Being Bisexual

Discussion in 'Group Discussions' started by Piye, Dec 19, 2018.

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  1. not a real thing. They're just confused gays in denial.

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  2. greedy mofos that along with DL bruhs should be exiled to Sentinel Island

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  3. legitimate members of the LBGTQ community with real attraction to both sexes

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  4. hot but don't deal with them because they can't make up their minds about what they want

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  1. Piye

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    I am Black. I am Male. I am Masculine. I am Employed. There are certain labels I am comfortable having attached to me -- that I even embrace. As it relates to those used in a sexual context, not so much. One reason I reject sexuality labeling is that I believe these labels to be more useful to others than they are to me. It is Survival 101. Human nature seeks to compartmentalize others so that they can determine how they will respond to you: flee, fight or fuck. I understand it. Although I have principled reservation about assuming a sexuality label, doing so purely for discussion purposes is not difficult. I haven't lived this long for nothing. I actually know who I am. I am sexually attracted to both women and men. I have had male and female sexual partners. If I was cornered into choosing a sexual label, bisexual would be what most closely defines how I identify. I would not, if pressed, however object if someone were to brand me as pansexual since I would unreservedly smash Janet Mock and/or Shawn Stinson anytime anywhere.

    Another reason I reject sexual labeling is while the hetero world accepts, even encourages female bisexuality, male bisexuality is scorned. After finding out, if your straight homies don't diss you altogether, weirdness is guaranteed. When he tells you to suck his dick after you roasted him, wait for it. He will immediately ackwardly declare "no homo". Females will just give you a side eye with a barely audible "um humh. His gay ass." Intolerance exists even within the LGBTQ community. Some will dismiss you as some kind of complicated algebraic equation that they don't know how or have time to try to solve. 2x -y = fuck it.

    These are a few of the insights and lamentations of one bisexual man. But I'm not complaining. Like I said before, I know who I am and I like that dude. Even so, I continue to evolve. And with each iteration I level up. Hell, I may end up being all-sexual and get to sex aliens and shit. ET, what dat mouth do?

    I'm definitely interested in which squad members also identify as bisexual. I look forward to reading your individual comments as well as receiving survey responses.
     
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    I'm happily gay.

    I would not be opposed to a Shawn Stinson at all but probably would only deal with that body type. I'm not going to be interested in an average bodied FtM. If I'm giving up real peen, I need a body to step up to compensate. IJS. I like the male body. I guess male presenting body as well. Muscles, chests, arms, shoulders... all that. I could deal with some taco underneath. However, FRFR, this would be for hook up purposes only. I don't think I'd want that full time if LTR is on the table.

    Anyway, I support bisexual males. I think it is unfair that they get lumped into being 'gay' when that's not a full picture. Just like on Insecure, Jared gets lumped into 'gay' box, (a nice box to be in but if that's not you....) even though we only know of one situation where he experimented with the same sex. Women get a pass. I think white men even get a bi sexual pass. But black dudes? No.

    I mean, we have rumors/allegations of Eddie Murphy, MACE etc with trans females. However, there's no real 'proof' and even if that's there was, the females in their lives seemed to have not minded or deal with or accept it. Maybe money makes things smooth over easier tho. lol

    What grinds my gears is when a meme comes up with masculine presenting black men, you can set your watch to when a straight female will "What a waste, with all this good pussy out here, they want to be up on some dude." Knowing GOOD AND DAMNED WELL that if one of those dudes walked up to them 5 minutes later and tried to holler at them and said they were 'delivered' they would be like 'Nalwmgoodmane.' And even if they did, probably always second guessing anytime he hung out with his boys...

    "Are they REALLY playing basketball? I know it only take 10 minutes to get from the gym to his house and it's 11. What he doing if he aint home yet?"

    People are full of shit though.

    No one believes that Andrew Caldwell has crossed over to heterosexuality but black straight women will still wish that the Gay Dads Kordale and Kaleb were actually straight because 'they too fine to be gay'.

    So we recognize that sexuality is a spectrum but only when it is convenient for our desires.
     
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    I’m technically bi as I’m attracted to both women and men but preference for dudes and currently have a bf. I just go ahead say I’m gay because black people are as homophobic as many whites are racist and I’m also not ashamed of other people’s labels.

    That is, whites used to have the “one drop rule” for black blood and racial ostracism. Black folk have a similar “one dick rule”, that is, a guy has one MSM experience “that nigga gay.” On the other (stupid) hand, sometimes telling black relatives and folk that you’re bi gives them that “well at aleast he’s only HALF wrong!” hope. I just say I’m gay...clears the room and gets unnecessary mother fuckers quickly outta my life.

    And no, bi with a great reference for men is not a cop out. In the video below, that probably derailed Living Colour’s career in 1993, my first thought is I’d would most def fuck the tall, bald brother in the gold chain metal before I’d want to fuck the women in the video, who are also pretty hot. Thus preference, lol. Sadly, though they were trying to be progressive at the time, the lyrical clumsiness of the song “Bi” reflects how most black people see pangender/bisexuals/heteroflexibles/homoflexibles (i.e. sexually “greedy”)
     
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    And watching this and seeing Michael talk, suddenly realizing how sexy Stan Laurel would have been as a black man lol...
     
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    Technically?

    And what the hell is heteroflexible, homoflexible and pangender? Lmao!

    The heterosexuals have gotten some of us to feel so special as if to create an identity is for them to say "Let's exclude them, bc they have a different name tag" lol.

    If you are non-Heterosexual, the heteros only see you sucking dick, regardless of what title you put on your book cover.
     
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    You sound like you are running away from the honesty of knowing you are bisexual. You don't have to make it so difficult by making a speech dancing around it. Fuck how people will react to it.

    No one is a blank sheet of paper. It is ok to own your identity. It serves a purpose.
     
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    as long as it's not a fish taco..
     
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    Based on the survey above and my own personal experience, I feel Bi guys have this 'Air of Superiority' they carry over Gay guys. These are from Bi guys I have been in contact with; 'So you are purely Gay Gay, like never been with a woman?Wow' 'You Gay guys are really strange','So how are you going to have kids, with a woman, if you only like dudes?','Oh, I am definitely ending up with woman, messing with dudes is just for fun'.
    I think because they can easily assimilate into society (wife, kids and all) they see Gay dudes ass less than. The Bi dudes I have meet, NEVER let their female friends see them around me. I guess cos, if they asked about me I would say I was into dudes and it would raise questions about why they hanging with me. A Bi dude I was interested in told me, he was feeling me but he needs to get married and have kids, and he wants us to continue so I will share him with his wife but she can never know...
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    So now I don't mind having Bi dudes as friends ONLY, however for my own mental well-being and self preservation I have decided never to get involved with a Bi dude.
     
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    I gotta cosign @Lancer on this one. Most of the bisexual dudes (black bisexual dudes) I've come across flex their straight privilege really hard. Since its easier for them to pass as heterosexual than even the most masculine gay men. All the bi dudes met seem to look down their nose at gay men. They'll fuck a gay man but they tend to date or marry women. I've found them to be a waste of time from a dating perspective.
     
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    Yet and still, so many more fem leaning guys play along with bi men thinking it's gonna change.

    There's very little incentive for bi men to come out as bi. They don't want to cut off potential pussy, they don't want the social "stigma" of being DL, etc. It's just rare to find a black man who is bi and females are aware of it.
     
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    The Bi dudes I have been with, I never for once or even eluded to them coming out as Bi. My thing was that you can do you, however don't shit on Gay dudes. You are very quick to hookup with gay dudes and even have 6-10 on rotation but you down them when you with str8 folks, not cool!
     
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    Definitely They are no better than us for getting some fish Taco but we're all lumped together in the LGBTQAIXYZLMNOP space.

    The burden for them to not be seen as DL or normalize male bisexuality is on them. I support the journey but not going about it on a shady path.
     
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    You bring up good point effeminate gay men are huge enablers of bisexual men's fuckboy behavior. I've noticed a lot of fem dudes love chasing behind bisexual men. If I had a dollar for every time I heard a fem gay dude talking about pulling some "trade," or that they turned out a straight nigga, I'd be rich enough to play golf with Bill Gates. They're actually proud of that shit. Bruh-Really-smfh-meme-18939.jpg
    Then wanna turn around and get on social media and internet websites and cry about "toxic masculinity" 26.3.2016 - 1.jpg
    Just stop it. That's like setting fire then acting surprised when you get burned.
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