To Coach or not to Coach

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  1. Dean

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    I found myself in a situation-ship with a guy that that ive known for a few years. Cool guy nice looking and not a bum but the stroke game is slick weak. I keep going back and forth on whether to cut out sex and try and stay friend/acquaintance or should I try to coach him into a better rhythm without offending him.
     
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    Others here probably have more experience in this area than me, but I would say if you really like this guy I would def recommend having a discussion and making the “sex tutorials” a part of the play. I think there are def ways to have that convo without it coming off like you’re trying to offend him, especially if you also ask him what areas you can improve in for him as well.
     
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    You can have the convo and still decide to cut out sex and just be friends.

    Constructive criticism is a great learning tool.
     
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    Bring it to his attention. You don’t know what you don’t know. I think the conversation should be had in the nicest way possible and let him know that you’re not satisfied with his performance then you need for him to put his back into it a little bit more. I think my sex game is on point and if somebody told me that they wanted me to fuck them differently or with more passion or whatever I would be open to it.
     
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    This is the biggest point in the thread. Everyone is different. The dude’s sex may be very good to others who like different things.

    As I’ve said in other threads I’ve had to deal w some comatose Bottoms in my day, but there may be Tops who prefer that so that can fully be dominate and control the show. Everyone is different and likes different stuff.

    One of my best friends said he’s not really a fan of penetration in either role so he and his dude do other things...and they been together nearly a decade. Again, to each his own.
     
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    Just don't talk about it at Sexy Time. Bring it up over lunch. Then if he's receptive to it suggest going to a sex store and getting some new lubes toys or something. The folks at the shop will give you advice too. This way you make it an event that you both can look forward to later.

    We've said this before but gay men really suck at communicating with each other. Y'all will feel a lot better after you have this conversation even if it's awkward at the start.
     
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    I had to "train" a dude one how to eat my ass because it was like he was trying to Bob for apples or something. I remember kinda guiding my buns in his face in an attempt to get him to keep his face in there.

    I never thought someone as sexless as me would have to coach a guy. I say go for it and during sex at that.


    I'll let a man know in a heartbeat if he ain't smashing right by my actions...If I am quiet then Issa no. It don't take much to make me call yo name but in order to do that you have to step up your stroke game.

    Same apply to head...I really feel some way about "quiet" men but that's more of a personal thing since I like slightly aggressive guys.
     
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    Talk to him
     
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    I think you should speak to him about it. It could be framed in such a way as 'I would like if you did so and so more'. Communication I feel is key, esp in sex.
    Personally, with someone I have had sex with more than once or even some one night stands I ALWAYS ask how was it and if there are areas I could improve, like a post-sex review lol. It has always worked, areas I had thought I had on lock-down some have said there is room for improvement. I felt ashamed at first but now I love reviews and critiques, how else can one improve?
     
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    No penetration?
    Other things?
    nearly a decade?
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    This dude I knew wanted to be A REGULAR but no kissing, no ass eating, no head, no cuddling, no foreplay.
     
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    Tell him to go sow his wild oats a bit and come back and try it again.
     
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