Gay Friends Be Like...

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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    All my gay friends dating dudes now...And I barely even see/talk to them anymore...

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    I do feel a certain type of way about it but I've been so busy lately so it hasn't really fully hit me yet.

    Is this common in your own experiences, both as the single friend and the one in a relationship?

    Or is this just the case with my friends? Is it even a big deal?
     
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    *You know 2.75 gay people.
    *We BOTH have offered and invited each other to do things and we both have declined the other.
    *When aren't you working?
    *I have zero doubts in my mind if you were "cuff'ed up, boo'd up or hugged up" with a kat, this post would not exist.
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    Why so immediately defensive and deflective though?

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    LOL...I'm not...just pointing somethings out down my path of passive aggressiveness while you like...
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    Everything is not always just about you. I been wrote you off as a Hangout Buddy years ago. You're a glorified pen pal, LOL.

    Overusage of guilt deflecting memes aside....I still do think this is an interesting topic...one that you do not need to comment on any further, thanks, K'bye.

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    For all other Squad Members, I wonder what is the reason for this, does it have something to do with the discussion we had in the Relationship Wanting Stigma thread. They've become addicted to the relationship drug so they don't wanna have a life outside of it?

    I have had about 5 gay friends get/got ghost after starting relationships. Other friends have told me they experienced the same thing...When I date dudes, I always try to balance and maintain other relationships (ie: Family, Friendships, Associates)...And I was very cool with my dudes wanting to hangout with their friends without me...
     
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    LOL this happens when my twin bro gets boo'ed up
     
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    My two real life gay friends are legit married with a baby on the way.We might hang this Thrusday.They've been pretty cool about still including me.Even when we go stretches without seeing each other we text or something just to see what's up.
     
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    Are there differences with your straight friends?
     
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    Married to mens?
     
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    We stopped interacting as much once their relationships got closer to the engagement stage.They've all been married for years at this point and have small children,so they have a lot of demands in their life,but they still reach out here and there,just enough to send the messagethat I still matter as a part of their lives.We might do a meet-up twice a year maybe,but no love lost.
     
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    I've mentioned before that I've gone through this with my two (old?) best friends that got together.

    I also have this other friend who lives with his girl, he hits me up every once in awhile to see if I'm available to hang and his girl is always nagging while he's on the phone. He tells me he'll call me back and then I don't hear from him for another week.
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    If you're very good looking you are viewed as a liability in a gay relationship.
     
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    I only semi-regularly interact with one gay friend, maybe more like a good acquaintance. We didn't talk all the time but we're talking less than we used to since he started seeing someone a few weeks ago.

    But there are layers to that situation. I met him awhile ago by hooking up and, even though we pretty much stopped doing that some time ago, I sometimes felt like he treated me like a boyfriend surrogate, often treating me to dinner and movies and sometimes "jokingly" calling me sexy. I always had the feeling that he would like to go out with me if only I expressed interest. So now he has someone he can go out with and get affection from too. Plus, the other guy would probably prefer that he not keep in touch with former hookup buddies.
     
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    4-legged friends make the perfect besties
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    If i had more than one gay friend, I could contribute to this conversation but since i don't, goodbye.
     
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    That's why I made it general, talked about straight friends. :yeshrug:
     
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