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I guess mine is more of a kink than anything, but I've recently been into mutual masturbation with other guys, riding the edge together, controlling the other's climax etc.

I also recently found this fetish quiz on fetlife.com, and here are my results. Click the link at the bottom for more details/descriptions of each "fetish" and feel free to post your results as well for all fetish lurkers out there!

== Results from BDSM test: What kind of sexual deviant are you? ==
96% Voyeur
95% Switch
88% Non-monogamist
85% Experimentalist
85% Exhibitionist
67% Rope Bunny
65% Rigger
63% Dominant
61% Submissive
53% Primal (Hunter)
51% Primal (Prey)
47% Masochist
46% Vanilla
45% Master/Mistress
39% Sadist
33% Brat Tamer
33% Slave
28% Daddy/Mommy
25% Brat
25% Degradee
24% Owner
21% Degrader
21% Girl/Boy
15% Ageplayer
14% Pet
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=1365834

 

damn. based on these responses, no wonder many tops and i do meean many feel they don't measure up. 7 is average for black men.

 

How can you put a label on someone else? It's not your right. And who said that a gay man can't be sexually/physically attracted to females? We need to open out minds a bit here with our thinking and how things are defined.

 

With all the free porn out there it's difficult for the performers to have any clout. They need to get together and form some kind of union. This way they'll be in a better position to negotiate for better pay.

 

Nikka calm down. We talking about wants and desires as it relates to porn. Were not talking about politics or religion.

 

Y'all going in!

 

But I'm not lying. I don't consider myself bisexual. I'm a gay man who still finds women attractive, and could potentially have sex with one, but I choose to be with men predominantly.

 

@Cyrus-Brooks be shuttin' muhf@#kz DO'N!!!

 

I don't consider it a fetish of mine because I did it more out of curiosity but I ate my girlfriend at the time out when she was on her period.

Watersports! yeah, something else the ex and I used to play around with in the shower from time to time.

 

This whole thread got me thinking............... @takeyourmeds91 when we goin start our porn empire lol

 

Im not hairy, so maybe that's why (and because Im a nasty/damn near anything goes type whem Im not at church...) I don't mind hairy booty dudes at all.

 

When have I held my tongue?

Because many black fem men have a mindset of wanting to be treated like black women.

Its the same as a black woman who think its gay, suspect or nasty if their man has ever experimented with another man in the past or may like a finger in the butt or their salad tossed. Their heterosexuality is now in question. Many black fem men share a similar mindset.

They don't want their Top man to ever have or think about getting penetrated. I shared some additional thoughts in this old post.

Is There a Stigma with Being Sexually Versatile?

 

I Honestly feel like there is a sweeping rejection of guys rejecting their own masculinity and look for a pure version of it from other people. And don't forget daddy issues. The phallus and its use as always been a symbol of masculinity, being the one providing the pleasure and so forth! So now you have a bunch of guys who reject any man who's not what they consider pure in their masculinity i.e never bottom! While rejecting their own. It's so confusing. There is a lot of compartmentalization and self hate!

 

I wouldn't jump the gun and say that a man is "gay" because he slept with another man just like that wouldn't make me "straight" if I slept with a woman. I just think not having labels or being able to pigeon-hole people is terrifying to many.

 

This thread is hilarious. Those fools just wana be treated like their str8 homegirls. Any chance that another gay dude would have the audacity to want to acknowledge their diks, let alone have them use it, strips away from the fantasy of them getting their shyt beat up like/being one of the girls.

 

Lol hold up. So if you're not up in those guts you are just friends? You can be intimate and not be plowing someone. Basically, there are people out there that don't like to do either and probably feel pressured into doing one or both because of the way most people are wired. It's interesting.

 

I just used tumblr. I mostly use myvidster for the comments.

 

I've found that edging makes for some strong orgasms. I try to watch at least four or five good porn flix in a row before releasing the payload.

 

Hmmmm...I can't lmao. In the history of booty eating, the vast majority have fared pretty well. To be more specific, I don't condone eating evverryybooddyy booty but if it's somebody you mess with on a regular basis, sure why not. Personally, it's only a go if they're straight out the shower and have cleaned themselves appropriately.

Edit: this whole thread is lowkey making me seriously consider what we're really doing though hahaha

 

Idk man. I guess because verbal comm is hard/awkward for a lot of ppl. 'Small talk' isn't always easy. I know that sex is much easier for a lot of people than having a conversation. Some ppl feel vulnerable naked, and some when they're trying to verbally communicate. That said, let's not pretend like comfort in one of those areas isn't more encouraged than the other when it comes to gay men. It's why we have threads talking about how we tire of entering circles of gay men where the goto move is to shade someone instead of just having a conversation. Which brings me back to my point...

It just trips me out that if you clothe those same men in that same room, you'll have a bunch of wall flowers holding drinks w their faces buried deep in their phones. But the minute you remove the clothes, and someone drops to their knees, everyone's now interacting.

Mofos will chance walking around w gonorrhea (or worse) in their throat before opening those same mouths to have a convo w a guy standing next to them.

 

A nice athletic tuddy is always nice to look at. Its more about shape and tone for me.

 

Stands to reason people can be straight for pay too. Y'all know porn stars are either not enterprising enough to get out of the game or enterprising enough to stay in it to their best advantage. Some people are not built for traditional income. From the outside looking in, gig work seems better than sitting in a boring ass meeting with Helen and Richard.

 

I'm definitely into role play. Always wanted to do light bondage. But that's about it for me.

 

LOL Sliiiiiiidde some oooooil! Haha!

 

This is so deep. I never thought of it like this before. But it makes u sit back and say - damn! So true.
.... like the stranger who say they will lick your crack for hours or eat your groceries til Aretha is buried, but will not even take you dinner! Why.???

 

Riiiiight most black women even the ones with gay friends act like they're completely grossed out by the thought of gay sex.

 

They really are kinda mesmerizing, when they're just flapping back and fourth.
He is one of my 10ten faves!

 

I think when you're older you tend to be less self conscious about stuff and allow yourself to explore different sides of your sexulaity. This current generation rnb songs by 20 year Olds make me laugh because they swear they doing something.

Chick/negro, Y'all only been having sex for 5 years GTFOH LOL They are just happy to get a nutt but may not know everything that can get them said nutt. But we all have our path to beat. Older sex becomes more creative and high leveled. More than just simple dick in ass/pussy. You learn your kinks and explore more. It becomes deeper so to speak.

 

No. 2, sooooo true.

That’s why modern, mainstream “Pride” events are, ultimately, so hollow to me. Whether we want to admit it or not, pride is just as much about who we fuck as it is about who we are.

So, the whole respectable, corporate “We Brake For Rainbows” parade and sponsorship thing that is all good (being able to serve, hold a job, live where you want despite your orientation) but ultimately what makes us gay/bi is who we want to smash (male/male, female/female).

Seeing the invites that @African King posted reminded me of the dichotomies of “public respectability politics” and sexuality as it’s actually lived. Although the flyers were tacky (nothing left for style, design, and the erotic imagination), ultimately, I have no problem with the reality that pride events eventually lead to literal clusterfucks (just ditch the drugs and play safe).

 

Male bisexuality has such a taboo attached to it because male homosexuality is vilified and demonized in many cultures and religions including American culture. Since Christianity still has a toxic influence on people's attitudes toward sexuality in general, male homosexuality in particular. It shouldn't be surprising that bisexuality in men is kept quiet and frowned upon. In comparison female bisexuality and lesbianism is considered relatively benign or at least non threatening so women get a pass for same gender sexual behavior. Many straight men fetishize lesbians and bisexual women for obvious reasons.

 

The "ultimate in sexual vampire play" sounds like a fetish to me, assuming it involves blood.

I don't think I have any fetishes, but I have quenched the thirsts of a few people interested in watersports. I don't mind taking a passive role in indulging certain interests.

 

Yeah I hear you...I'm just reading between the lines of what they were stating in the article, assuming that just because the status is unknown, they are likely to be HIV positive. This is not the case. True, the sexual interaction is more of a gamble...but the odds of infection itself doesn't change since the person a paranoid person would eventually have sex with would have likely been asked about status, etc. Possibly even with verification.

My only point was if you were a person so afraid of HIV that you purposely avoided having sex with men who were positive, you are likely NOT a person who has sex with someone whose status is unknown. It just doesn't add up that you'd be a person who vehemently rejects HIV+ men for safety and ALSO be someone who doesn't even try to find out if the men you're dating are HIV+ in the first place.