Would You Wait For Him?

I would wait. As long as he doesn't mind me handling things with myvidster. However I'm also not one to put pressure on sex in a relationship. I like sex but I'm also ok with not penetration or being penetrated every time we get naked. Let's call a thing a thing people. Sex is invasive and I'm not always ready for that.

Also I think that possibly if I waited I would not have to worry about them stepping out because being a Virgin at my age, I don’t think they'd be rushing to screw the next dude easily.

 

Ive heard of this guy, I think people don't understand how it's possible but you can't miss what you've never had. It's easier than expected if you've never done it I'd expect. For me I believe I could and I have waited in relationships. I think it's important to know who you're laying with before laying with them. Don't know if I could wait years as this guy has but I respect his dedication.

 

If I'm in a relationship with a virgin, I've likely already determined that I really like and connect with the guy so I would wait. Physical intimacy, even when only mild, is more important to me than intercourse. I don't know if I would wait until marriage. That seems like some weird purity, religion-related stuff that I wouldn't understand. I mean, we could discover we're sexually incompatible. I know some people say that, if they love someone, they'll make it work in the bedroom, but some people just don't like doing certain things. If it approached a year, I'd probably wonder what he's waiting for. I do think I'd consider being in a relationship with an asexual if we were really feeling one another, in which case sex would be off the table, though the lack of sex might make me feel some pangs after awhile.

If I found out about this guy's reservations in the very early dating stages and had other potential partners on the table who all seemed fairly equal in terms of compatibility, I'd probably lean toward one of the others. Sex isn't the most important thing but knowing the option is available would be nice. In any case, it's cool that these guys stick to their values rather than succumbing to societal pressure and judgment.

 

For me there are different levels to sexual interactions. Waiting for sexual penetration I can understand but what about mutual masterbation or oral?

 

I came from a religious vow of purity/wait until marriage mindset even though I have evolved from it I still respect it. I could wait for him.

 

Celibacy takes a LOT of personal discipline. And true discipline involves no type of sexual activity which includes no masturbation. So I hope that all the " I can wait..." responders know that. If you are committed to dating someone who is truly celibate, you must truly be their equal or just kill the BS. You wouldn't be legit to verbally agree to celibacy with that other person, while personally masturbating or otherwise. That's not a celibatory situation.

For me, I can date a guy who is celibate. That situation can involve me not having sexual relations with him. However, he would know upfront that I will be masturbating, because I'm not a priest. My sex drive is ON FIRE! That situation can last about a good 3 years. If I'm on relationship lane, I wouldn't be able to be non-sexual with him beyond that timeframe.

 

If we get to the point where we are in a relationship then I think that sort signals that one is committing to waiting for that person. As @ControlledXaos said, as long as they don't mind a little self satisfaction then I think that we'd be good. Sex is important but its not everything.

 

Celibacy is all well and good but it wasn't mentioned in the universe of the original post.

 

I like this. @cypher21 knows I can relate. Please WAIT!

I am a 26 year old gay virgin and there is nothing wrong with that. I know that most dudes in their 20s, especially gay dudes lol, are not virgins but it is okay. I am not necessarily saying that I have a 90 day rule before engaging in sex but I will know when it is right.

I have grown more confident and I see myself as a beautiful person. I think we all should look at ourselves that way. I believe that a man must work to have me. I am not like the Toyota, Honda, or even a BMW that gets advertised all over TV. I am more like a Ferrari or an Aston Martin that doesn't have to put my ish on display for attention. I believe that I am of high value and when that time comes....

 

Okay, I have to be honest. This kind of sounds like what @Nick Delmacy was saying about guys who take forever to decide whether they like you or not. This seems like it goes along the same lines, if someone takes forever to decide they like you then they probably don't want to have sex with you either.

I can understand forgoing sex in order to connect on other levels first, like dating. However, relationship wise I can't understand because sex is a natural thing within a healthy relationship. In fact, I would go as far as to say that it's rather insulting. Its like your playing with that someone, saying that they are good enough to be with but not good enough to have sex with.

Personally I could wait during a dating state, but I would not enter into a relationship with someone without talking about sex or be in a sexless relationship. The idea of that sounds very limiting and I want my relationship to be all encompassing.

Sex can't replace intimacy and vice versa; they're both necessary.

 

Well isn't someone horny? lol JUST KIDDING.

Yeah I don't think anyone wants to be in a sexless relationship either! I don't plan to wait until marriage to engage in sexual activities BUT that man has to be worth it because I believe that I am (insert Z-snap here lol).

 

Lol you got jokes, I'm a healthy sexual being (>_>); (<_<)!

 

Yeah I agree about really liking a guy if I decide to give it up.

LOL I LOVE THAT SONG.

 

Well, I'm not an expert (disclaimer), but it depends. Time frames tend to vary depending on the frequency that one sees one another I think.

If one is just dating then sex is not required for that. But beyond that i feel its necessary. It all depends on what you're virginity means to you. It could be as simple as perhaps you're not ready.

 

I'd wait. I lost my virginity as the other guy. I waited this long so.