When Wronged, Do You Confront The Other Person or Just Cut Them Off?

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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    Say you have a "friend," associate, person you met for dating or even just a stranger do something wrong to you...nothing as bad as physical harm, more like slight disrespect (ie: standing you up, cutting in line, making an inappropriate joke about you or your boyfriend/husband in front of others, being rude on a date, etc).

    Do You "tell them about themselves" and confront the other person or do you just move on and cut them off (ie: never speak to them again, decline their invitations to do things, avoid group meet-ups where they will be present, don't respond to texts, etc)?

    Seems the former may give you personal satisfaction but could fall on deaf ears, not solving anything but creating beef on their end... and the latter seems to be too non-confrontational and passive/submissive where you bottle up the animosity.

    Where do you fall on this?
     
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    Depends on the person. If I don't care if you come or go, I'll make a mental note and move on. If you someone i care for I'll bring it up.
     
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    This is extremely situational and depends on someone's temperament lol.

    Using the examples of someone cutting me in line or random person saying something off-hand, I might let it slide one day or if I'm already in a mood, let that person know what time it is.

    If it's a close friend/relative, I almost always confront the situation. I can't think of a time when I haven't. This is probably the situation where resolution is most needed. Plus, I'm not good with sitting on my emotions - it causes me anxiety.

    If something happens in a professional setting, I'm also very quick to respond if the situation was clear-cut.

    In general, I tend to be more of a confrontational personal lol
     
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    Ehhhh, I tend to be non-confrontational in general. Usually, I'll let any slight slide the first time because you never know if a person is trying to just be funny or mean spirited. Especially if the person isn't close to me and I don't know their personality or sense of humor. If the slight happens again, I will mention it to the person and make it known that i don't appreciate it. It's rare that my close friends or family disrespect me since they know my boundaries.
     
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    Both...their action/s depend on my reaction.
     
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    I'm a big believer in the term 'closed mouths don't get fed'. I know I can sometimes overthink things, so it's better for me to address it before I wanna fight you, and you're not even aware that I feel a way about the situation.
     
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    This. Also, I’ll tell them about their behavior, not necessarily “themselves”. Not being forthright with people is a form of dishonesty on one’s own self. It’s about the principle not the personality. Funny how people consider being forthright and straight forward as being “mean” and “discourteous” but gossiping and passive aggressive backbiting or actions is socially and morally acceptable...smh
     
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    Depends on how much I fuck with you, what you said/did, and how I'm feeling.
     
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    So true. Like it's socially acceptable to be fake to people. I've always found that peculiar.
     
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    If we talking about someone that I am interested in, then yes I will bring it up. If it happens again then I immediately cut them off.
    If is a stranger then I will let them have it.
     
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