PBS’ FRONTLINE – ENDGAME: AIDS in Black America
In 1981, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) published a notice that five young gay men in the Los Angeles area had died from an unusual form of pneumonia. It was the first report of what would come to be known as AIDS —…
The MYTH of the HOMEWRECKER
Homewrecker. There is no term in global society more confusing to me than this. For those not in the know, a homewrecker is the person who creates temptation for his/her target to cheat on their lover. This person supposedly breaks up a “happy home.” Seems…
Advice Column: Confined to an Island of Loneliness
Dear Cypher Avenue, I‘m a 22-year-old, gay, Afro-Caribbean man living in the US Virgin Islands and I’m at my wits’ end in trying to find friendship and companionship. No visible community exists here and I doubt an underground community exists either. I lack confidants…
THE GAY FRIEND DELUSION 2: “Friends First”
In the five years that I’ve seriously started meeting gay/bisexual men for more than just casual sex, I’ve discovered one main commonality amongst them. They’ve all, and I mean all of them, had a false sense of what it means to acquire, have and to…
Yes Guys, Dating Can Be Fun!
I authored a post months ago titled Looking for a Healthy Long Term Relationship. As the title suggest, in it I offered some advice and tips that could possibly aide in the search for those that were looking for a relationship I am currently…
Rethinking The Dating Game
Rethinking The Dating Game Cypher Avenue | By Terrence Moss I have officially thrown in the towel. I have given up. I don’t know what you all want and I no longer care. All I know is that I am not the issue. So…
Celebrating Long Term Gay Relationships – Yes They are Possible!
Celebrating Long Term Gay Relationships – Yes They are Possible! Here at Discreet City, we have written a couple of posts with subject matter concerning being single, hook ups, searching for the right guy, “Ex’s” and relationships. They include… –Relationship Oriented VS Hookups: Fighting the Beast Within…
Top 15 Reasons That You’re Still a Single Masculine Gay/Bisexual Man
A huge misconception that people have is that dating is easy for a Gay/Bisexual man. So many women right now are trying to play cupid and get the only two Gay people they know together as a couple. I mean, why not? They have…
Work Place Drama With My Ex
Work Place Drama With My Ex Its that time again for another submission to our advice column. This situation might be more common place to us gay / bisexual black men in corporate America in larger gay populated cities. But best believe similar circumstances can…
Struggling with Debt and Financial Slavery – Steps To Breaking the Chains
Struggling in Debt? Starter Tips To Break From Financial SlaveryThis topic might be a little eye opening for some and a bit preachy to others but keep in mind my overall goal is to help us with ending debt and Financial Slavery. Everyone…
Advice: What to Do? My Son’s Teammate Wants Me!
Well it’s been a minute since I got an advice question but this one I think was worth the wait. Oh this is some crazy shit here. This post might be long, but its worth the read. Of course the names have been changed. Dear…
Your New Year’s Resolutions – Are you still on Track?
_Your New Year’s Resolutions – Are you still on Track? I purposely waited to do this post because a couple of things have already happened since making your resolutions for 2012. Either you are still commented to your goals or you have already quit…
Relationship Advice: The Bi-Sexual Dilemma
Relationship advice from Cypher Avenue relationship specialist Octavius Wow…We have very interesting email from Anthony out of Dallas, Texas seeking relationship advice. As always the names have been altered for protection. Okay here is the summary of the situation. Anthony and Eugene have been…
Relationship Advice: Should I Leave or Do I Stay?
As the de-facto relationship expert on the website (of the two of us, I am the one in a relationship) I was recently sent a relationship oriented email seeking advice. I will summarize the situation and question along with changing the names of the two…
Looking for a Healthy Longterm Relationship?
Do you want a long term relationship? Some tips and advance from Cypher Ave’s relationship coach, Octavius.Now this post applies to those of you may be seeking a long term loving relationship…not those who are happily single. I know I could write a book…