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  1. hannibal

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    Question. If you believe that someone EXTREMELY close to you is making a really bad relationship decision, do you try to get them to see the mistake?
     
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    Someone extremely close I would.
    I'd tell them that I couldn't in good conscience not say how I feel about whatever I felt or perceived to be a problem and that I hope my being open and honest doesn't affect what's between us.

    If they didn't take my advise, I'd start looking into people who make people disappear.
     
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    Short answer:Yes.

    I think that people that share a strong bond can survive situations like this. As long as you do it out of love and concern for that person it's ok. Tell them who you and try to listen to and understand their feelings as well. But it goes without saying that you can't MAKE them see things your way sometimes depending on the person and situation of course. I hope everything turns out alright.
     
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    Yeah I'd say for sure. You can't always expect people to see it the way you want them to though. Just be careful to not sound accusatory and if y'all are that close, then it should be all good.
     
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    Yea. Speaking up isnt a bad thing.
     
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    I would.Just make sure they know you're trying to introduce caution and not judge them
     
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    Definitely say something and what your concerns are and why. Have the conversation face to face and in private.

    I would rather someone tell me/say something than not until it's too late because by then, I'll be mad you didn't mention it beforehand. If I didn't listen when you told me and sh!t hits the fan afterwards, that's on me.
     
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    Been there and done that. At the end of the day as the saying goes, "love is blind." Those in the relationship will see it the way the see it and not like someone from the outside looking in. But as another saying goes, "experience is the best teacher."
     
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    You know in 2016 I stopped giving unasked for advice so unless folks ask for advice I don't say anything.
     
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