[QUESTION]: What happens when you want something consistent but no one else does...

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  1. KritiKal Analysis

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    So I am about 3 years into the lifestyle (I'm a late bloomer) and for these first 3 years, I have been on a campaign to meet new people, learn new stories, and sow my royal oats. I have done that and have met some kool a** people in the process. I'm thankful for the experiences I have had and the many more to come. Recently, I have been feeling that I am ready for something to be a little more consistent. I would love to have one person that I can have constant, reciprocal communication with heading towards a LTR. Most people that hit me up tend to want sex and sex is kool (believe me...), but I feel like the revolving door of dudes is starting to get a bit rusty...

    How do you handle instances where people you are interested in play hard to get or tend to not be interested in you? For people who have found something consistent, how long did it take you find that? I have heard the adage "You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find the right one..." and I'm not opposed to that, but I'm just interested to hear other perspectives on the issue.
     
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    I feel u. My main thing is to just keep showing up. I done kissed a few frogs myself, but I wont let them keep me from thinkin a few good guys who'd be into me are out there.
     
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    I feel ya...I just want them to start showing up too. I'm at the party, dressed up and everything...lol.
     
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    Same thing my mentors who've been together for 24 years have told me. You gotta kiss MANY frogs before finding your prince. They found each other at 40 years old so when I trip about not even doing so much as holding another man's hand at 26 years old, they tell me to calm down lol.

    Like @SB3 said we gotta keep showing up.
     
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    Yea, but I am gonna REiterate that u still need to grab lunch/dinner/coffee w guys. Soooo many options to connect w/o sex bein relevant.
     
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    My brother you are so right. Once this student refund check come in lol
     
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    Dude, Im not really givin you the "side eye", I just like this meme. LOL!!!
     
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    I would suggest putting your intentions up front, especially if you are looking for long term. You can weed out the sex only bunch on jump. Once the field is cleared I think you should at least go on solid dates in hope of discovering some kind of compatibility.
     
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    As someone who's kissed and done a whole lot more with many, many, many frogs
    (thank the high ones for wart remover)

    I say enjoy the ride. I've had a long term relationship that started from an attraction that grew into 10yrs of what we both believed would last forever and another one that that went on to the limited 5yr maximum that it was allowed and that started from a late night meet/hook-up.

    I've gotten out of the dating game but I always found it fun just from the perspective of getting to know and communicate with someone and the thrill of seeing if I could find that oft elusive "spark".
     
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    Same to u! We live in the same hood, n u still wont come out n be a booze bag w me..
     
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    I said I WASN'T givin you the side eye with that meme. LMAO Bro, soon come. I'm just not in a great financial spot at the moment, and I don't like people buyin me drinks so, we gonna have to wait, bro. LOL
     
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    Negro, cut it out, when we got 7 million places w a 2 for 1. Hell, im a bartender, i rately pay for booze! Lol

    But i'll wait. Def understand getn the dollars!
     
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    Just don't take kissing frogs literally. Lol that's also means getting to low someone. Dates, chats, coffee, dessert dates, etc.

    People have to be open for the possibly of a relationship. While you can turn a one night stand into a relationship, it's not likely to happen many times. I'm one who thinks sex can complicate things just because people will have sex once and judge you based on that one experience. I know I have. But on the flip, as I said, I have had relationship sex that sometimes it's good. Sometimes not so much but I got mine in the end.

    People I think are scared to open up about themselves because I think many times people are too busy worrying about being judged if you find out who they really are. I think we should give potentials the opportunity to find out who we are but that's a two way street. I'm not going to be an open book to a closed pamphlet so we're going to have to meet each other halfway.

    Dating and hoeism are tiring after a while. I say take a break as I told you and just do you and nobody else for a minute. As successful as you have been with getting it in, coming off of break you won't be lacking for anything come late February/March.
     
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