That Time I Was “Reverse Slut Shamed” By A Black Gay Man
Yesterday I was speaking with a friend on the phone and I experienced something that has happened many times before. I was reverse slut shamed. Out of respect, I won’t say the friend’s real name but for now let’s just call him “Schmocky Schmilliams.” Just…
CA Podcast #45 – The “Settling For Him” Episode (Part 2)
In this podcast, hosts Octavius Williams and Nick Delmacy continue their previous discussion about dating and relationships by inquiring if Black Gay Men are prone to settling for what’s available to them.
ATTENTION SINGLE GAY MEN: Cuffin’ Season 2015 is Upon Us!
Regular readers of Cypher Avenue know full well that when October rolls around, two important events happen: Our annual Halloween obsession will be coming soon and it’s also the official start of Cuffin’ Season!
10 First Date Deal Breakers For Gay Men
A lot of people think gay dudes are finicky and maybe that is true to some extent however, I still there are probably a number of universal first date deal breakers that are exclusively linked exclusively to gay men.
QUESTION OF THE WEEK: $250 and Up…How Much Do You Spend On A Gay First Date?
Now that Cuffin’ Season 2015 is upon us, its time for the single gay men of the world to get booed up for these cold winter months. But how much are you willing to spend to find him?
So I’m Now In the Friendzone
In an environment where there are social limitations and slim pickings of men of quality when does one cross the line selfishly in their own pursuit of “happiness”? The intro may be a bit verbose but what an opener, right! People are led to do…
2 Phrases Dudes Must Stop Saying When Using Dating Apps
In our recent podcast, Cypher Ave discussed navigating dating mobile apps. Part of the intent wasn’t just to dialogue about our own experiences but to also examine short comings and possible areas of improvement men can use to make their involvement when using apps…
Purple Haze and “(No) Homo” Ways in my School Daze
This blog is in response to Ocky Williams’ Raymond Helped Me Realize I Was Homo. We all have some insight about who we are and it is clear that, for some of us, the paths toward who we are were paved by stories written…
Friendships, Fallout and HIV
The “Friendship” I was a little over a year in Atlanta and was not only feeling the city and the clubs but also myself. I met Brock and his crew through my best friend at the time. Thinking the friend of my friend is a…
Guys on the ‘Side’: Looking Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms
There’s so much talk and discussion about who gives and who receives. I’ve had straight people tell me that they assumed that most gay guys simply take turns. Yes, some do, but most don’t. But what if a guy isn’t a top, a bottom or even versatile? What about gay men who have never engaged in anal sex and never will, ever?
QUESTION OF THE WEEK: What REALLY Makes Someone A Boyfriend?
Gay men are VERY cautious about using the Boyfriend word. Maybe its because of the whole Banned Gay Marriage thing. Regular “Boyfriend Status” has replaced “Marriage Status” for many of us.
WATCH: “I Don’t Date Black Guys” Racism in the Gay Community
This new video from the I’m From Driftwood series echoes many of the same statements BOTH sides on the issue have stated over the years on interracial dating in the comments sections. Nelson Moses Lassiter from Philadelphia shares his experience dating white men who fetishize him just for being black, as well as dealing with his black friends who are prejudiced as well, albeit for different reasons.
Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned To Stop Worrying and Love The Joys of Being Single
“Life is short. Life is Dull. Life is full of pain and this is a chance for something special.” Casual Dating. This seems to be a foreign concept in the gay community. Oh sure, many people do it but good luck getting them to publicly…
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