REVISITED: The 8 Black Gays You Will Meet in Your Lifetime

By Nick Delmacy | Posted Feb 25 2014 | 43 Comments  

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Long before I began blogging about being a black gay man, there was an article that hit my inbox that literally had me crying from laughter.

I’d just been in the “gay lifestyle” for 3 or 4 years when this 2010 satirical listicle (written by Nova Slim, who now runs a pretty dope men’s fashion blog) hilariously summed up the 8 types of black gays that I’d recently started to meet.

I immediately recognized the comical nature of the post, however many gay men took offense causing Nova to write a response defending his writing. This became all to familiar years later as the writers here at Cypher Avenue face the same gay idiots who can’t separate satire from seriousness.

Four years (almost to the day) is far too long for this biting satirical commentary to go unread and forgotten, so we bring you Nova Slim’s hilarious guide to The 8 Black Gays You Will Meet In Your Lifetime.


The 8 Black Gays You Will Meet in Your Lifetime

Written By – Nova

After reading “A Handy Guide to All Gay Men” by Brian Moylan over at Gawker, what stood out to me (obviously) was that I don’t know many Black men like this. Any one of these archetypes can apply to my Black gay brethren, but by and large, in my experience, they do not. So some mischievous friends and I decided to compose a more colorful equivalent to Moylan’s classifications. Your education begins now.


The Skinny Bitch

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This strain of Black gay is typically very young (“green”) but quickly rises in popularity in his newfound social circle because of his youth, pliability and quick mastery of shade. His goal is to accrue as many enemies as possible since he’s convinced that having enough people that despise him means he’s “doing something right.” He will spend an entire month’s salary on designer sunglasses because he considers them social currency.


Activities: “Walking”, throwing shade, wearing eyeliner, being penetrated, hogging the camera, starting arguments with strangers, making YouTube videos, going to the mall.


Diva of Choice: Beyonce or Rihanna (there is no in-between)


Top or Bottom: Bottom.

 


The Homo Thug

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Activities: Hiding, lying, saying “I don’t do that gay shit”, smoking weed, being ignorant, having kids, having a limited vocabulary, not returning calls, breaking hearts.


Diva of Choice: Lil’ Wayne


Top or Bottom: Outdoor Top/Indoor Bottom

 


The Big Boy

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These teddy bears are sweet, loving, warm and always horny. The lines between a good meal and good sex are often so blurred that any conversation involving “meat” will simply have to be taken in stride. He is way more confident than you think he has a right to be, always has a date (because he looks “healthy”), he’s funny, and will give you anything in the world as long as you are consistently fucking his brains out.


Activities: Calling skinny bitches “skinny bitches”, cooking, hugging, making inappropriate double entendres, grabbing.


Diva of Choice: Jennifer Hudson


Top or Bottom: Bottom.

 


The Muscle Gay

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They roll in packs and only date each other. You never see them during the winter months because they are in the gym 24/7. Come summer, he’s wearing the smallest tank-top or the tightest t-shirt. Don’t bother lusting after him, because you do not exist in his world.


Activities: Making fun of fat people, lifting weights, talking about lifting weights, accusing skinny people of being sick, dating white guys, bumping into people, being penetrated.


Diva of Choice: Creatine.


Top or Bottom: Power Bottom.

 

 


The Church Gay

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In spite of the Black church’s reputation for homophobia and intolerance, you will find that a number of Black gay men make the church the cornerstone of their social interaction, perhaps out of a sense of familial or religious obligation, or simply because the choir is so fierce. The Church Gay is usually loyal and loving, but is prone to Tourette-like outbursts of “Jee-suss!!” in any given situation. He listens to gospel music constantly and considers Loretta Divine his spirit animal.


Activities: Cooking, talking loud, clutching his pearls, singing, being called “mother”, being single, speaking with a southern twang even though he’s from the midwest or the northeast.


Diva of Choice: Karen Clark Sheard


Top or Bottom: Sanctified Bottom.

 


The Uppity Snob

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He is educated, has a six-figure salary, a nice car and a big house, but nothing is good enough for him. He will throw dinner parties with his Coven Of The Articulate and they will all wear hard-soled shoes regardless of the season, time of day or theme. When he’s among other types of gays, he will roll his eyes, sneer, or attempt to oppress them intellectually. In spite of all his accomplishments, he’ll never be happy, can’t take a joke and never laughs. He can usually be found in the club wearing a blazer and sipping a cocktail against the wall.


Activities: Debating, sighing, having a small penis, having furniture delivered, going to the spa, being offended, finding excuses to use any word that requires a schwa.


Diva of Choice: Whitney Houston


Top or Bottom: Bottom.

 


The Alterna-Gay

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He doesn’t like the “gay scene” because he finds it “too mainstream.” You can find him a coffee shop with his MacBook Pro listening to underground Soul or Hip-Hop, writing poetry and waiting for someone with whom he can debate the oppression of goats and librarians. He often accuses people of “not getting” him and reactively dislikes anything that everyone else likes. He’s basically “The Uppity Snob” but with dreadlocks.


Activities: Poetry slams, debating, having his locks re-twisted, blogging, shopping at outdoor markets, calling himself a photographer, quoting Marcus Garvey, dating white men.


Diva of Choice: Some bitch you never heard of.


Top or Bottom: Top for white guys, otherwise bottom.

 


The Old Gay

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The Old Gay has seen everything and done everyone. He thinks you’re frivolous and that you stole everything from his generation. He will say things like “in my day, the men were men” and “remember when House music was House music?” He is short of patience and doesn’t want to hear your whining.

Activities: Knowing everything. Remembering everything.


Diva of Choice: Stephanie Mills, Teena Marie, Chaka Khan or Luther Vandross.


Top or Bottom: Like it even matters.

 

 

 


 

Be sure to check out Nova’s new Men’s Fashion Blog,  Sidney • Andre HERE.

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Nick Delmacy

Nick is a founder, editor and the pop culture expert at Cypher Avenue. Serving as the designer and webmaster of the site, he is the architect of The Cypher Avenue Matrix.

   
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