White Gay Men are the Worst

By OckyDub | Posted Nov 1 2017 | 18 Comments  

Ok…SOME white gay dudes. Click bait title aside; years ago after visiting and scrolling through numerous mainstream gay websites and blogs, the only thing that showed color was the shadow I was casting on my desk. These sites were dominated by all white faces and bodies. When you did see a rare non-white face it was discussing the HIV/AIDs crisis or showing a mug shot of some male criminal who happened to have preyed upon a gay. This was one of many factors that went into creating Cypher Avenue and years later not much has changed.

I didn’t need Frank Ocean to call out GLAAD for being eerily silent on Trayvon Martin because I recall how these sites didn’t care about James C. Anderson until they found out he was gay. A few years ago the LGBTQ member heavy Black Lives Matter begin to call attention to police brutality, racial profiling and white supremacy – and by extension of their interests – call out these LGBTQ websites on social media for their lack of attention of seemingly non-white issues impacting non-heterosexuals. This was all happening coincidentally at a time when many of these sites were worshiping at the altar of Beyonce and Big Freedia, while many white gay men were (and still are) mimicking the dispositions of Black women.

Years later, a few of these white male imagery dominated sites have included non-white faces as thirst trap fodder, Drag Race episode recaps and Tiger Mandingo updates to supplement their twink or masc leaning obsessions. Diversity boxes checked.

I periodically visit these sites and blogs to affirm my view points and observations…leaving with a ‘yall-still-aint-shit’ smirk on my face.

My ‘(some) white gay dudes are the worst’ rector scale meter deep past critical when reading…or should I say viewing the piece of shit post on Queerty Underwear designer Modus Vivendi proudly presents the Hip-Hop 90s Sports Brief”. I want to point out this particular posting of theirs was categorized under “Street Cred” because nothing says street cred like a pair of underwear.

This is the title / banner pic they used for their posting…I shit you not. 

This is the underwear model used within their post, which is from the designer’s website…

Yep…a hairless twink wearing a pair of underwear. My dumb ass was thinking I was going to see a boom box or a purple cassette tape or some graffiti embossed on said bloomers…nope. Just a twink in a $20 pair of underwear.

Designer Christos Bibitsos’ website states:

“Inspired by classic 90s street fashion, this retro menswear line by Modus Vivendi is fit for athletes, sportsmen and streetwear fashionistas.”

What the fuck is ‘street fashion’ or ‘street wear’? Do you see hip-hop when you look at this twink in these two sizes too small underwear?

According to the author of this post, Queerty’s Derek de Koff;

“So if you’re a huge hip-hop fan, you should probably swagger through the streets in a pair of these.”

Really my Wigga?

It’s not just the “what did you just say” terminology in the post…it’s the whole post (please click on the link. Yes I know it will give them page views). The post copies the horrible style that BuzzFeed made popular by not really writing anything (lazy) and filling the page up with outdated gifs and memes to appear hip, cool and sassy for their mostly white liberal audience.

As far as the designer is concerned; not only isn’t there any non-white men on his website, there aren’t any non-white men modeling his hip-hop inspired fashions…not hardly shocking from a hip white gay male fashion designer.

Dear White Gays,

1. Please come up with better ways to display your liberal white guilt besides posting bullshit like this article on Queerty.

2. While you’re at it, can you also stop harping on dating app racism? Most non-white gays, who date non-white gays, don’t give a fuck about dating app racism because it doesn’t apply to the majority of non-white non-heterosexual men.

3. Stop mimicking Black women’s mannerisms and sayings. They obtained their mannerisms and slang from Black gay men, who -according to the dating app racism- you don’t fuck with any way.

Also for good measure…

4. Madonna did not invent Voguing. If you were brave enough to enter any Black Ball Room contest, you would leave with your hip hop inspired underwear in your purse.

A Black (non-heterosexual) Dude Who’s Peeped Your Game Years Ago







About the Author

Octavius is a founder and editor of Cypher Avenue. He's here to help speak for us and show the world that masculine gay / bisexual men of color are not a part of the stereotypical gay normal that is seen and fed to the masses. No...we are a distinct breed, filled with character and pride. Cypher Avenue is here to show the world how we are different.

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18 Comments Feel Free To Join The Cypher.

  1. Jai
    Jai | November 1st, 2017

    The model needs to eat something. He needs some meat on his bones! I bet if he turn around, nothing but flatness.

    • KENNETH HECKSTALL | December 4th, 2017


  2. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | November 1st, 2017

    *I had to see this post while NOT being on Cypher ave.-which is strange*

    LMAO! -nothing says "Hip-Hop" like a white twink almost naked wearing only underwear! I did lol at that.

    1. Agree…any ideas for the white guilt expression-for those white gays? I already have a small whip and hairshirt. Plus I did kind of donate some money to this site.. 😉

    2. But it does make us look bad and it extends to all other groups as well-it is as much our..er..well..their issue as well. And it has to be dealt with by er…them. I have never liked any site that allowed a racial(or any other preference)to be stated in a rude way. The apps themselves are as bad as the racists using them because they allow the racism-this was not always the case with dating or even hookup sites-I can remember using ones(pre-internet and post internet)that did not allow it. It diminishes us all. JMHO.

    3. Yes, yes, and yes…but you(not you but you as in so many) black gays might start by setting an example?-why do so many black gays act like black women?-or any woman? Just saying. Are black women ok with so many black gay men acting like them-acting like women-but are upset with white gay men because they are engaging in 'cultural appropriation'…but black gay men are not-even though so many are adopting a 'culture' that is not of a different race, but of a different sex? Is that not 'gender appropriation'??

    4. I don't know anything about that 'Vogue-ing' shit-that is for some queer-identifying white gay.

    White gays have pretty much sucked and dropped the ball when it comes to gays of color. I realized this when I kept going to that black gay bar-and my friend and I were the only white people there. Blacks would go to 'white' clubs, but whites would not go to or support black ones. And this was what?-nearly 30 years ago.

    White gays are heavily self-centered, caught up in their own lives and business, were(apparently permanently)distracted from many other social issues because of the AIDS crisis, and they are generally myopic, shallow, selfish, and self-absorbed-just like most all gays are, actually.

    *Regarding 'non-white gays'. You really think Asian, White/Mestizo Hispanics, Arab, etc. gays 'have your back'? These groups generally do not really have your back much more(if any more)than most white gays or most white straights for that matter. Sad but true.

    * @Ockydub If you don't eviscerate me then I know @Rico will.

  3. mojoreece
    mojoreece | November 1st, 2017

    When Ist read this I thought this is some type of Halloween joke right? :gucci:Nope. I just want to know so there was no black person in the marketing meeting to say this is not a good idea. The whole idea does not make sense.:maxine:

  4. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | November 1st, 2017

    Ocky knew I would be right on this post like a fly on shit. smh. Just like I said….nice guy in the podcasts, and a provocative asshole when posting. Of course my dumb ass was right in here with a rambling bullshit post.

    i hate everybody.gif

  5. OckyDub
    Ockydub | November 1st, 2017

    Please tell me you went to the site and saw the actual post? Did you see the white gay fuckeries?

  6. OckyDub
    Ockydub | November 1st, 2017

    All jokes aside… I hope this post makes people google James C. Anderson's murder and the BS his partner and family went through.

  7. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | November 1st, 2017

    Quote from one of the responders…

    "Remember that they are a Greek company so to assume that the US’s definition of Hip Hop is the only one is imperialism." LMAO!!

    Yeah the Greeks are all about that Hip Hop…


  8. mojoreece
    mojoreece | November 1st, 2017

    Im was just over it. :camby: The designer should be embarrassed for himself He couldn't design something better and come up with a nice theme. The girls at my high school could design stuff out of empty Capri-Sun packs. At least that was innovative this just lazy.

  9. OckyDub
    Ockydub | November 1st, 2017

    You know what, I can give them there Greeks a pass….but what about the US based author who posted these here fuckeries on Queerty? This type of shit is common on White gay lead websites. This is not an isolated issue and I hinted to a couple of examples in the post.

  10. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | November 1st, 2017

    I was making fun of the idiot 'micro-aggressed' poster not the Greeks -that poster, they missed the whole point. And actually most of the posts seem to be calling out the ridiculousness of it? Am I missing something? Also I will not attempt to answer for anything that a place called "
    Queerty" is gonna put out(or any site like that). WHY have stupid gays adopted that damn word?
    That is going to go as well as women 'adopting' the word 'bitch'-see how well that worked out? smh.

    *and why are only my and @Jai 's comments showing up on the site post(read the whole post here thing)? And why the FUCK does my wink show up as a giant fucking emoji on there? WTF? Am I seeing something nobody else is seeing?

    I am done…taking some drugs and going to sleep now….

  11. OckyDub
    Ockydub | November 1st, 2017

    Its just a technical delay that has always existed since The Boards were created. The main site pulls comments from Twitter, FB and The Boards. They will show. #SimmaDownNah

  12. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | November 2nd, 2017

    Oh. OK.

    I never look at the main site part. I forget it is even there like that. Been sick for ten days now(again!)and raggedy nerves are showing.

  13. Apollo
    Apollo | November 2nd, 2017

    For the the most part I agree with Ocky. As a white non-hetero, I believe that was a poor attempt, no real effort by Queerty.

    Maybe they should hire Ocky and Nick as consultants.

  14. jusrawb
    jusrawb | November 3rd, 2017

    If i wasn't in a relationship I would want to explore dating outside my race but the pure ignorance and the "i dont care to learn" attitude, like the author of that post, some people give off would easily cause problems

  15. takeyourmeds91
    takeyourmeds91 | November 3rd, 2017

    Too easy…

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  16. Cyrus-Brooks
    Cyrus-Brooks | November 4th, 2017

    Queerty is as tone deaf as the white guys who frequent there site. For them the world begins and ends with the WGM perspective. If that wasn't the case they'd know that in the 1990s hip hop heads we're wearing Calvin Klein and Tommy Hilfiger boxers and boxer briefs. Most kats back then wore basic no-name plaid boxer shorts. Most bruthas even the gay bruthas wouldn't be caught dead in string bikini underwear especially if they were hip hop heads.

  17. BlackguyExecutive
    BlackguyExecutive | November 6th, 2017

    We have to remember that I think like 99% of all gay mainstream media is run by elite white gay men who benefit from white supremacy despite being gay because they are white men first and gay second. These folks are gatekeepers and they don’t want to share power. By giving more people of color and women of all colors more space to operate in their elite world will somehow reduce their power and they will not do that. I have written several letters to Out Managzine about their goto lists of gays which are overwhelmingly white and overwhelming men I get the same reply “we are really trying” to showcase more diversity but in reality, they are showcasing tokenism. That is exactly why we need platforms like this and for minorities to create their own spaces and go mainstream.

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