How Do I Come Out To My Mom?
Dear Cypher Ave, I’m a 22 year old gay kid from NJ. I need some advice. I want to come out to my mom but don’t know how to. Every time I want to tell her the words won’t come out my mouth. I think…
QOTW: How Much Younger or Older Would You Date?
In regards to dating, there’s overt ageism in the gay community. Even more so than for heterosexuals, I would argue.
Flirting, Texting, Cheating: What Would Be Your Final Straw When Dating?
What would be your final straw when dating?
Question of the Week: Is He Really Masculine?
You have a self-described masculine gay man. He follows and adores all the pop and R&B divas. He can name every character from Reality TV. He loves fashion and is a super trendy uber metrosexual. He uses all the gay lingo and terminologies. He is…
How Do I Deal With A Messy Fem Co-Worker?
This week we tackle a common problem that many gay men have had to deal with in the work place….The Messy Fem Co-Worker. Dear Ocky, I’ve been a periodic reader of your site since the Discreet City days. I don’t engage in the ‘scene’ and…
QUESTION OF THE WEEK: What REALLY Makes Someone A Boyfriend?
Gay men are VERY cautious about using the Boyfriend word. Maybe its because of the whole Banned Gay Marriage thing. Regular “Boyfriend Status” has replaced “Marriage Status” for many of us.
How Big Is Big Enough?
Cypher Ave co-founder Nick Delmacy sent me a link to a podcast he wanted me to listen to. This was a podcast featuring three gay men discussing a multitude of pop culture topics. The reason he forwarded me the podcast cast was because Cypher Avenue…
Question Of The Week: What If Your Masc Boyfriend Was A Public Cry Baby?
What if the guy you were dating, either new or long-term, started crying out loud in public. Maybe it was a reaction to something you said to him…or maybe it was a response to a phone call about a loved one…Snot tears and all that.
Looking For Friends. Must Be Attractive.
Do we view what we deem unattractive/ugly as being a negative trait and therefor making one unworthy of friendship? Do gay and straight men who require attractiveness in other men secretly want them as sex partners or is there something more?
Why Do Gay Men Degrade Other Men By Referring To Them As Females?
Question Of The Week: Why Do Gay Men Degrade Other Men By Referring To Them As Females? I noticed something last week amongst gay men when viewing their conversations online via social media. Anytime one gay dude or dudes wanted to degrade another man,…
Who Would You Rather Date?
Question Of The Week – Who Would You Rather Date? For me, the negative reactions from some black gays concerning the revelation that Derrick Gordon and Michael Sam are dating white men has been mind numbing. The outrage from some black gays is basically that…
Is It Ever Okay To Out Someone?
Is It Ever Okay To Out Someone? My first instinct is to say no; however I than thought of these two possible scenarios.
How Will You Grow Your Relationships In 2014?
How will you be a better man in 2014?,
Question Of The Week: How Far Would You Drive For A Date?
If you are interested in a guy; how far would you be willing to drive to date him?
Question Of The Week: Does Masculine Privilege Exist?
Do you believe masculine privilege exist in the gay community?