Something I've Noticed

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    You know what I noticed yeh.... I noticed that Blacks dudes are extremely critical when it comes to their standards dating other Black guys....but they will literally date a white guy that’s exactly like the Black guys that they reject. :/
     
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    To be honest, I think some will go for white guys who would be below the black guys they reject... Some-not all.
     
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    Any specifics or examples? Because I have seen and even known black guys who have dated both and the guys they dated besides race were VERY different.
     
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    @Omega Level Visit Seattle, Portland, San Francisco, San Diego, etc. and you can experience the craziness firsthand. Many Black guys have no problem telling you straight up that they "...don't do chocolate."
     
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    @Sean P Yeah I know of those black guys that "don't do chocolate" for whatever reason. A lot of it ignorant reasons. But I was interested in the white guys and black guys that are the "same" as expressed in this post. I have seen black guys date white guys and the white guys are indeed VERY different from many black guys i.e. certain interest, taste, style, professions, etc.
     
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    The post just reads some black guys would want other black guys to have certain criteria but the white guys didn't need the criteria. I just found that statement interesting but couldn't directly think of any examples. For instance, if a black guy is a stickler about a certain living standard he would like another black guy to have, I don't see how he would let the white guy be a bum and not have that living standard but its ok because he's white. Usually they would go with the white guy because they fit the "standard" they want.
     
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    @Omega Level I am talking holistically, a pairing of equals and/or smiting a Brotha for a white scrub. I am a lawyer and have been interested in Brothas who won't date me or any other Black man. Yet, they will date a chronically unemployed/underemployed white guy. I've seen it happen time and again. #thestruggleisreal
     
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    Wow @[354:@Sean P] . I understand and will take your word for it if you have direct experience. I can't imagine turning down a black lawyer for white unemployed scrub just because he's white. I just never heard or been around such people. The black guys I have known that dated white guys, those white guys were wealthy, professional, had condos and shit lol. It was pretty obvious why they were sought after. I just never knew black men who wanted a white dude no matter what, even if they were bums. Thats an eye opener for me
     
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    Yep... @Omega Level I have far too much direct experience with this situation. I've learned that it really isn't about me. It took time to accept. It's all good now, especially since I've chosen to be on the sidelines and live vicariously through others at this point.
     
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    I should put some positive spin on my posts. When I'm at my place in Atlanta, I've only had to deal with the normal BS from Brothas. They'd talk a good game, but crazy often lurked really close to the surface. I'd take that over being invisible to folks who look like me, however.
     
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    For starters, the no fats no fems standard is spewed constantly and those same niggas will uphold that to every guy they encounter except for a white guy. Let me not begin on how they won’t entertain a Black dude who smokes a blunt but will bong with a white guy. And don’t even get me started on how the Black dude must own a car & a home but will literally move Hunter in & let him use up all the petrol in his car. Lol
    Lol, you must live in a heavily Black neighbourhood or city where Black people are mostly dating each other because niggas is out here doing just that. If I’m being honest, most of their ridiculous standards are physical & superficial. Black dudes are out here literally stating “not into Blacks, unless you look like Michael B. Jordan. ” all while entertaining & awing over Dylan Sprouse in thier DMs.
    You get it.
    Lol, & you think those same Black guys you’ve known would have even looked at or dated a Black dude that was all of the above?
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    Thats a good point. Those black guys are mostly into white and "other" race guys anyway.

    However they would also state that many black gay guys didn't have the same income or living standard that they had and the ones that did, they were not attracted to. The pool of successful white men that fit their "standard" and were attractive was larger. And I am talking about New York BTW. These guys I am certain are not into a white guys at any cost i.e. a homeless white guy, drag queen white guy, fat white guy etc.

    I guess we just have different experiences with this, but I definitely see your point.
     
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    I will admit, when I look online at black/white interracial couples, I usually think the black guy...is...well...hotter than the white one. Same in porn. You see black guys and think 'why isn't the white guy on the same level?' And that is just looks and not even considering the other things. Sometimes you will see some that look 'matched' well like that Shawn T and his guy, but usually (at least superficially) it looks kinda like a 'mismatch'.

    I won't go into the 'whys' cause I really don't know enough about it. But I can make some educated guesses though.

    *I chuckled at 'white scrub' and 'Hunter'.
     
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    ...& I wonder why
    I’m confused.... they are not at all or are not attracted to those types?
     
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    I’ve yet to experience white guys having such substantially higher standards when it comes to dating their own race like I’ve experienced PoC men. :/


    *Lol, that’s all @Sean P ’s doing.*
     
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    This whole post is kinda BS.... @Champagne_Papi has admitted REPEATEDLY on this site that he don't want no gay nikka long term. Why the fuk he all a sudden so concerned about the preference of randoms and hookups?
     
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    What’s BS about it? But it’s not a preference though, innit? I’m trying to grasp the idea of why non-heterosexual Black men are a lot harsher when it comes to dating each other but are a lot more lenient when they are dating outside of their race.

    And hol’up negro, what’s my dating challenges gotta do with any of this
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    That's sadly the racial hierarchy for you.
     
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    this right here

    I'm worth it. You're worth it. Remind yourself daily. And give no fucks to the fuckboys

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    ^^^^you reminding yourself that you're amazing when you go through the front door everyday lol
     
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