Do We Attract The Type of Men That We See Ourselves As?

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  1. African King

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    I was watching the Lip Service Podcast (see: Cinematic TV on YouTube) and Angela Yee from The Breakfast Club had Estelle on her podcast and they talked about relationships, sex and dating. Some of the ladies on the show feel like they have attracted men in their lives that have not been good for them based on the "frequency" or "wavelength" that they were on at that time in their lives in the past.

    Do you guys think that the "law of attraction" has anything to do the men that come into your life for dating or LTR?
     
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    I think @OckyDub somewhat believes in this type of thinking. He used to have conversations with me all the time about stuff like this.

    Personally, I'm on the fence. I think ppl have preferences for what the "think" they are attracted to at any given time. Often times this can be the type of people that always lead to disappointment.

    I haven't heard the podcast, but what if the women found better men later in life because THEY had changed as well. They became better lures for the higher quality men. Michelle Obama could pull a guy like Barack Obama because SHE was someone Barry found to be a quality partner, even long before they became The Obamas.

    So, of course, if you're a bitter, angry, argumentative, Black woman bringing nothing to the table, you're not gonna attract the men who aren't looking for that. Same applies to gay men in many ways.
     
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    I would say I agree with them. I believe in the Law of Attraction and its probably why my dating life as of late has been less than stellar. We're all works in progress tho. And mismatches definitely do happen which is why alot of relationships fail.

    And I know a lot of people dont believe in this and I sometimes dont but luck is a huge factor in dating. U and another person literally gotta be on the same wavelength at the same damn time to get anywhere in the dating scene. No matter how put together you think you are it comes into play.

    The Law of Attraction works better for your own self and goals. Dating complicates the concept to the 100th power.
     
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    I guess. I think people attract what they give off. I also think people are intuitively attracted to certain energies. I grew up in am abusive household. As an adult ive only had 2 deep level relationships and they both also grew up in abusive households. one was emotionally abusive but i saw it early and bailed before it escalated. The other one i didnt notice it until it was too late. The point im making is I think the three of us were just recreating our child hoods
     
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    Yall are gone run this convo into the ground, huh? lmao
     
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    Everyone makes some good points on here.

    I do believe in the law of attraction for a lot of things. Personal and professional life for sure. Whatever you think about most will manifest. I like the point @hannibal made about people recreating their childhoods. I think people do that a lot unconsciously. They did touch on that in the Lip Service podcast.

    Yeah I don't know what I am attracting all the way but I am not perfect. I am trying to somehow be more conscious about what my thought life is. I want to be mindful of what I am attracting.
     
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    I think a lot of times people think they know what they want or they have an expectation of what they think that their "ideal partner" is but it never turns out that way. I used to think that I wanted someone who was just like me. A bit of a nerd, into reading, tech, comics, movies, etc but me and my dude are the complete opposite. He's an artist and could not care less about comics and shit but we've been together for five years and it just kind of works. He's a little more outgoing and friendly and I'm a little more reserved. Pretty much complete opposites in most ways. In general, we have the same values but he definitely wasn't what I was actively looking for. I'd say luck played a bigger part.
     
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    I believe. Now if only I can get a guy who can change my mind on some things. I need a guy who turns me on just by him speaking and he is equally turned on by me.

    For me, if we don't click on the same frequencies everything will be downhill. I have to get to know a guy well & if he can earn my trust & show me aggression and intellect, I'll low-key submit to him... But that's our Cypher secret..
     
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