You are NOT the Father

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  1. ControlledXaos

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    It’s that time of year again. Father’s Day. A day we celebrate the men who have helped raise, nurture, teach, and guide their children. However, there’s an dark and salty side to this day that has been smoldering in recent times that comes as a result of absentee men who are not involved or involved very little in their children’s lives. These men have put the burden of raising their sires on their ex wives, girlfriends, jump offs, and hook ups. This has caused an effect where some of these mothers have decided to jump in on Father’s Day to bash these deadbeat dads and horn in on and take credit for what should be a day honoring those men who are successful parents to their children.

    I do not like this aspect of Father’s Day and many of us will see on our social media feeds the complaints and laments of these ‘jilted’ women who use Father’s Day to complain about what Peanut, Conner, Rodrigo, and them did wrong and made the baby but didn’t carry the baby and how they were a mother and a father.

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    Stop.

    The “I Was a Mother and Father” Committee needs to stop. “Girl, bye” as they say.


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    Why should these women stop? Because we should let Father’s Day be a day to let the fathers who are great dads shine. Let these men get their floss on for one day out of the year. They do not need you trying to slide in and get some extra credit. We know you are a great mom and still, you rose. Men don’t get much celebration or honor. People already spend almost twice as much on gifts for Mother’s Day than they do on Father’s Day gifts. Even though it’s not about the money spent, we should let these men get their recognition without all of that single mother noise.


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    Now, some ladies will be ‘in their feelings’ and if you are, ask yourself, why is it so important for you to be the mother and the father? Trust me, you are not. You’d be losing your shit if single fathers were trying to squeeze in on Mother’s Day. The difference is, most single fathers don’t care about Mother’s Day recognition and respect mother enough to not concern themselves with getting presents and cards. When the romphims came out, notice how all of and sudden, women can't have anything? That was just a clothing item, which, by the way, men were sporting rompers way before 2017.

    Hey, I know there are some really great mothers out there who are ‘doing the damned thing’ and ‘don’t need no man’ because they got the mothering thing down. My hat is off to you ladies who are shouldering all of the parenting work. You are making sure your kids are fed, clothed, healthy, loved, taken to soccer practice, and able to go on the field trip with the rest of the class. You mothers are awesome! However, ya’ll have a day in May. Don’t try to slide your way in on Father’s Day to double dip on getting credit in June. The ”provider” role is only one aspect of being a good father and being a good provider does not a father make. There are plenty of fathers and baby daddies who have no problem providing their children with money and material things but they are not present in their children’s lives. There is a way a man can teach a young girl how to expect to be treated by boys her age as she grows up that women can’t do.

    There are things that men experience in life that only a man can teach or provide guidance on to influence children. Women, as powerful and hardy as they are, can not do this, try as they might. The same goes for single fathers who are raising kids. They can not provide children the perspective of a female when it comes to life lessons and interpersonal relationships.

    I’m a black masculine gay male who was raised by a single mother. My parents got divorced when I was young. While my dad wasn’t in the house and lived out of state for many years, I never felt like my mom was doing dual duty. My dad wasn’t there to teach me to tie a tie, throw a football, or ride a bike. However, there’s no ‘woe is me’ over these things. My mom had male friends and one of which taught me how to tie a tie. I have uncles as well and they definitely provided me with the male influence I needed. I just would never say that my mom, as phenomenal as she is, was a ‘mother and a father’.


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    No female is going to replace a male influence or be a male role model for a male child. It’s just not happening. So, if your child sees you claiming that you are both, they will probably not have the courage to tell you that you’re not until well later on, if at all. You can replicate as a mom but you can't replicate male bonding.

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    As a gay man, who may one day have a child of his own, my words can’t be discredited because I’m gay or childless. I also realize that I can either be a single father or parent with another man. However, you should know that I recognize my situation and accepted it a long time ago. I am surrounded by amazing women in my family who I know would have no problems adding that sugar and spice and everything nice aspect to my potential children. However, that second Sunday in May comes around, I would dare not disrespect my mom, grandmothers, aunts, or sister by trying to get in on the action.

    Allow Father’s Day be a celebration for the dads, fathers, uncles, pop pops, grandfathers, big dads, tios, big brothers and etc who are providing the masculine, male influence, presence, guidance, encouragement, safety and stability to the children in their lives, clutter free.

    Happy Father’s Day to the men.
     
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    I don't mean no single fathers would be worried about Mother's Day but I don't think they'd be going so hard for it as women do.
     
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    You do know they actually have mother Father's Day cards right?
     
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    Yep. Saw a Hallmark mahogany one.
     
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    Single mothers, get a fuckin life and stop saying you the mama and the daddy.
    Yo baby don't got no daddy cause you fucked the wrong aint shit dude. :bronbad:

     
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    Well, single moms don't like to hear that.
     
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    Yeah I know right. Of course every situation is different, but many single moms kill me when they don't take accountabilty for their actions.
    And men more often than not will give you signs that they aint shit.

    But of course the women fuck him anyway because aint shit dudes usually have the BEST dick.

    Than when he don't care about them or the baby, he is everything under the sun and they are the innocent victims. Im trying to teach my niece to take charge of that vagina between her legs and properly vet these dudes.

    Single mothers can be strong women and get the job done, but good fathers are important I believe. No matter what.
     
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    I find this thread sexist, misogynistic and victim blaming.
     
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    Your Welcome Ocky!!!
    (Ocky know he low key hate women...LOL) :sass2:
     
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    *Ocky know he hate people...LOL*.....fixed it for you. :ld:
     
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    Yeah, Prince was on to something with his song, "Pussy Control." There is so much sad truth to your words. I've seen too many black children get messed over because the mother "just had to have a man." That's why stories like these are sadly numerous in bigger cities
    After Killing 12-Year-Old, Man Taunted Her Mother By Text, Prosecutors Say

    That's why I used to dig listening to Dr. Laura in the 90s before she became a super right-wing hate nutjob, and feminist Camille Paglia. No one can accuse women who tell other women to get their shit together of being "sexists"


    (Paglia reads better than she speaks. I think she was on amphetamines and coke in this lecture lol)
     
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    Come thru Camille Paglia
     
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