Can You Date A Man That Has Any Type of Interaction Whatsoever With Any Exes?

In Case of Emergency Peen or Boodee lol

 

This feels like debating interracial dating, religion or faith. People have a free will to know (at the time) what is right for them.

 

I could, but Im also extremely unjealous. If u know how to act right, then go be friends w whoever u want. Im not a baby sitter, nor am I in the market for one.

 

....that's jumping the gun, but you're right, we'll agree to disagree.

 

Not that shade! Lmao.

For real, for real, Im really not the possessive, jealous type at all.

 

Pull it out

 

Truthfully, I don't have anything to do with any exes that I have. All of them have ended on good terms except for one but I don't communicate with any of them and I would expect the same from the guy I'm dating. I do not think that it has anything to do with maturity level. Once we go our separate ways, that's it. No periodic texts or meet ups. None of that shit. There are literally BILLIONS of other people in the world to be friends with. I understand that the gay world is a lot smaller but there are enough of us in the world that you can find friends that you haven't dated. Unless, you have a high ass body count, then maybe finding friends whom you haven't seen naked at some point might be difficult.

 

My dude...Thank you...

 

#slutshamming

 

You lot are going to hate me, but I still don't get the problem behind someone being friends with their ex or someone that they have dated.

....and the whole being socially limited and that there are a billion other people you could be friends is rubbish. Those billions of other people's aren't accessible to me.

 

Well of course billions is an exaggeration but I'm sure you get the gist. There are a lot of people in the world that you can be friends with, other than an ex. I find that a lot of gay guys (for unknown reasons) can only be friends with other gay guys or women. Open yourself up to straight men or people that you may not normally be friends with.I have straight male friends, gay male friends, and straight female friends. I met them though various different means. I've never seen any of them butt ass naked, swapped spit with any of them, or had my ding dong in any of their various orifices (and vice versa) I'm not saying that is not possible to be friends with an ex, its just not something that I choose to engage in and I would expect the guy that I'm dating to do the same. It kind of boils down to comfort level. I'm just not comfortable with my dude hanging out and texting exes. It doesn't speak to whether or not I trust my dude (because if thats the case then we wouldn't be together anyway).

 

On a real note, If you my Ex, then there is probably a reason we are not together. I typically write my exes off to go live their lives. I never understood remaining "friends" with Exes. For me, I am only friends with one of my Exes and that is because we parted ways on good terms and to no fault of either party (He moved for work). We remained friends over the years and he even came to my wedding. Other than that. NOPE!! There is too much shade out there and I personally don't have time to be carrying around the baggage of a past relationship.

 

It's not that easy my brother. A lot of "said" adults are still struggling with personal insecurities so situations like this will prominently occur unless it's handled

 

Now I definitely agree with you on this.

 

I have only had one "kind of" ex. I was dating a guy for 2 months and when we broke it off, we still remained friends. He has since moved on and I just saw a video of him proposing to his current dude. I am mad happy for him and wish him well. I am not a jealous type of dude and would still like to be his friend even in his current situation.

 

Ima need for us to stop having interest in the same menses tho. Im mad we're in 2 diff cities but we're 2 for 2 lol

 

You keep tryna be like me...I can't be everybody's role model...lol

 

I've encountered this problem.

I was with my dude for 10yrs. We lived with and at one point worked together.
We were part of each other's families, he had become completely intertwined with mine especially.
My Mom thought of him and referred to him as her other son.
After he moved to ATL, his Aunt gave me our old apartment that I live in to this day.
Our breakup at first wasn't easy but we were able to overcome our problems and become genuine friends.
People we both dated after each other had difficulties understanding and accepting our friendship but we were family.

When he'd come to town, we could still hang out and go to the movies and walk back to Brooklyn, talking like the old days but without the romantic component.
If either one of us had a problem we could and did talk on the phone, helping the other one out.
I can't speak for him but my love for him had grown beyond what it was and if he were still here, I believe we'd still be as close as we ever were.

But not romantically.

 

Reading the comments on this thread are soooo interesting. My friends and I have had this conversation but we factored race into it. Since many in my circle have dated across the rainbow, we were surmising that black guys seemed to draw a harder line against and if that's true, why...We came up with nothing conclusive, LOL. In my personal dating experience, I am on good terms with all but 2 ex's and regular friends (as in see each other, hang out, dinner, movies, etc) with 4 of them. None of them are "ICE Peen/Booty" - never even came close once after the sexual relationship ended. I was well on the way to friendship with a guy that I dated for 10 years but his new boo said "none of that" and he complied. Personally, I consider my ex weak for doing so since we had ALL hung out together (at their house, mind you) on at least 2 occasions with no apparent problem/inappropriate behavior. The sad part is that not only did he cut me off after 13 years of knowing each other but all of our mutual friends as well. The guy I've been seeing for 4 years now also thinks that the complete cut-off rule is appropriate (which we have argued about). He also has trust issues with gay men that I hope I've positively impacted as I do not behave in (negative) ways that he and his platonic gay friends are used to with the men they typically date. I don't get it. If you can salvage something that works between the two of you why not? And yes, you can still make new friends while doing that.

 

I just got through talking MAJOR shit about gay men. I loved this post! I wish that I could find gay black genuine men in my sphere!??!

Okay, pheww. Got all that out. Seriously, it's sad about your friend. This makes me a little more tolerant of exes remaining friends. Thanks for sharing this. AWESOME response!

 

Personally, I can honestly say that I can date a guy who is friends with his ex, if there are no romantic feelings on both ends. I understand that we hear the cliche your "ex is an ex for a reason" and that friendship after relationship isn't possible; but I do believe some couples are better off as friends, than lovers. Am I friends with any of my ex's? Yes, but that doesn't mean I want to get back together with them at any given time. I'm cordial towards a few not all, and it really depends on how the relationship ended.

Now do I become friends right away with them after a relationship? No, like anyone else I need my time to heal, but in time it can happen. Just because we didn't work out as lovers do not mean we can't be good friends with one another, and still want to see each other happy when it comes to love and future relationships with other individuals.