Grown Men Call, Little Boys Text - Do You Agree???

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  1. African King

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    Hey gentlemen! I remember a woman speaking about dating and how she feels that grown men who are confident will pick up the phone to call whoever he is into. Then she spoke about how little men, or immature men, usually prefer to stick to texting instead of calling. Do you guys agree?

    How are you guys when you come across a man and you both exchange contacts?
    Do you prefer to be on the phone talking to a man when you are getting to know him and even past the initial dating stages?
    Do any of you prefer to text when getting to know or when dating people?

    Your thoughts?
     
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    I do think that it's the old school way of doing things to call because that's what many of us know and understand before technology took over. The only thing is that now, there are some men that may mean well but they just prefer to not talk on the phone. I believe we just have to find out what the best fit is for us when it comes to dating. If the man knows you prefer to talk on the phone, he will accommodate you if it matters to him. If it's not a deal breaker for you, then you will accommodate him and text when you two are apart. When you two are together, you will do all the talking that you want to do.
    I know that my prefers is phone over text. I want to hear your voice. The sound of your tone.
    If I really want to get at a guy, I'll ask for his phone number. In the initial dating stage, phone conversation is important!
     
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    I think it's short-sighted and reflects the person who's passing the judgement - times are changing rapidly even in terms of communication, so if you lack the discernment to understand it's less a sign of maturity and more a change of the time then catch up.

    At the same time, I do think it's healthy to make an early transition towards more phone calls and less texting when trying to get to know someone - just makes things easier.

    Personally, I call to make sure I didn't accidentally bag a twink while in a drunken stupor lmao
     
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    It really depends on the person. OK Im a millennial lol I don't like taking on the phone and usually screen all my calls haaa:D lol.Unless I have to discuss something in detail or really have to be on the phone with someone; I avoid it lol. :yeshrug:100dap
    But if ur trying dating a dude at some point and time u do need to talk or prob videochat to see what their voice sounds like and make sure their not catfishing you.

    Im not really a person to call someone out the blue. I like to schedule when Im talking to someone on the phone (similar to a phone interview) to make sure we're both free to talk without distractions in the background. I hate talking to ppl while their cleary not available to talk. That's a pet peeve of mine :mad:
    That's why I mostly text 1st.:ufdup:
     
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    While a substitute, texting can never replace phone or in person conversations. Muthafuckas act like they're on the international space station having to communicate with people back on earth....then wondering how/why they get catfished.
     
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    Sorry loves, I'm going to give my vote for talking instead of texting. It does kinda depend on the situation but it's always nice to hear a man's voice.

    My Hawaiian friend always text'd me. That was one of my pet peeves. I really don't like a guy that doesn't establish communication with me and just texts instead...All the time. I told him that was annoying and he just stayed on in his own lil smartphone world...and I dailed right on out of his corner.

    I'm just old fashioned..I suppose. When a man wants something, he makes an effort... texting is rather effortless in my eyes. Not saying we can't text or anything sometimes...just not all the time.

    This post reminded me of my early high school days on the phone with my best friend all night or listening to some boy trying to "mack" on me...

    Sorry, Sydney..I don't want your peen...

    Oh yeah, back to the post...

    Dudes these days use texting as a crutch. Short on talk, big on bull...will even break up with you via text instead of face to face.

    I do like to see that text that says, "I'mma call you in a little bit." Maybe, even if he texts me and tells me he can't wait to talk to me or am I free to talk...

    Yeah, texting is fine then...Might even get him a special treat.
     
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    Im equally split between both talking on the phone and texting. Both of these done in excess can be annoying IMO.

    If the person isn't the best at phone conversation, the awkward silence or you controlling the whole conversation is annoying. If its a full discussion with someone who can communicate and is very charming than absolutely on the phone. Text is just for quick messages to let someone know something or to confirm/make plans.

    Personally my favorite is still flat out talking in person, i.e bar, dinner, park, home watching netflix, etc. Even if Im getting to know them for several weeks. They don't need to call me. A simple text saying wassup or thinking of you, is fine. Followed by plans to meet tomorrow to talk and hang in person.
     
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    Thats like saying the generation that didnt have phones saying "A real man would write a woman a letter, it shows romance and maturity". Everyone is different and times have changed. The next generation probably will say " A real man will Facetime a woman blah blah blah." Me personally I think there should be a balance, lets use all sources of communication to get to know each other. Just like you may text all the time and find out they can't verbally communicate, you may talk on the phone all the time and find out they can't form a proper sentence or know how to spell.
     
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    I think you should be aggressive without being pressuring, particularly if you are seeking a second date.
     
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