36. Don’t repeat yourself…or your mistakes.
Every past meet up, date and/or relationship is a lesson. Learn from these experiences and grow. What that also means is you shouldn’t repeat the past if it hasn’t worked for you. Why keep dating the same types of men if every one of them has led to the same result. If guys with lots of tattoos and no job always seem to let you down, STOP DATING THAT TYPE OF GUY!
37. If you tell him “I miss you” and he doesn’t offer to link up, you’ve just admitted to being a fool. Delete the Number.
Deleting the number is the only sure way to resist the urge to make a fool of yourself, especially when drunk texting. The “I miss you” texts are just potential self-esteem busters because you run of the risk of him blowing you off after your declaration.
38. Jealousy is the real-life equivalent of “Spidey Sense”… Pay attention to that shit, might be true.
Every guy that I dated who was ALREADY in a relationship complained about their boyfriend’s excessive jealousy. What they failed to accept was that their lover’s suspicions were actually TRUE. Listen to your gut feelings, oftentimes they’re right on the money.
39. Be flexible with any flawed guy that at least shows interest and attention.
The main problems with dating arises when a guy becomes distant, busy or inaccessible. If the man is at least around and seems into you, all other problems can eventually be worked out.
40. He can’t be a Flirt, a Drinker AND be Loyal/Faithful…That shit never adds up.
The same way that sexy, muscled man you’re dating flirts with you while drunk is the same way he flirts with others when not around you. I’ve personally witnessed a flirtatious man supposedly in a relationship give in after a couple heavily poured drinks.
41. When you show another man that you’re thirsty, you give him all the power in the budding relationship.
Being on equal ground is important, especially in the beginning. It’s more interesting if each person is somewhat a challenge to acquire. It’s important to show interest, but if you appear to be ready to pick out drapes for your hypothetical home together, that could scare him off.
42. If he texts you, “I miss you” that means the person he tried to replace you with dumped him so he’s digging for old scraps.
Play this any way you choose but just know what you’re getting yourself into. You hold the power, either way. I’ve been on both sides of this and it’s definitely better to be on the receiving end of one of these texts than on the giving.
43. If he just broke up with his boyfriend less than 5 weeks ago…Bet money they’ll be back together soon. Move On.
This is the definition of a Rebound Situation. I can see if it had been six months or even a year. But a month or less later, those feelings for his EX haven’t been shut off just yet. If you’re okay with the occasional cancelled date and ignored text message from him due to him being off and on with his recent “Ex”, then go for it!
44. Never try to keep someone who doesn’t want to keep you.
With 7 billion people in the world, why fight to stay with someone that constantly demonstrates that he’d rather be with someone else or alone? Speaking from experience, I’ve personally wasted precious months of my life on men that, in hindsight, saw me just as a low-priority “one of many.”
45. EVERY relationship has an end…just enjoy it while it lasts and have no regrets.
Even the relationships that last 50 years end because someone will eventually die in the long run. I say that to say: Look at every encounter, even the negative ones, as a lesson for the next. Don’t mourn the loss of the person, celebrate the good memories you both share together.
Even the relationships that last 50 years end because someone will eventually die in the long run. I say that to say: Look at every encounter, even the negative ones, as a lesson for the next. Don’t mourn the loss of the person, celebrate the good memories you both share together.
46. Cutting him off is the ONLY way to guarantee no more second, third, forth chances.
When he tells you a CLASSIC GAY LIE, the urge is to believe him…especially if he is attractive or financially stable or great to talk to…Deleting the number from your phone and cutting him off is the only sure-fire way to resist urge to fall for more bullshit.
47. Don’t let Ex Relationships mess up Future Relationships.
Everyone has to deal with the dating game bullshit eventually. Most of us have fallen victim to the gay sociopaths and game players of the world at one point or another. The key thing is to not let those experiences cause you to assume that every other situation will have the same result. In my book, everyone starts off with good credit. It’s on them to keep their credit score high.
Everyone has to deal with the dating game bullshit eventually. Most of us have fallen victim to the gay sociopaths and game players of the world at one point or another. The key thing is to not let those experiences cause you to assume that every other situation will have the same result. In my book, everyone starts off with good credit. It’s on them to keep their credit score high.
48. Long Distance Relationships are Pen Pals with Sexting.
Unless one person is in the Military, gay long distance relationships rarely work out. True they may talk and text every day, but that alone does not make a relationship. If you’re that desperate to exchange mail with someone, there are plenty of fit men in prison that would love to hear from you.
49. Body full of costly tattoos but he’s ALWAYS crying broke, phone getting cut off, etc…MOVE ON – DELETE THE NUMBER.
This STILL happens to one sexy, tattoo-filled light skin man that I know yet he STILL gets more elaborate and costly tattoos. He’s showing the world where his priorities are. True that a tattoo is more permanent than a temporary phone bill, but being able to pay your bills on time demonstrates responsibility, a key quality to have for any potential mate.
50. Young Gay men are rarely in relationships where mutual love was involved. In hindsight, it was all lust.
Many young gay men don’t know the difference between Love and Lust. Even I’ve had my moments where I confused the desire to be with a man for Love instead of what it really was: The Strong desire to have sex. If Love is what you think is causing you hesitation from leaving a bad relationship, consider the possibility that it may just be the sex.
Read Tips 1 – 25 of the Top 50 Quick Dating Tips for the New Year, In Just One Click.
– Nick D
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Nick Delmacy
Nick is a founder, editor and the pop culture expert at Cypher Avenue. Serving as the designer and webmaster of the site, he is the architect of The Cypher Avenue Matrix.
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I’d like to personally shake the hand of the author of this article. This is perfect!
Good food for thought, @nick
Just finished reading part 1 & 2. It is helping me to put things into perspective in relation to this dude I met about 6 months ago. We just can’t get it together. And even though he’s definitely #39 (which explains why I’ve been holding out for 6 months), he has also showed signs of too many of the others. I’m kind of depleted at this point. Time to move on. Thanks for this bruh.