to see them get out of their own way tho. Kinda crazy how ppl who make sooo much sense sometimes are so quick to be sooo dismissive in the next breath
     
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    Then again, cant say u started it...
     
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    Totally agree dude. It's equal opportunity around here!
     
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    Half of that a could agree, but the other hell no. If you can't clean up behind yourself you need a relationship with a maid. I am not going to cope with your emotional outburst either.
     
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    I think that is some parts of this that resonate with me, not in the traditional gender roles kind of way but in the more egalitarian kind of way. I view relationships, partnerships, marriages whatever in the vain that both parties need to bring something to the table and those things should be complimentary. I think about the vows I made and I am constantly reminded that I did promise to serve my husband not simply in the way of being an actual servant but to be a source of constant support. I do all of the cooking in my house and do most of the laundry (because I am very particular about it). My husband is a fixer, just last night he fixed our leaky sink. With that being said, we both work extremely demanding jobs, I work in government, he is a social worker that works with persons with disabilities needless to say we both are tired when we get home and we have to find ways to cater to each other and sometimes that means I step up and serve and sometimes he steps up and serves. It works both ways....I hardly think its special when all of the service is a one way street.
     
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    LMAO! The term, "Bitch-Made", always makes me chuckle
     
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    Why dudes be so mad just because you don't view dating and relationships in the same narrow familiar ways that they do? This meme was clearly made for heterosexual women. Dudes say they don't want to fall into male/female heterosexual roles but they continue to emulate them in every way!

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    To each his own though...
     
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    Too many people are reading too literally into this.

    @SB3 and @BlackguyExecutive pretty much have my view.

    We all have our slob moments, our tired moments, basically ratchetity in general. The point of partnership to mention means you have the ability to deal with these moments. Now I'm not saying leaving your dirty drawz on the bathroom floor for a week is okay or you sitting at home on your day off and waiting until I get home from work and expecting me to cook dinner when you are able bodied. But there has to be some kind of give and take with it. Anything that's not abusing someone's kindness or taking advantage of their OCD cleaning tendencies because you know they will clean it no matter what.

    As this relates to hetero relationships originally anyway, that is these chicks out here who don't demand more from their men, and the men expecting the chick to do all the cooking and cleaning. Knee grow, you finna do more than just mow the yard, grill, and wash the cars.
     
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    DEFINITELY taken from a hetero meme.....BUT I think this can be applied to a gay relationship. But it's definitely a two-way street. I'm not doing these thing for you unless you do them for me too. That for MY relationship. Some guys are in relationships where they really enjoy "heter-norm" roles. For example, my BF and I give and take, but he rarely allows me to pick up the tab, he holds my hand if I'm climbing over something, and he always holds doors open for me. Even if I tried to hold the door for him, he waits til I proceed. It all depends on what kinda man you have.
     
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    IDK...this is a clearly written meme....not a vague Bible verse needing scholars to interpret its meaning over 2 millennia...
     
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