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    lol I was talking about me throwing shade at Nick not you.

    And you all are wrong there should be no skin showing at all if you are wearing dress type shoes and dress pants. And yeah styles change, maybe the next style we will be back to earth shoes and elephant bells. Gonna support that?(and yeah, it was 'in' at one time). Just because styles change does not mean it is a change for the good. I can guarantee people will be looking back at this current style and laughing-even at the hot ones.
     
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    As Alton stated, it'll always look good on some, compared to the "Steve Harvey Done Got Religion and a Haberdasher With Cataracts" look

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    ^^we will have to agree to disagree. Even on hot guys that look is just terrible to me. Why does that blue coat have seven buttons? It looks like some kind of old frock-coat from a century ago-it does have a old religious look to it!
     
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    Consider this your black history lesson (lol).

    Every black man currently alive has seen, or maybe has an unfortunate relative, that sported the above ugly church frock. Me and my friends call it "The Steve Harvey Clown Suit." It might also be suitable for a highly fashionable 19th Century cop (Keystone variety).

    It was way more popular with the megachurch types a few years ago, but there are many unfortunate design-challenged black men (usually with guts and questionable dentistry) who consider this look their "Sunday Best." The next time you see somebody on this site write, or menion in a podcast, black homophobic ministers, chances are the minister is wearing this.

    Unless they are the Eddie Long type, then they might be dressed better but we await the bathroom selfies and lawsuits from teenagers to leak online....
     
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    Its really sad how some relationships can go from perfect to at each others necks within a few months. Although I doubt Miles & Milan's ship was all that strong to begin with lol.
     
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    LOL ok.
     
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    Man, I couldn't agree with you more. That Debbie Downer shyt is so tired to me when people are so negative about relationships or life, etc. Things may absolutely not be going in your favor right now in whatever way, but having a negative attitude towards it isn't going to help it at all. To me thats basic common sense. But maybe its just common sense to more high functioning human beings.

    And meanwhile they play that "whoa is me" soundtrack in their head, eat large pizzas and jack off all evening cause nobody desire "dey" fat, negative attitude ass. If you fine with that, then by all means, live your solitary life. Their will always be escorts you can hire as you die alone in your apt.

    If not, cut the shyt, lift some weights and become fine or remain fine as hell, continue to work on self improvement in every way (finances, career, health, spirituality, well being, etc) and work on being positive and keep that negative ass funky attitude where? BACK THERE!! Nobody wanna hear that shyt.

    Be the best you that you can be. What I call BS on is the notion that "aint nobody out there and dudes aint shyt". There are plenty of good dudes out there. Focus on you!!! You attract, what you are.
     
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    "eat large pizzas and jack off all evening cause nobody desire "dey" fat, negative attitude ass. If you fine with that, then by all means, live your solitary life. Their will always be escorts you can hire as you die alone in your apt." LMAO This is great!!!
    :dead1::mjlol:

    I am starting a (reasonable) diet and exercise program and am gonna try and be more positive. Have been connecting with old friends(a few-many were toxic ain't shit people I had to cut loose-always in trouble of some kind). making some new ones.


    Plus there are no good pizza places or escorts anywhere near here lol.

    Hell If I could be in a decent long-term relationship, anyone can and I admit I have some ain't shit qualities as well....and I don't hide em either. lol.
     
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    Yo, I don't know if this was a response to my comment, but if it is please note, I never said there's NOBODY out there and EVERYBODY ain't shit. I did say a LOT of people, male and female, ain't shit. And it's true. It's not being negative, it's being real, bro. I don't knock anybody's outlook on life be it hyper-positive, or Debbie Downer. I'm in the middle of the two as I personally am not lookin' for a partner {at the moment}. Again, sorry if my view doesn't conform with your {if you were responding to my comment} but it is what it is, bruh. You're obviously a glass half full type dude, and thats great. Im just a glass with some water in it, type dude.

    And please don't assume every nikk@ that's single is fat, broke, has no type of goals or drive, and is only into purchasin' {cheap} escorts as they die slowly alone in their apartments. LOL
     
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    Love,Love, Love this part @ColumbusGuy. All I'm saying is dudes and people in general should recognize how they play a part in any negative situation in their life and work at doing better and making it better within THEMSELVES first. Instead of proclaiming "this aint that and people aint so and so"

    And thats what you displayed in your comment. Accountnabiltiy by saying your going to try to be more positive and action by saying your putting a effort into dieting. I definitely think you can do it man and open up bigger options for yourself you might have never thought of.

    Hell, once you get to that level your comfortable at and confidant in yourself, come to New York to visit and look me up. First round on me..
     
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    Dead.

    :dead::dead::dead:
     
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    Nah, it wasn't in response to your comment or any comment in particular. I think it was just the general tone of what I was getting when I read through the post and some responses given. Im just the type of dude that can agree with you that in a sense
    but, I consistently try to focus on positive attributes and in addition how did I or do I contribute to the "aint shytness". Once I have practiced this consistently, I discovered the "aint shyt" people slowly were around less and some good people and dudes replaced them.

    Am I running through rose fields, singing songs, with no care in the world and everyone I meet is perfect? Come on, Of course not... But I just like to place attention to good shyt and good vibes and as a result it shows up time and time again because its reflecting me. The comment wasn't to anyone in particular, just wanted to be sure to put some positivity out there bro.

    We get enough negative attitude shyt from Nick disguised as "keeping it real". I would hope the whole squad aint following that attitude.

    (just joking too BTW Nick) :smugbiden:
     
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    "Once I have practiced this consistently, I discovered the "aint shyt" people slowly were around less and some good people and dudes replaced them. "

    This is definitely true, and is also the point I've arrived at in my life. I was a one point genuinely negative about my situation. Once I changed my perspective the "Ain't Shits" did in fact disappear {from my inner circle, they still exist) however, I've just come to realize that the people that are left are not meant for relationships, and trust, I'm fine with that. I've just come to accept that when it's time (if it's ever meant to be time) someone will cross my path (shut up @SB3 , I KNOW you 'bout to say something about basket weaving, or down to the bar LOL!!), if not...eh...f@$k it. Maybe the next go 'round will be better.
     
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    Mic drop. Nothing left except to quietly bask in your statement's truth....

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    You just never know. I have been talking to guys off the internet(strange when you have not done this in a while) and this one guy called and I was just falling asleep and could not think of what to say(sleepy and all) so i just rambled on about stuff and held nothing back (good and bad) and I thought well that is that never hear from this guy again. lol

    He called back and we have been having some good conversations. Turns out he volunteers at a place I volunteered at years ago and is a pretty nice guy.

    And not only is he is single he has season tickets to home OSU games! :fredo:reallynow
     
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    U know, u can basket weave, down to the bar, at the same damn time!
     
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    Bruh, I would love to meet a dude who would enjoy having me drag him to all of my alma mater's football games.
     
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    Have you ever tried to teach a bf or potential bf how to play?
     
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    This shit is too funny. Reminds me of when my granddad died and my mom and her siblings wanted to bury granddady in one of those Steve Harvey suits. My granddad was a handsome and stylish man and could pull off anything. One of his Christmas outfits was a green blazer with red slacks. (I got the green blazer in my closet, but I can pull it off.) He couldn't get away with wearing that outside of December, regardless of how good he looked, but when it was in season or in style, my granddad rocked it. Lol. But there was no way I was gonna let granddad get buried in a Steve Harvey suit. I ended up texting all my cousins and told them to thank me for not having granddad dressed up like a "Suga Granddaddy."
     
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    My relationship goals image.jpeg image.jpeg image.jpeg image.jpeg image.jpeg image.jpeg tumblr_mxjyvggYJy1ro9uz3o3_400.gif
    I know it's out there and exists
     
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    My relationship realities
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    And, man, them heels were hurting my feet...
     
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    He left her very financially well off which means you got some $$$$$$...ya know I always did have a thing for dudes in red!
     
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    Keep the hope alive!
    I gave up and wasted some years but trust me, I believe in it like a suburban white kid at Christmastime in a 1950's movie.
     
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    LOL I wasted close to 5 (completely not talking to anyone). Im kinda at it again,but I'm probably just not as hopeful as you, bruh. Optimistic, but not holdin my breath. LOL Sometimes I wish I couldn't see through peoples' BS, it would probably be much easier (and a lot more fun) to just ride the wave without seein' the sharks. LMAO
     
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    I feel you dude.
    Up until a few months ago I was exactly where you were and probably even more so, with very little optimism and definitely not at all hopeful.
    I'm not sure where my current dating "situation" is going to end up, hopefully for the best and a long haul but it has reawakened somethings inside of myself that I didn't believe I was capable of feeling again and even if it doesn't work out, I've learned to take out the expectations and go with the flow and pull back and move on and "ride the waves" to the other fishes when it's not right with the sharks.
     
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    This attitude ...ALL day, every day!
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    I agree. I've pretty much given up, mostly because I've realized I have my own personal issues. One being I'm not even sure if its what I really want. Then again, it could be the options I've been presented with so far.
     
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    Its the options, bruh. We just live in a world where the majority of sh!t just ain't what it appears "on screen". LOL But you should be good money, dude. You f@#ks with the Millennial crowd, so you got much wider options than someone like me, who wont touch 'er muhf@#ka born after 1984. LOL
     
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    True I don't mind the younger dudes, but most of them that I meet are either too trendy or they are too "gay." Admittedly that problem is less-so with older guys but they tend to be super boring.

    But like I said, I'm fully willing to accept that the problem could be all within me. If I end up a professional bachelor all my life, I'm okay with that I guess, it could be worse.

    And, to be fair, even dudes in those picture perfect relationships TODAY can end up single as fuk TOMORROW.
     
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    I feel you. And most "older" dudes do tend to be "boring". That works for me because I got all my wild sh!t out back in my 20's LOL My 20's were like an accelerated "Gay Lifestyles and Studies" course. I can adapt to someone whose into a lot of activities (probably what I need, to be totally honest) but I have the same issue with Millennials that you have... majority are too into useless Fashion and Trends, too focused on/ side tracked by Social Media and "Reality" Lifestyles, and too stereotypically gay. LOL
     
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    Just go straight! That gay shyt is gay!
     
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    Well in that last case the 'picture perfect' relationship really wasn't-most people know a breakup is coming -usually. And I can't get over how the gay guys you have to date are too gay lol! They can't all be stereotypes, these younger ones? Maybe Atlanta attracts a certain type? Do you think by having so many straight male friends and being influenced by them and the straight guys who look like what you want at the dive bars, etc, that it is making it too hard for any of the gays to measure up? Or are the gay guys just too 'ghey' and have too may stereotypes?

    With the super boring, is it because they are not involved in all kinds of activities boring, or is it the mindset-jaded, old, not so much about activities as about their brain has died and they have no interesting thoughts or ideas and nothing interesting to discuss/too limited?-like they used to just like fashion and divas and reality TV and now they are too old for that so their minds just became stale?

    *I mean part of the actual relationship benefits is that (once you are together) you can be boring as hell at times-you just do it together and veg out and watch sports or whatever on tv, drink, sleep, lay around, maybe have sex, poke around in the yard, cook some food, fight with strangers online, not have to do anything or impress anyone-you are just you but it is better cause you are you with someone you like and it is like being with two of you and you like both of you! lol (sounding nuts here so I am going to stop)
     
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