Fuck You Valentine’s Day

By OckyDub | Posted Feb 6 2017 | 10 Comments  

F You

You’re at work and notice all the flowers, balloons and shit folk are getting on Valentine’s Day. You over hear their plans of after work romantic dinners, while little cherubs dance and fly about with glee. 


Valentine’s Day is definitely not a favorite holiday for mine. Yeah, I’m in a relationship now but was single for many, many years. As a lonely teen not able to explore my sexuality in the early 90’s – while everyone else had “sweet hearts” –  my sadness and jealously helped me understand at an early age that Valentine’s Day is just another pointless commercial holiday companies and retailers use to cash in on egos, pride and emotions. It’s estimated that over 17 billion dollars will be spent on Valentine’s Day; from candies, cards, balloons, flowers, jewelry, etc. 

I have worked with plenty of women though out the years and for some Valentine’s Day along with their birthday, were the only time their husbands or boyfriends would take them out to dinner or buy them flowers. I’m thinking, waiting for a holiday or birthday to show you care or love someone and then having to spend tons of money to do so is crap.

But let me not digress too much because my point here is more so directed at the single gay men out there who sometimes sulk when Valentine’s rolls around.

Regardless of my disgruntled feelings and revelations about a holiday that in my opinion is heavily geared towards women; I still remember in my 20’s how a day designated for couples, calls attention to the implications of how lonely one can be and how hard it is to meet Mr. Right…but you shouldn’t really give a damn about being lonely on a designated Tuesday. 

Instead of allowing the mass media to bombard you with messages, marketing and sale tactics, reminding you of your ‘singleness’ OR how you need to show someone you love them on this particular holiday by spending money; why not spend your time wisely and focusing your attentions on you!

Take this time to reflect on how your 2017 is going for you so far. Do you need to re-examine or re-shift focus on your New Year’s Resolutions?  Are you improving and developing yourself so when you do meet a potential Mr. Right, you will be available to move forward with out excess baggage and personal issues?

Let this Valentine’s Day be a “Focus On You Day!” Be grateful and happy you’re single and that you’ve been given the gift of time. 

And beside if you get too lonely, have a drink or two, stream some porn, get a good nutt and take your ass to sleep. When you wake up the next day, it will all be a memory and the Valentine’s Day candy will be on sale.  



About the Author

Octavius is a founder and editor of Cypher Avenue. He's here to help speak for us and show the world that masculine gay / bisexual men of color are not a part of the stereotypical gay normal that is seen and fed to the masses. No...we are a distinct breed, filled with character and pride. Cypher Avenue is here to show the world how we are different.

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  1. SmartMan123 | February 6th, 2017

    Valentine's Day is a wonderful day whether or not you are in a relationship. Being single doesn't preclude anyone from enjoying the day. I plan on doing some of the things you mentioned lol (I do those regularly anyway)… but I agree that Valentine's Day shouldn't make anyone sad or depressed about being single. Take it in stride

  2. African King
    African King | February 7th, 2017

    V-Day always has just been another day. I been single for 27 years of my entire life.

  3. TreDaDon
    TreDaDon | February 8th, 2017

    I’ve been with the same guy for 10 years & he’s not the hearts & flowers kind. He works in construction & hasn’t ever worked in an office setting & he acts like he doesn’t remember the high school days when flowers, candy & big ass bears filled the front office. I don’t mind so much but it would be nice just as a sentiment to have that once. I truly can’t complain though. He’s great, he’s family oriented, if something’s broken around the house he fixes it or replaces what he can’t fix. I wouldn’t trade a lifetime of him for a delivery to my job or a romantic dinner.

  4. BlackguyExecutive
    BlackguyExecutive | February 8th, 2017

    I am not the Valentines cliche kind of person. I do however buy a card but I buy cards for every holiday, even the dumb ones. Who here celebrates Arbor Day?

    I like to do small random acts of devotion and kindness and love throughout the year….I don't need the flower and candy industry telling me what I should be doing.

  5. Rhode | February 8th, 2017

    Thanks Ockydub. Good words, and much appreciated.

  6. SmartMan123 | February 8th, 2017

    I'd rather have this as well…

  7. OhSheit
    OhSheit | February 8th, 2017

    Merry Singles Awareness Day!

  8. African King
    African King | February 8th, 2017


  9. Rico
    Rico | February 8th, 2017

    To me V-Day was always a kids day. Up until 3rd or 4th grade, it meant buying some cards and candy and trading with other kids in class (we used to put lunch bags on front of desks and you put your cards and candy in that kids bag). I can't recall being with anybody from teenage onward that gave a shit about V-Day. Even with my straight coupled friends it seemed the sisters cared more about a husband/boyfriend forgetting an anniversary or birthday more than V-Day.

    And where the hell did Sweetest Day come from?

  10. Nicholan
    Nicholan | February 12th, 2017

    Great post! I love how you ended it, haha!

    I'm in the last year of my 20s, but when I was in my early 20s Valentine's Day use to bother me. It doesn't bother me at all now for the simple fact that my mind has evolved and I agree with you regarding everyone you said about the "holiday."

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