I don't like Dark Skin!

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  1. Jai

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    What do you think of this?




    I mean is this a joke? And the girl was dumb for asking but the response was both hilarious and stupid.
     
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    Idk how valid this lil video is but the sentiments are 10000% real. While these happen to be teens, have you seen who 9/10 dark skinned dudes who strike it rich consistently 'just happen to find love' with?
     
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    I guess that's true. I'm medium brown.. a tad bit dark brown I suppose or whatever and I love me a dark skinned dude. I mean Ghanna chocolate. I don't get it. I know we've been discriminated against but they can kiss my natural chocolate ass if they think I'd be ever caught doing this.
     
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    I already saw this babe and I wanted to post it but I was like I'll wait. This got me hot. All four of them looks gorgeous. Them men started moving they chest I was like...Yes, break me off some of that.
     
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    I have a friend who is like this. He has a lovely dark skin tone but always puts other dark skin guys that approach him at a lower tier than lighter skin guys. And he doesn’t deny them cause he’s just not interested. He denies and usually makes a “with his dark skin ahh” comment. I’m like bruh....have you looked in a mirror lately lol. I’m all for having preferences or whatever but do ya gotta bring this colorist mindset with you especially when YOU yourself are a darkskinned brotha??
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    I'm equal complexion opportunity w my ho shyt, so I literally have 0 preference there, personally.
     
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    That sounds like a Wayans Bros spoof! What does he say when you remind him that he hates himself/is dark-skinned?
     
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    This is scary actually.
     
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    1000%

    As long as your ass looks good, I'm for it.
     
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    Exactly! Of course, I'm dark skinned so I think all of this madness needs to stop. Even if you're passing, you don't have white privilege (i.e. You can't ever relax for fear of being found out.). Instead of focusing on an immutable trait, focus on one of the thousands of other ridiculously petty reasons people find for not being attracted to another person or for outright hating a whole group of folks...
     
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    I haven’t had the heart to break it to him..

    Right. LOL
     
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    While I can respect the creation of this post to strike "dialogue", isn't this subject almost the literal meaning of beating a dead horse?

    Black folk, skin complexion issues, seeing a dark skin black person having self hatred?

    Not exactly a revelation.
     
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    Your statement about complexion issues was spot on. This is about Black folks in general not about dark skinned folks having self-hatred. Colorism affects most people of color not just dark skinned people. Non-whites have been conditioned to think that white is right.
     
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    Well in addition to the BF being dark and lovely, I actually think a lot of dark skinned brothers DONT hate them themselves and are more psychologically well adjusted than light skinned folk. I openly admit I’m a light skinned brother that thinks light skinned folks have more mental problems and avoid them like the plague (Raven Symone types).

    Knowing that they can’t pass, it seems a lot of my darker skinned relatives and friends just “lived their best lives” and thrived on their own level. I know they’ve gone through shit, but I still always envied them. Being light does get you in a few more doors with white folks, whether the Harry Belafonte complexioned negroes of the world admit it or not. That’s why the light ones like Malcolm X and Bob Marley are usually so mouthy and radical. It’s not that light skinned are more woke, they’re just more disappointed by white rejection when they get that Nigga Wake Up call.
     
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    While respecting your opinion, Im sure you realize that that's a blanket statement stating light skin folk having more mental problems. Im sure your smart enough to know that mental fucked up shit runs totally across the board whether light or dark. In addition when you say your a light skinned brother and your BF is DARK and lovely, and you avoid "them" like the plague (them im assuming you meaning light skin people), I get a since that a bit a self hatred can be in you just as much as the self hatred in the dark skin brothers discussed here. Which in turn is one of the reason you got with someone dark skin. No different than dark skin dudes going after light skin. Almost fetishizing them.


    Im not sure this particular colorism post is so much about white acceptance or doors being opened, as to much more about what's deemed attractive and western/American beauty standards. Whether male or female.

    While light skin blacks can get a "nigga wake up call", the overall desire of them in still very much in place. Their DM's be lit as fuck and many of them have no idea what its like not being desired or having plenty options and suiters to choose from. It takes a severely un-attractive light skin person to not be desired, whereas some dark skin people are often times not deemed hot or attractive based on the skin tone first.

    Or the opposite of the un-attractive light skin person, the dark skin brother and sister often has to be extremely attractive, damn near model looks to even get remotely the same attention a slightly average, but light skin black person gets. And thats where I think the self hatred and maybe just sadness and defensiveness comes from when young dark skin people say shit like "they dont want a dark ass kid". They want their child to be deemed as "beautiful" based on this fucked up mentality that seems to be a cancer in society that goes into remission, but comes back and is unfortunately never completely cured.
     
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    So I have two straight really dark African (type of dark that radiates) friends and they are brothers. They only date light skinned girls. One day, over drinks, I sat them down and we talked extensively about them only dating light skinned girls. I came at the issue from every angle, internalized hatred, western beauty standards, colorism, you name it. I was not getting through to them, not that they did not see valid points in my conversation, they agreed all those things plague the Black community. However, for them it just came down to the simple fact that their parents, grand parents and great grand parents married really dark and they want a light skinned girl to stop the occurrence.
    I think they are dark skinned folks like this and they should not just be lumped into the self-hatred, colorism pool.
     
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    The interesting thing, to me, is that I feel like I only see this dynamic with women. At least, 99.9999% of the time. I admittedly have much less experience with gay circles than many others, so I'm not sure if that's the difference, but I hardly ever hear or see patterns where dark-skinned men are cancelled for said reason. I HAVE, however, what seems like millions of times, seen men who try to make (using hypotheticals here) 'Lala Anthony is prettier than Gabrielle Union' fetch happen. That's a dime a dozen.

    I'm familiar w cases of people's treatment by both bigoted family members and the greater world based on colorism, just saying that I'm not as personally familiar with it when it comes to perceptions of men's attractiveness/desirability.
     
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    Strange I came across this today.
     
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    I'm not following. Are they saying they ONLY want light-skinned women just because everyone in their family is dark-skinned??
     
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    @Omega Level Its not a fetish, I just recognize dark skinned blacks are superior to light skinned ones

    Picture me trollin...
     
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    Here also is a very good article I would recommend reading. The writer does a good job of telling her personal experience with her dark skin.

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    Why dark-skinned black girls like me aren't getting married
    Why dark-skinned black girls like me aren't getting married

    ''At university, on the line for the security check-in for dorms, I bumped into a friend of my former roommate. I inquired about something someone had said. Immediately, his face changed from joy to anger. “You’re too dark to be talking to me like this, Dream,” he sneered. Hurt to the point of rage, I bristled and walked away. We never had a conversation again.''
     
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    Can't remember if this was posted on here alrdy or not.
     
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    Yeah. That was their only reason, for wanting a light skinned girl. I could say they are young, mid twenties, however I don't see them changing. Isn't the twenties the period straight males start looking for mates or at least have an idea?
     
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    Well, I meeeaan.... what's different about them and this situation that wouldn't get them lumped into the self-hatred/colorism pool?
     
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    Ugh...

     
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    What in the low income mentality is this fuckery!?!
    [​IMG]
     
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    They don't hate their colour or subscribe to colorism, they simply want something different. I don't completely understand their motives, I just know there isn't any prejudice behind it. I that makes sense...
     
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    Also, going off based on the insta video above have you noticed its the darkest of them brothers that go for the white, blonde, blue eyed girls or dudes?
    I remember the wealthy black dude, from my date thread, saying its the same with gay men.
     
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    Umm, I'm gonna go ahead and call bullshyt on behalf of the entire panel. Consciously excluding a whole half of the complexion barometer is not akin to ordering the lamb instead of the beef tonight, or 'trying', 'something new'.

    They sound a lot like all the other guys around the way who 'don't hate' dark skin (on themselves or fam and friends who they love and care about...smh) they just don't see it as attractive. Again, smh.
     
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    Ya'll know I have no qualms about color or race. I will say that when I use dating apps, I filter white guys out and have everyone one else view able. This is not that I don't find white men hot. I do. Some of them. But there are soooooo many of them. So I'd rather taste the rainbow.

    My dad was darker, probably Charlemagne the God color and my mom is high yella. Like Steph Curry. My mom's mom was dark. My mom's dad was light. Across their 7 kids, there is pretty much the spectrum minus Lupita dark.

    I will say this...when School Daze came out, I remember saying that the dark skinned girl was not as pretty as the light skinned ones espcially in the Jiggaboo scene but I think that now, that's because they were better made up...at least it looked like that then. They had the long weave and the dark skinned girls really did not have that.

    Fast forward.... I used to think Kim on A Different World was sooooo pretty. As well as Lisa Turtle and Denise Huxtable. Ask my mom today who I used to call my GF when I was little she'd say Donna Summer and Patrice Rushen (clearly laying the foundation of my diva worship). So to me, I never really equated desirability with light skinned ness.

    I also remember very well being in middle school and calling girls out for liking Al. B. Sure! just because he was light and had good hair.
     
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    It doesn't.
     
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    I get it. Years ago I met this light skinned guy. Thick . bald. Bearded. A boyfriend twin.

    He did not want light skinned dudes. Only dark.

    He said that he liked the color contrast between skin.
     
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    Or what if they liked Al B. Sure just because they thought he was attractive, just like you thought Kim on Different World was pretty. Unless you thought she was pretty specifically because she was dark skin. Which would make those girls be able to call you out as well, because its exactly the same.

    It just crazy to me when people go IN for dark skin saying they like them some "dark skin, african type, dark chocolate, etc" brotha and saying it as if their so proud and "woke" because of it. Like they should get an award, because they are going against colorism.

    When in fact they are doing the same shit dark skin blacks have done going IN on light skin blacks. Its literally the same thing just on the opposite spectrum. Colorism can work both ways you know.

    I just like attractive dudes of all colors. PERIOD. So I guess I could never relate specifically to filtering a race out on apps, talking to only "dark, mandingo, Ghana" brothers or loving only "good hair/ here's to light skin" dudes.
    All that shit is so fuckin lame to me. The race I'm attracted to? SEXY. The end
     
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