How would you feel (Is this ok)?

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  1. HauteChocolat

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    Theres this Iranian (grew up in Switzerland) I have the hots for. I’d be honest and say I am not looking to date him but I really want to go to bed with him… as in, concupiscence on mf’ing overdrive! We aren’t in the same country but I visit the city he lives in often enough, to get the deed done.

    I want to get his attention. I was thinking of having something nice from Dr Vranjes Firenze sent to him at his office (he posts quite a lot about his work on instagram, so I know where he works) and then reach out to him on IG afterwards.

    I couldn’t help but wonder, how would I feel if some random person did this to me? Truth is, I can’t answer this correctly right now, as I am sort of blindly fixated. I thought I might elicit a few views/opinions here - how would you feel?

    Ps. I laugh at myself on how crazy I’ve become for this person - I was at a store recently and the SA mentioned she was Iranian and I started going on about how I had a crush on this Iranian (she was chuffed - although I didn't mention it was a guy) + I am positing about it here!…SMH.
     
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    Some questions to think about....


    Do you even know if this guy is on the same team?

    What is it about this guy that makes you want to do this? His looks? Body? Ethnicity? Apparent lifestyle or swag?

    Have you considered if he's in a relationship already? What if he reacts negatively?

    Sometimes it's best to just admire people from afar.
     
  3. HauteChocolat

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    1. Oh, he is gay.

    2. I just think he is beautiful. Nothing particular about the body, he is sort of short and he doesn't appear to have the nice bubble butt I am all for; certainly not his ethnicity; nothing about his lifestyle that's particularly out of my depth we go to the same sort of restaurants and appreciate the same sort of things etc. although he is also of the LouLous/ 5 Hertford Street set, which I care little for. We were both in Florence last summer but he got in a few days after I'd left - fair chance I might have run into him otherwise, considering where he stayed/went. I'd say he's more posh than I am - he schooled at a good private school in Switzerland after all but that certainly isn't a factor - it's not like a Jay Electronica & that Rothschild-Goldsmith chic thing; Swag is less of a thing in Europe.

    3. Now that I can't tell but as @Nickdelmacy says, closed mouths don't get fed; Reacts negatively? Whats the worst that could happen? I'd just say pardon me for having good taste and keep it moving...

    4. It is indeed, considering we are loads of miles apart but sometimes one sees a photo and one thinks 'the things I would do to this guy...'

    Many thanks for this though, I guess I'd sublimate and if we do meet and there's still something there, well good. It's just the sex I want anyway.
     
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    I wouldnt send a gift, especially without this person even knowing you exist. Don't over think it, show your interest next time your in town or on IG if thats more comfortable.
     
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    Yeah, a gift might be excessive. Just talk to him. Convo would probably go a lot further.
     
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    This may be shallow, but if I received a gift from a stranger, I would welcome it if I was attracted to whoever sent it. But if I was turned off by him, it would annoy me. Just being honest.
     
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