Snitches

I don't believe in outing people on purpose.

However I also have no issue with the real truth of the dead coming to light People got mad at Patti Labelle for confirming Luther Vandross was gay. Most people suspected/figured/accepted it beforehand but I didn't have a problem with this. He's been dead for a while now. The world still turns. Some people wanted to live in the fantasy that he wasn't. But I think it's important that he was able to be talented and successful and gay even if only a few people really knew.

I also feel that "I ain't no snitch" is a detriment to Black people getting the justice they deserve from crimes committed by other black people. It causes more pain and questions and people never get the closure they deserve. If you know who killed a crying grandma's son and see her and her grand children's crying faces on TV looking for answers to what happened to their dad and #nosnitch got your mouth shut, you are a rotten human being.

But ... I think that if I went to a gay party and saw The Rock there with his mouth locked on to Idris Elba, it's not my place to run and tell that to the masses. That's for them to do.

It's just not cool to out people. Usually the intent is malicious or you are mad because they've moved on. Or you want fame or a few thousand from a gossip site. Makes them look bad because if you can't keep your mouth closed for a celebrity what will you say about me to anyone else?

 

Been awhile since I followed this but could have swore Hernandez kinda came out in his suicide note. Also didn't his prison sex partner and his high school boyfriend provide details by way of interviews as well? For me now, anyone discussing Hernandez's (at minimum bisexuality) sexuality is doing just that, discussing, not snitching.

My mindset is when we discover by way of books, interviews etc, that a famous person (Marvin Gaye, Marlon Brando, Dizzy Gillespie, Mile Davis, Richard Pryor) is non-heterosexual, for me its grounding and humanizing. It lets me know regardless of the attributes they're famous for, they were still humans with sexual desires. In a small way it combats the "othering" of non-heterosexual people.

BUT if I completely erase Hernandez from the table...Hollywood Simpson and the chick who tried to out Dwight Howard can kick rocks. From my personal experiences, no one outs homosexuals more than other fem leaning homosexuals.

 

Reminds me of the fantasy post I started featuring these two (with gifs and err-thang) that I was gonna post but changed my mind.