Will He Stand Up For Your?

Discussion in 'Dating and Relationships' started by mojoreece, Feb 24, 2016.

  1. mojoreece

    Bae Material The 1000 Daps Club Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2015
    Messages:
    1,378
    Daps Received:
    2,919
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    NC
    So I was watching a this video of Devon Franklin and wife beautiful wife Meagan Good. They were at a church doing a promotional tour for their book and doing Q&A. All the women admired how Devon stood up for his wife. As gay men do you need your man to stand up or take up for you? Or have your back?
     
  2. acessential

    Squad Leader Best Thread Creator The 1000 Daps Club

    Joined:
    Sep 4, 2015
    Messages:
    686
    Daps Received:
    1,910
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Roaming
    There's a difference between standing by your dude and standing up for your dude. If I'm not there and someone has some misinformed notions about me, I would hope my dude would correct them. But I don't need anyone to stand up for me. That's different. I'm a grown man. I use this term a lot, but that's very "heteronormative" to me. I feel like there's a lot of gay men who want to mirror hetero relationships. They want a man to take care of them and stand up for them. Pretty much what a sterotypical wife wants from a dude. I'm not having that. Shit should be mutual, but we let each other stand on our two feet. You scratch my back, I scratch yours.
     
    Champagne Papi, bpaisle, Jdudre and 2 others dapped this.
  3. Discordant

    Squad Leader The 100 Daps Club

    Age:
    35
    Joined:
    Sep 11, 2015
    Messages:
    305
    Daps Received:
    357
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    DMV
    Do I need him to? No, not at all. Do I expect him/want him to? To a point. Just like I would always defend his honor and close ranks in public (even if I disagree privately) I would expect the same from him.
     
    cypher21, ColumbusGuy, bpaisle and 2 others dapped this.
  4. mojoreece

    Bae Material The 1000 Daps Club Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2015
    Messages:
    1,378
    Daps Received:
    2,919
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    NC
    As a man I don't necessary need my man to stand up for me but he needs to be able to have my back me no questions asked. Its just good to know if Im in a situation where I might not be all there I would have someone who could stand up. Im not saying I need to be kept or anything but but if some stuff jumps off he's there for me.
    [​IMG]
     
  5. Tyroc

    Tyroc Deactivated Account

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2015
    Messages:
    1,032
    Daps Received:
    2,161
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Brooklyn, NY
    I don't need protecting but I would expect if I were with someone to have my back as much as I'd have theirs, which would be all the way.
    That's what I'd hope from and give to a friends and family so how would I not with my partner?

    Verbally or physically, he rolls, I roll with him!
    image.gif
     
    grownman and Discordant dapped this.
  6. ColumbusGuy

    The 100 Daps Club

    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2016
    Messages:
    2,421
    Daps Received:
    2,992
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Backwater, Ohio
    Orientation:
    Gay
    Dating:
    Not looking
    This pretty much. And regarding the closed ranks part, absolutely. An attack on him was an attack on me. It is just a matter of loyalty that goes beyond even a really close friendship. It is like a very close family-you may argue amongst yourselves, but when an attack comes from outside, you circle those wagons.
     
    mojoreece, Discordant and Tyroc dapped this.
  7. jusrawb

    The 100 Daps Club

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2015
    Messages:
    294
    Daps Received:
    457
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    VA
    Orientation:
    Gay
    Dating:
    In a Relationship
    As a man I don't need another man to stand up for me but at the same time he does need to have my back. If I need protection, he should be able to be that for me.
     
  8. ControlledXaos

    Squad Veteran Most Valuable Player The 1000 Daps Club

    Age:
    45
    Joined:
    Aug 21, 2015
    Messages:
    2,540
    Daps Received:
    7,168
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Atlanna
    Harpo, who these mens?
     
  9. mojoreece

    Bae Material The 1000 Daps Club Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2015
    Messages:
    1,378
    Daps Received:
    2,919
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    NC
    The guy with the blonde hair is Lio Rush. Think guy with the orange lining is Cedric Alexander. Their both Pro wrestlers. They're in the same league as AR Foxx if you remember his scandal was similar to Yusuf Mack.
     
  10. cypher21

    cypher21 Deactivated Account
    The 1000 Daps Club

    Joined:
    Sep 21, 2015
    Messages:
    1,079
    Daps Received:
    2,193
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    na
    Dating:
    Not looking
    I don't think being a man has so much to do with people standing up for you as others may think. Grown adults male or female should have the ability to take of, speak for, and even defend themselves to the best of their ability. Just because we're men doesn't mean we don't need or deserve help from time to time from people we rely on especially in trying times and we all have strengths and weaknesses. Don't think it's bad to desire alittle assistance in areas that we are weak in.

    For instance, I've never been in a fight..so I technically don't know 100% what I'd do if in the event that a confrontation became unavoidable. I'm not going to sit here and lie not say that having someone more experienced in this area wouldn't be great, because it would for me personally. Conflict in that manner is simply not something I've had to deal with so in this case it makes sense to enjoy the balance of a partner that would stand up for you in that way.

    Besides if anyone gave a damn about you and actually saw you being attacked or beat up I would like to think they wouldn't just sit there and go "Oh he's a Man, he can handle everything" lol No! I want a guy that's protective of me because that shows you care about me.,that's it. Sure we all have our own battles to fight but that doesn't mean we should have to go every battle only just because we're a certain gender. It's also said no man can be an island....

    I know I can't fight but I'd sure try to whoop anyone's ass that tries to hurt my baby!

    [​IMG]
     
    #10 cypher21, Mar 5, 2016
    Last edited: Mar 5, 2016
    Tyroc and grownman dapped this.
  11. acessential

    Squad Leader Best Thread Creator The 1000 Daps Club

    Joined:
    Sep 4, 2015
    Messages:
    686
    Daps Received:
    1,910
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Roaming
    I get where you're coming from, but I think something like fighting is a lot different than how I interpreted the question. In the video, someone said something "sideways" to Meagan Good and Devon Franklin defended her. That to me in a relationship is okay if it's done when the other partner can't physically be there to defend themselves. Or if it's done sparingly. But if one is standing there and expect one's partner to say something back on their behalf, that just shows they're not an adult.
     
  12. Tyroc

    Tyroc Deactivated Account

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2015
    Messages:
    1,032
    Daps Received:
    2,161
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Brooklyn, NY
    giphy.gif
    tumblr_nfixbr7Dr81rziwwco1_400.gif
     
    cypher21 dapped this.
  13. cypher21

    cypher21 Deactivated Account
    The 1000 Daps Club

    Joined:
    Sep 21, 2015
    Messages:
    1,079
    Daps Received:
    2,193
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    na
    Dating:
    Not looking
    Yep that's true. No arguments there, I viewed it both ways physical and verbal. Again adults should be able to take care of themselves.

    For me, any exceptions I have for people are all based on what I would do for them so if I see you having a hard time I'm gonna be concerned and express it in my own way. Might not step in every time but I'm going to at least remind you "Hey. I'm right here. Not going anywhere".

    And yeah I feel in Meagan's situation it was sorta better that he did say something rather than her because that third party element made it not come across as her being defensive. Most celebs responding to negative criticism in general can be tricky so hearing her husband speak gave her an advantage because it's like..well of course you're going to defend yourself, but does anybody else care enough to do so? Highly situational... Lol I should go into PR!
     
    #13 cypher21, Mar 5, 2016
    Last edited: Mar 5, 2016
    acessential dapped this.
  14. Tyroc

    Tyroc Deactivated Account

    Joined:
    Sep 5, 2015
    Messages:
    1,032
    Daps Received:
    2,161
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Brooklyn, NY
    That may be one reason but it's not the always the case.
    People can be surprised or at a loss for words when ambushed by another's words or actions.
    An ideal partnership supports and balances each other out.
     
    mojoreece, grownman and acessential dapped this.
  15. acessential

    Squad Leader Best Thread Creator The 1000 Daps Club

    Joined:
    Sep 4, 2015
    Messages:
    686
    Daps Received:
    1,910
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Roaming
    I can see where you're coming from.
     
  16. Champagne Papi

    Champagne Papi is a Featured MemberChampagne Papi side-n*gga paralegal
    Most Comedic Player The 1000 Daps Club Best Gifs

    Joined:
    Dec 1, 2015
    Messages:
    1,155
    Daps Received:
    2,445
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Chicago, IL
    ....Ehhh. I think the only thing I need from a n*gga is to kill spiders for me.

    Either than that, if I'm getting jumped or something like that yeh, I hope he jumps to my defensive....but even then, I don't need that n*gga to. (But that's more of a standing by my side than standing up for me.)


    For some reason yeh, my dude being in a fight with me is kinda hot.
    [​IMG]
     
  17. Champagne Papi

    Champagne Papi is a Featured MemberChampagne Papi side-n*gga paralegal
    Most Comedic Player The 1000 Daps Club Best Gifs

    Joined:
    Dec 1, 2015
    Messages:
    1,155
    Daps Received:
    2,445
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Chicago, IL
    [​IMG]
     
    mojoreece dapped this.
Loading...
Similar Threads - Stand Forum Date
The fact I can't stand him. Group Discussions Aug 11, 2021
Bottom Bros: Understanding Dominance Sex and Adult Sep 9, 2019
That Time Shannon Sharpe Shut Jenny Taft Down On Her Double Standards Sports and Athletes Mar 1, 2019
Michael Che Defends Louis C.K.’s Return To Stand-Up Comedy Aug 29, 2018
Unrealistic Standards For Skanks? Dating and Relationships Jul 25, 2018

Share This Page

Loading...