How White and Latino Gay Men Come Out Differently

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  1. Lancer

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    What does it mean to “come out”? We all generally think that coming out means a big declaration, a gay person screaming to the world “I’m gay and I’m proud!” At the very least, most would agree that coming out involves some sort of verbal announcement to or discussion with those who don’t yet know your secret.

    This is typically how psychological research thinks about coming out, and this is mirrored in U.S. popular culture. TV shows and movies have heartwarming scenes in which a young gay person learns that the best life is an out life; news stories and YouTube clips capture unique narratives of people who discuss their gay identity with their friends and family; academic research advises gay people to tell others in order to be healthy. While these are great examples that reinforce the generally good advice to come out to others, is telling others the only way to let them know that you are gay?

    Some scholars suggest that verbal disclosure as a coming out strategy works primarily within a white and male framework and is the best strategy for gay white men. Most of the data that we have on gay identity and coming out (at least in psychological research) is from gay whites (men, in particular). This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Verbal disclosure is good for gay white men. But when verbal disclosure is thought to be beneficial to all gay people, certain issues arise.

    We actually know relatively little when it comes to gay identity and coming out among gay men of color (and even less among gay women of color). One might think that “gays” in general should understand and practice coming out in the same way. However, emerging research suggests this isn’t the case. Some research shows that gay Puerto Rican and gay Dominican men in New York City do not necessarily verbally disclose their gay identity to family and friends but instead disclose nonverbally and behaviorally. For example, they might bring their same-sex partner to family functions without the direct verbalization that the two are in a romantic relationship, let alone that they are gay. In this way, others eventually know of one’s gay identity but it is just not verbally disclosed or discussed. This alternative strategy, by which gay identity is implied but unspoken has been labeled “tacit subjectivity,” or “tacitness.”

    But, is this alternative “tacitness” strategy healthy? And for whom does this strategy work? A new research paper I published with Kevin Delucio and Monica Biernat examined this question. An important element in both the traditional and alternative coming-out strategies is (non)verbal disclosure. So, we examined how verbal disclosure influenced subjective well-being — happiness and life satisfaction — for gay white men and gay Latino men in the U.S.

    Consistent with beliefs about verbal coming out, we found that more verbal disclosure of one’s gay identity predicted higher well-being, but only for gay white men. Verbal disclosure did not affect well-being for gay Latino men. This does not mean that gay Latino men don’t or shouldn’t verbally disclose. The data suggest that gay Latino men don’t need to verbally disclose in order to have higher well-being. Therefore, verbal disclosure seems to benefit gay white men’s well-being but doesn’t seem to affect (either positively or negatively) gay Latino men’s well-being.

    But why does verbal disclosure affect the well-being of gay white and Latino men differently? We examined two possible reasons; feelings of authenticity and endorsement of a relational self-construal (don’t worry, I’ll explain this below).

    Reason 1: Feelings of authenticity.

    We found evidence that for gay white men, the more they verbally disclosed their gay identity to others, the more they felt they were showing their true, authentic selves, which in turn predicted greater well-being. This makes sense when you think about the experience of being gay. If you don't tell others, you are hiding. If you do tell others, you are "finally expressing the real you,” which leads to a host of beneficial outcomes; in this case, higher well-being.

    However, this pattern did not emerge for gay Latino men. For gay Latino men, verbal disclosure (either low or high) had no effect on their feelings of authenticity. This is not to suggest that feelings of authenticity do not improve well-being for gay Latino men; they do. What this does mean, however, is that verbal disclosure (how we typically define "coming out") has nothing to do with how gay Latino men express their authentic, "true" self.

    Reason 2. Relational self-construal — including others into one’s views of self.

    “Relational self-construal” is the extent to which you include other people into how you view yourself. As gay white men verbally disclose to others that they are gay, they begin to include specific individual relationships (e.g., best friend who now knows of and accepts their gay identity) into how they view themselves, which leads to higher well-being. In essence, gay white men who verbally disclose begin to shift from viewing themselves as a completely independent person to someone who is connected with and understood by relationships with important others who now know they are gay.

    But this pattern did not hold for gay Latino men. Gay Latino men can (and do) have a "relational self-construal," but it is not influenced by verbal disclosure (or even perhaps their gay identity, overall). For gay Latino men, they may already feel strong connections with others — perhaps based on their ethnic identity — and verbal disclosure of gay identity to others has no impact on these feelings of relatedness.

    So is there a “best” coming-out strategy that people should practice? The answer is, it depends. Our research suggests that verbal disclosure is good for gay white men’s well-being, and we demonstrated two reasons why this is the case. However, verbal disclosure isn’t as beneficial for gay Latino men’s well-being. In fact, gay Latino men can practice verbal or nonverbal disclosure without taking a hit to their well-being.

    Can gay white men practice nonverbal disclosure? Of course, many can and do, but this strategy may contribute to lower well-being.

    The tak away message: We suggest that verbal disclosure is good for gay white men. Yet verbal or nonverbal disclosure is fine for gay Latino men. Of course, we need more research to study these patterns, especially as they play out over the long term. But it seems that a one-size-fits-all notion of what constitutes healthy expression of gay identity is not viable.

    ADRIAN VILLICANA is a graduate student in social psychology at the University of Kansas.

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    As a Jamaican man who is gay and unable to come out, the issue for me is self actualization of my homosexuality. That involves expression of it through the normal life experiences a straight persons would go through, loving relationships and sex. Those things can't be normally discussed in the traditional Latino and Jamaican family environment. Religion will always be a dominating factor in both cultures as it is bed rock of the family.

    A homosexual relationship is considered wrong and abnormal. This embedded in many Latino and black afro-caribbean psyche from a young age. It plays on your own personal growth and approach to healthy sexual needs, wants and behaviors later in life. When you hear for 15 to 20 years of your life being gay is nasty and wrong, your brain is in a psychological turmoil. You keep a false sense of hope that maybe this is just a phase, you are possibly on the fence about this. Your life is in continual limbo and you are unable to move forward and free yourself to embrace your sexuality. The lock and key is often held by family over this through the power of religion and societal backlash. As long as you remain attached to the environment, there is no chance for moving forward.
     
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    I think much of this is really just about culture. I wonder how they 'found' the gay white men who participated in this study? I would think that a gay white male growing up in a conservative religious area and having a conservative religious family and culture would have more in common in regards to 'coming out' with the Latino men than other gay men in more liberal families and cultural settings. I have known more than a few white gay men from very conservative areas of Appalachia and they tend to be closer to the Latino mold of coming out than the white one. For them it is not about color, it is about culture. The ones who do 'come out' in the 'white' way tended to be the ones who were leaving the area anyways and who had the least attachment to family.
     
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