Best Posts in Thread: Time > Growth >Change = still judged?

I'm not sure I could do it...any of those professions...and I'm probably one of the more generous guys on this site when it comes to giving ppl a chance to define themselves based on more than just their mannerisms, education, financial status or job...

I also kinda reject the way this question was setup in the O.P. To say stripping, doing porn and drag shows is "just young men being young men" is false. The majority of people don't do those things. Those are choices ppl make that are, for the most part, considered out of the norm and taboo (even though tons of ppl enjoy watching them do it). This is truly evident with the guys themselves who often try to keep their pasts a secret for as long as possible because they know how its viewed.

My general attitude is if you did things in your youth that would make it near impossible for you to run for congress or be the principle at a high school, odds are we're not gonna be compatible.

This includes being a heavy drug user, which I would argue is far more common for 20 year olds to do than stripping and porn.

This question goes to my concern about all these young guys who post nudes all over Tumblr and Xtube, and do explicit sex scenes in web series. It's all a part of the devaluing of their worth which can have future consequences for their careers or lives (STIs, Loss of income, etc). Not to mention it adds to the stereotype that all gay men engage in these types of activities.

 

I think it all depends on perspective. Ten years, a decade is a long time. There is a big difference between an 18-year-old, 28-year-old, and 38 years old. Or at least there should be a difference. If we were all judged solely on our past selves the world would likely be a pretty lonely place. I frequented the club scene as a teen and young 20-something. I experimented with clothing and various degrees of expression. I even entered a drag competition and still pictures on my phone to prove it, although I somehow managed never to have any of those pictures get uploaded to FB. I dated men who were sluts in their past, should someone body count be used against them? As a younger man in HS, I was into the performing arts, I danced in ballets, did musicals, played musical instruments, 20 years later I am a clean cut, carefully articulated globetrotter. People change. People grow, I am sure we have all done things in our past that we certainly wouldn't want to be judged for today.

With respect to porn, do these amateur porn site count or are you talking about pornstar status? Does the brother have fans and shit? Or is he wanking his willy on pornhub or vidster?