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  1. acessential

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    This is an interesting article and video about the increase in black millennials traveling. Especially abroad. I definitely encourage black people to travel internationally. There are so many amazing places around the world and so many people who don't know we exist outside of Africa.

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    I'm writing this in response to few posts I have seen on this site and in response to Cypher Avenue Podcast #53. There seems to be a notion that travelling, domestically and internationally in not affordable. That is not always true, especially if you plan accordingly. A recent TIME article How Black Millennials Are Changing the Face of Travel offered some insight that much to be learned from this.

    Step One:
    For starters, obtaining a passport is time consuming and cost some money, so I would recommend starting the passport process early. 65% of Americans do not have a passport. That means even if they had the ability to leave or if they had an all expense paid trip somewhere they wouldn't be able to immediately get up and go. That's insane. Contrasting that to Europe, 71% of Europeans have a passport (particularly those in the European Union). That may be a little unfair because Europe is geographically connected. The United States is only connected to Canada and Mexico (which you now need passports to travel to).

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    Step Two:
    Do your Research. There are thousands of cheap locations you can travel to around the world. I always look at exchange rates. It is an awesome driver of affordability. For example, the exchange rate (right now) between the US and Turkey is $1 = $3 Turkish Lira or $1 = $18.51 Mexican Pesos or $1 = $14.15 Argentine Pesos. The dollar goes a long way in Mexico and Argentina and to some extent Turkey. Find a place where the dollar goes a long way. For example, a $100 USD hotel stay in Argentina could land you at a 5 star hotel or if you staying for two weeks could land you in a really nice rental house. Doing your research is essential to international travel. Go to places where your hard earned dollars can take you far. (See South America, See Thailand, See Vietnam).

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    Often the most expensive part of traveling is securing that round trip plane ticket. There is no getting around this but with proper research and securing a good time of year to travel, this cost can be low as well. Travelling internationally is good when you leave on a Tuesday. Sometimes this is where I begin. Finding a cheap flight determines where I go. Therefore a good start would be searching for flights to locations with a good exchange rates. With that being said, I would look for locations that have robust public transit systems (see Europe) or are extremely walkable and search for locations where security safety are not an issue. The US State Department and the CIA websites both offer travel status report and guidance to Americans. Alerts and Warnings and The World Factbook

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    Step Four:
    Set a budget. If you only can afford to spend $1500 dollars find an area that $1500 can take you far. This is where most people have to make hard choices. Should you go out and have $60 worth of drinks tonight or should you stay home have a beer and call it a night. It is about priorities. But imagine eating a grass-feed steak and drinking perfect Argentine wine in Argentina overlooking mountains versus getting faded in the same gay bar you go to every week and spend $60.

    Just some other notes. Travelling in groups can significantly bring down costs for everyone. If you have close friends that could make good travel companions y'all should start early and plan an international trip a year out. That gives everyone plenty of time to get all of their affairs in order.

    These are a just a few ideas I have used in the past before I became a professional traveller. And in that unfortunate instances that you get too crazy abroad and get locked up or if shyt goes down, it will be foreign service officers who come to your rescue. So read up on how diplomats change the world. Fill those passports with STAMPS!!

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    i would pick Tokyo i really dig Japanese culture. my runners up would be London or
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    @Nick Delmacy is right, and if he sees this thread I'm sure @BlackguyExecutive will have tremendous advice for you.

    Road trips are a way to go to build up independence. I routinely drive 10 - 16 hour round trips at least twice a month. Even for small trips it helps to plan for emergencies and contingencies (i.e. have blankets, minor repair gear in trunk, know your general route before drive it, keep phone charged, apprise family or friends of your general plan in case of loss of contact). You should learn to do minor repairs for the car yourself, believe me it's not daunting. Changing flats, or even whole wheels (rotors, brake pads) is a one man job; drum brakes usually take another person only because of the spring assembly. Changing oil, wipers, etc. also not a problem. Have AAA or know your credit card's auto assistance number in case of something beyond individual repair such as transmission/engine failure. Keep at least $100 - $200 cash on you a a credit line for emergencies.

    Air traveling is a little better as once you get past security, everything is more structured. If you haven't already, get registered with TSA Global Entry or Pre Check. I don't know the price as mine was free being in federal work, but I believe it's relatively cheap to register. Makes getting through those infernal lines WAY quicker. I haven't really traveled OUTCONUS outside of the military so look up Black Guy Executive's " Travel Like a Boss" article on CA.

    Obviously, know how to act around law enforcement when road traveling. As black males that's a reality we need to acknowledge. On the other hand, don't let that be an excuse not to road trip and explore this great country and its terrain. I grew up in Southern Ohio, so I guess that makes me a "hillbilly whisperer" (lol) and I'll tell you rural white folk you'll encounter are usually more genuine. They'll let you know up front if they want to deal with you, and most of them are smart enough to recognize and respect a paying customer when stopping at gas stations.

    I did some strategic mapping for a work project recently and it made me reacquaint myself with America's vast geography. I was surprised at all the islands, inlets, etc. that I had forgotten or didn't realize, so I wish safe travels as my own personal road trips will increase threefold this year.
     
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    I've traveled alone for work and loved it. I'm not really a shy person though so I'm always talking to and meeting interesting people that end up being extended friends/associates.

    It can go either way though. Traveling with a friend/lover is rewarding for the companionship and times when you just want to be with someone you know. Especially in countries/cities where its not that safe to be alone.

    But on the other hand, I've traveled with friends/family and there are times that I want to do something that they don't, so we end up at odds and I missed out on stuff that I wanted to do. It's tricky.
     
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    Traveling alone is amazing. But you have to be the kind of person who can enjoy themselves without the need of other people. It can occasionally get lonely, but it forces you to interact with people you normally wouldn't. I noticed a difference between traveling with friends/family and traveling solo. When I travel solo, I meet more people. If you're traveling abroad, locals are more likely to approach you than they would if there was an entire group. It's too intimidating. Plus, being alone forces you to want more human interaction so any sort of hesitancy you may have with talking to and meeting strangers melts away. There are pros and cons to it, but I definitely encourage it overall.
     
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    I would choose Buenos Aires, Argentina. Excellent wine selection. Excellent steak selection. Beautiful People. What more could you ask for.

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    If it's all expenses were paid, but I only had 24 hours, it would have to be someplace that's exciting, but otherwise difficult to get to, and small enough where I feel like I wouldn't have missed too much. I'd say Easter Island in the Pacific with all those big heads.

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    I'd have to go with Egypt first. I really dig their history and mythology.
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    Then I'd have to go with South Africa.
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    Then, of course, Paris.
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    Honorable Mention: Dubai lol
     
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    Ibiza recently closed. Also, ctforbes mentioned Poets & Busboys. It's actually Busboys & Poets.

    I rarely go out. There are a number of restaurants and bars along 14th St NW, particularly north of N and south of V St/Florida Ave. This intersects U which is also pretty busy between 7 and 16 Sts. (Howard U is just a few blocks north of U & 7th/Georgia Ave.) These spots usually have a lot of traffic and can be good for people watching. The "gayborhood" has sort of centered around this area and surrounding streets. It's not explicitly gay or anything and the area is popular with millenials and locals, in general, because of the close proximity of things (bars, food, Trader Joe's and Whole Foods, Target and a few other shops a few blocks north at Columbia Heights), but some businesses sport pride flags, and there's gay sports bar Nellie's at 9th St and big gay club Town at 8th. As gentrification has spread, restaurants and bars have appeared on some adjoining streets too.

    African King mentioned Gallery Place. The Gallery Place/Chinatown shopping center is somewhat limited. There's Urban Outfitters, Bed Bath & Beyond, a sports store and a few restaurants, but most of the interior is taken up by a movie theater and a bowling alley/bar. There are a few places scattered around the area west of there. There are a few recent additions a few blocks NW from there at CityCenterDC, a fairly new mixed-use development. It has some fairly high-end retail and a few new restaurants. Some foodies were hyped for these new spots Momofuku and Milk Bar. I believe the other American locations are all in NYC. Georgetown might be okay for a stroll, though it might be more of a tourist destination.

    There's a strip of bars in Adams Morgan, 18th St NW beginning around 18th St NW and stretching a few blocks north. There's a few sorta wacky themed bars along H St NE but I'm not sure that many treat that area as a destination, more like something for those in the neighborhood. About a mile and a half south, there's a restaurant in the Eastern Market area named Rose's Luxury that's gotten really good reviews. I hear there are two gay bars popular with black guys. I think they're dives and I'm not sure what kind of crowd they attract: The Fireplace and The Bachelor's Mill. Generally, I hear people say their experiences there are interesting rather than particularly good.

    So yeah, U St is probably the loudest place during the weekend. I've heard of a monthly spanking party at a certain bar that will be occurring during your visit, but I don't think that's what you have in mind.
     
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    Hmmm I would have to go with South America or the Senegal area in Africa. I just think the men are beautiful.
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    Maybe I just do not understand why Black Americans have to make leaving America such a big deal and then add 'Black' to it. I mean 'Black and Abroad'?
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    Growing up in Nigeria I always wanted to see the word. It had nothing to do with being a Black man or escaping, yes living conditions are very bad, but I never put such deep thought into it. Even when I did start travelling, I did it with a sense of individual self not 'Black African travelling'. Where ever I stayed, the strangers I talked to, the all night parties I went to, the cruises to explore different islands, my Blackness never occurred to me, only this one time on a flight to Stockholm that i realized from the Airport Check-in to the person I was seating next to on the plane ALL Beach Blonde or Dirty blonde, Blue eyes, tall and pale. Even then I thought do these people have darker hues, not 'oh I am black man navigating a white space'.
    From what I have noticed being Black in America is draining. Chimamanda Adichie even said of all the counties she has traveled her blackness is MOST known to her whenever she is in America.
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    Eh...did they really think sh!t was gonna be different just because they traveled to the other side of the world? lol I hate to sound cynical but...:yeshrug:
     
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    I was just there for my birthday earlier this month. I recommend hitting up Poets & Busboys (various locations) and The Mad Hatter for great brunch and live music options.
     
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    I think everyone should know at least two languages.

    Looking back, I wish I would have been forced to learn a second language while I was learning English. Regardless, I'm enjoying the process of learning Spanish in my adulthood. It exposes you to an entire new world and culture--especially when you travel.

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    The most difficult thing about learning a new language is not having anyone to practice with. Also, not living in an environment that forces me to speak Spanish is what works against me.

    If anyone else is learning Spanish (or fluid), feel free to reach out to me if you want someone to practice with (or to help, if fluid). Hell, if enough people are interested maybe I'll start a new thread dedicated to sharing Spanish learning resources.

    What language are you learning and what methods have helped you most in your journey to learning a 2nd language?
     
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    So, it's a new year, and I'm wondering if anyone is traveling anywhere fun and exciting in 2016?

    I'm going to Barbados in like 2 weeks, and I'm going to NYC for the Governor's Ball music fest in June. That's the only non-work related travel I have planned. I went out of the country last year, so I'm gonna try to save my money and stack up more PTO lol. Plus I have Beyoncé tickets to buy lol.
     
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    Fun question I thought of while playing some would you rather earlier...

    If your partner/boyfriend could be from a foreign country, where in the world would he be from and why? What aspect of his culture would you be the most exciting or interested in learning about? No picking guys from countries you're parents are from either they have to come from a place that's relatively foreign to you!

    I pick Brazil!
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    It's seems like such a vibrant country with a lot of interesting and fun culture, food, music I love the possibility of visiting there and meeting family...I don't know how gay people are normally treated but I can assume it's not the best like most of the world. That's ok though we would deal with like we would anywhere else I don't know much about it so learning about it from my partner would be a excellent way for us to get closer! I'm also completely unfamiliar with Portugese so learning that would be the most interesting thing! I definitely would take the time to learn it especially if we got
    married..plus Brazilian men are fiiiinnnneee!!!
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    French Polynesia/ Tahiti
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    or If I feel more adventurous that day , Rio De Janeiro

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    @King Zorro Here is my 411 and perspective. Traveling alone can be a wonderful experience. It is part of the reason why I wanted to do diplomacy professionally.

    When I was an undergraduate, I participated in an internship at the United Nations in Geneva, Switzerland. For nearly 6 months, I lived all by myself in Geneva, Switzerland. I barely spoke French but had learned a decent amount of Italian and I obviously know English, Getting my passport and boarding that plane was the best decision I ever made. Working at the United Nations, you adapt quickly to navigating different cultures and personalities but that wasn't the best part. After my internship was over, I had about 5,000 US dollars left and I took that money and backpacked through Europe, staying in Hostels and couch surfing. There is a power that you get when you are traveling and surviving and navigating culture and language barriers. I highly recommend traveling aboard if you can and doing it while you are young with fewer things that tie you down is better.

    I often hear friends and family say that traveling is too expensive and they don't have the time but with a little discipline, you can make a lot of things work.

    For starters, get a Passport. It will cost about $200 altogether. Second, get a map and decide where you want to go. Third, I like to use the exchange rates to help me decide. Go to places where the US Dollar goes a long way, see: Vietnam, India, Honduras, Sri Lanka, Thailand, When you travel to places that are cheap your hard earned money goes further or you can live a little better. Traveling alone forces you to make friends where you are, this is generally easy for people with extrovert personalities.

    One of the things I usually do when traveling to a new country is finding out where the expatriates hang-out (i.e., Americans or Westerners). I go there to get information but don't generally hang out there because it is a much bigger target for attack. When traveling alone it is important to travel to places that have the decent forms of transportation and always check out the security profile before booking. The last thing I will say is to go get a checkup at the doctors before deciding to travel alone just so you can depart with a clean bill of health. Not all hospitals are the same, just saying.

    One of the biggest ways I make new friends is figuring out what music is playing on the radio or is popular where you are. One of the easiest ways to make friends is being able to dance to the same music.

    I am telling you now, there is a freedom that traveling affords and traveling alone really compounds that sense of Freedom. You would be surprised at how easy it is and what kind of person you become when you return home.
     
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    United Kingdom England i love the way they talk there accents. and they have there own kind of style or swag
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    This. It's okay to travel, just keep in mind that white supremacy is a global phenomenon. I think some of us have bought too much into the famed traveling Black Expats / pied noir narrative (James Baldwin, Richard Wright, etc.).

    The State Department's Country Condition reports (which I use in my line of work) should be downloaded and read before traveling and spending your money anywhere OUTCONUS; e.g. what is a country's gay attitudes? How do they feel about immigrants (that'll give you a rough idea about Black treatment). Just read the reports with a "black eye".
     
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    This is not a piece about how foreign women will be docile and treat you like a king, sorry bruh. This is about preservation of self. This is about saving your sanity. This is about living. You need to leave the United States for a couple of days (or weeks, or years), and you need to do it alone.

    Let’s be honest, there are often times where you feel like a foreigner in your own home. No matter how accomplished you’ve become, your own country still looks at you like an anomaly, a glitch, an insult to the system designed to defeat me and you, your momma and your cousin too. As black men, we are constantly subjected to the idea of who we are, instead of our truths.

    As lucky as I’ve been to travel the world pretty frequently, many would be surprised to learn my first international solo trip was this year. I’ve flown solo to destinations and met up with friends in different cities, but a trip where I was my only ally in another country hadn’t happened just yet. Now that I’ve done it, I’m pissed I didn’t take a solo journey earlier. I didn’t know how badly I needed to be away. I didn’t know how much I would gain from going alone. I didn’t know until I came back. I needed a break from America.

    The last few years have been a unique kind of purgatory for me as a black man, and I’m sure this is the truth for countless other black and brown men existing in America. Daily we are force fed examples of ourselves being taunted, harassed, and murdered, to the point where we too, experience a death of sorts. You slowly spiral downward, finding yourself in this twisted waiting room, counting the days until you become the hashtag. Every week you learn of a new way to die (playing your music loud, doing your job, asking for help when your car has stalled on the road, or reading a book in your car) with no new details on how to live. This dark space we're in right now, isn’t living. This isn’t supposed to be your black existence.

    By this point, they’ve won. They've made you believe that this black hole of despair belongs to you. You've got to save yourself. It is because of this, that your next (or even your first) trip out of the country needs to be a solo trip. You, my friend, need a break. You need a moment away to recharge, reflect, and realign. You need to call out sick from America.

    “And they say by 21 I was supposed to die, so I’m out here celebrating my post-demise.
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    Here’s some reasons why you’re in need of a solo trip abroad.
    1. Because it will build your confidence.
    Few things test your confidence like being in a place where you barely speak the language, have limited access to the internet, and no one to rely upon but yourself. Traveling alone forces you to tap into these abilities and actually use skills you rarely get to flex when at home, such as being a social being and talking to strangers, accepting the challenge of critical thinking and problem solving to get where you want to go.

    More importantly, it gives you the chance to be a carefree black man. Do things you wouldn’t think of doing with your crew around because your boys might look at you funny. The only person you have to worry about making a fool of yourself in front of, is people you’re likely to never see again, and if you do, they’ll know you as that ridiculously confident guy who didn’t care about what others thought. These are the kind of moments you need to realize that being you is the most lit thing you can do, a direct hit to the notion that being you is reason enough for death.

    “When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.
    — Ralph Ellison


    There’s also the opportunities for these really dope moments of clarity that you just can’t get while being surrounded by your normal atmosphere. Some of my best moments of reflection and healing (because yes, we as black men need space to heal from the litany of attacks upon our being) came from being away from all of the static of my day-to-day. You’d be surprised by how clear the mind becomes when it’s away from home.

    “All we wanna do is be free.
    — J. Cole

    2. Because you need to stop waiting on someone to validate your decision to travel somewhere.
    Bruh, just go. Stop waiting on your frat brothers to find the time off, stop waiting on someone to say your dream trip to Antartica is a dope idea, stop waiting for others to validate your decision to go somewhere. Just go. I’ve missed out on really great trips waiting for others to come to their senses. I decided that “they,” whoever “they” may be, won’t prevent me from seeing the world. If I want to see the pyramids, I’m going, with or without you. Be your own man and see the world.

    Break barriers for others by going it alone. Someone’s solo trip is waiting on yours to inspire them. So do it.

    The other great part to a solo trip is creating a part of your life that is closed off to your friends, family, and colleagues. We as black men often keep the things to ourselves that we need to share most; our pain, our cries for help. Very rarely do we get to make and maintain positive moments that are ours, and ours only. That’s exactly what these kinds of trips are for.

    “You have the right to every end of your exploration and no motherfucker anywhere can tell you otherwise . . .
    — Ta-Nehisi Coates


    3. Because frankly, you deserve it.
    Your current space in the world can kill you, in more ways than one. The 24 hour news cycle constantly plastering images of men who look like you being killed simply. for. being. The reminders that no matter how successful you are, a substantial portion of the “fellow” countrymen still look at you as less than. The space in your brain occupied by constant rage, fear, confusion, and racial fatigue, it’s all slowly stealing your life. Brother, you need a moment away. This is not to say that everywhere outside of the United States is a black man’s paradise, that’s far from the truth, but there is an opportunity to turn the volume down on the negativity, if only for a few days.

    “Men can starve from a lack of self-realization as much as they can from a lack of bread.
    — Richard Wright


    4. Because you need to realize that some of your “Western” sensibilities, make no sense at all.
    America often becomes the default answer for “all things great,” but you, as a black man, are one of the first to know it’s not always true. Yet somehow, we still cling onto these westernized ideas as gospel. Remember, these same “western” ideals are often used as confirmation to view and treat you in a certain way. Taking a chance to see how other cultures view the world, experience life, and view manhood is key to understanding that most of what you thought you knew, was BS. Especially when it comes to how we as Americans view the safety of the rest of the world. I’ve had friends and family tell me, “I want to travel, but the lack of safety in some of these countries concerns me…” I can’t subscribe to that way of thinking, especially when my safety in my own country is questionable at best. I challenge those concerned about their safety to really compare your fears of making it home without a police encounter to the “safety” concerns you have about visiting other countries. And honestly, most of the people telling you a place isn’t safe, haven't been anywhere near the place in question. Ask somebody how safe they think Cuba is, and it’s likely they won’t tell you it's labeled one of the safest countries in Latin America, let alone the world. What they will tell you is “Be safe,” implying some notion that your life is more at risk there than where you currently are. You also can’t rely upon online reviews from others to gauge how safe YOU will feel in another country. Because of our daily interactions as black men, our thresholds of fear, for better or worse, usually rest higher on the scale than others, since we live with a daily cloud of threat over our heads on our home turf.



    5. Because it may be your last time to do it.
    Before you get married, before the kids, before you take that new job, before the ills of old age or those student loan payments kick in, and before you can make excuses for yourself, go. Life comes at you fast, and you don’t want to be in a position where you long for moments you missed out on. And because it’s just you, it doesn’t have to be this grand, luxurious getaway (unless that’s your thing, then by all means…). The beauty of traveling alone, is that the only person you’re accountable for, is you. If you’re a morning person, you’re not waiting for the rest of your crew to get up to enjoy a day in a new place. If you want to come back to the hotel in the middle of the day to catch a nap, do it. If you want to go to that spot in the seedy part of Shanghai, do it….just don’t get arrested.

    “Now watch that black boy fly…
    — Kendrick Lamar



    Stop waiting for #yourname to happen.
    Get out of here and live for the brothers and sisters who didn’t get a chance to. I know what you’re thinking, and no, this isn’t selfish. You are not abandoning your community by taking time for you to rebuild. The salve of self-care is more important than ever, and getting away, alone, gives you the opportunity to just be, an identity we tend to lose. Your greatest asset in this fight to stay alive is your black joy.

    BLACK MEN: We Need To Leave America
     
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    The Complete List of All Things Named Brooklyn (Updated)

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    Brooklyn Bridge, Brooklyn Heights and Brooklyn Bridge Park

    As everyone in Brooklyn knows, “Brooklyn” has become far more than just a borough — it’s beer, coffee, jeans, bikes, markets, culture and so much more. As we’ve been hearing for several years now, Brooklyn is a brand.

    Which is why Brownstoner is listing every Brooklyn-branded thing on earth (plus a few other iconic bits of Brooklyn culture). We’ve got the list going below. But we need your help to make it truly comprehensive.

    What obscure or classic Brooklyn brands do we need to add? Leave a comment, email tips@brownstoner.com, or tweet to @brownstoner with your suggestions and we’ll add them here.

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    Brands Named Brooklyn
    Alcohol – Brooklyn Brewery
    Alcohol – Brooklyn Gin
    Alcohol – Jack From Brooklyn
    Alcohol – Brooklyn Brewshop
    Alcohol – Kings County Distillery
    Alcohol – Brooklyn Spirits
    Alcohol – Brooklyn Winery
    Bicycles – Brooklyn Bicycle Co
    Cartoons – Brooklyn Cartoons
    Clothing – Brooklyn Industries
    Clothing – Planet Brooklyn Academy
    Clothing – My Brooklyn Baby
    Clothing – Brooklyn Denim Co
    Coffee – Brooklyn Roasting
    Coffee – Brooklyn Beans
    Community – Brooklyn Neighbors Allied for Good Growth
    Community – Brooklyn Nanny Company
    Community – Brooklyn Community Foundation
    Culture – Brooklyn Academy of Music
    Culture – Brooklyn Library
    Culture – Brooklyn Museum
    Culture – Brooklyn Children’s Museum
    Culture – Brooklyn Ballet
    Culture – Brooklyn Historical Society
    Culture – Brooklyn Arts Council
    Culture – Brooklyn Night Bazaar
    Culture – Brooklyn Film Festival
    Culture – String Orchestra of Brooklyn
    Culture – Brooklyn Super Hero Supply Co.
    Culture – BKLYN Designs
    Education – Brooklyn Brainery
    Education – Brooklyn College
    Education – Brooklyn Law School
    Education – Brooklyn School of Inquiry
    Education – Brooklyn Kindergarten Society
    Entertainment – Brooklyn Bowl
    Farming – Brooklyn Grange Farm
    Food – The Brooklyn Kitchen
    Food – Brooklyn Dehli
    Food – Brooklyn Soda Works
    Food – Brooklyn Bell
    Food – Brooklyn Hemispherical Bitters
    Food – Brooklyn Brine
    Food – Brooklyn Cupcake
    Food – Brooklyn Wok Shop
    Food – Michael’s of Brooklyn
    Food – Jack from Brooklyn
    Food – The Brooklyn Biscuit Company
    Food – Brooklyn Crab
    Food – Brooklyn Premium
    Food – Brooklyn Bouillon
    Food – Bklyn Larder
    Food – The Original Brooklyn Water Bagel Co.
    Food – Brookly Ice Cream Factory
    Food – Brooklyn Sodaworks
    Food – Brooklyn Brine
    Food – Brooklyn Dark
    Landmarks – Brooklyn Bridge
    Marketing – Brooklyn Strategies
    Markets – Brooklyn Flea
    Markets – Bk Bazaar
    Media – Brooklyn Magazine
    Media – Brooklyn Based
    Media – Brooklyn Eagle
    Media – The Brooklyn Paper
    Media – Brooklyn Vegan
    Media – Brooklyn Spaces
    Running – Brooklyn Half Marathon
    Movies – Brooklyn
    Parks – Brooklyn Bridge Park
    Parks – Brooklyn Botanic Garden
    Shopping – Brooklyn Slate Co.
    Sports – Brooklyn Nets
    Sports – Brooklyn Islanders
    Sports – Brooklyn Boulders
    Sports – Brooklyn Cyclones
    Sports – Brooklyn Dodgers
    Sports – Brooklyn Running Company
    Sports – Brooklyn Bridge Fencing Club
    Sports – Brooklyn Strength
    Sports – Brooklyn Fishing Club
    Sports – Brooklyn Bolts
    Sports – Brooklyn Royal Giants
    Sports – Brooklyn Americans
    Tattoo – Brooklyn Tattoo
    Tourism – Explore Brooklyn
    Trade – Brooklyn Made
    Trade – Brooklyn Eats
    Trade – Brooklyn Slate Co.
    Transportation – Brooklyn Shuttle
    VC – Brooklyn Bridge Ventures
    Watches – Brooklyn Watch Co

    Iconic Brooklyn Brands Not Named Brooklyn
    Pizza – Grimaldi’s
    Cheesecake – Junior’s Cheesecake
    Franks – Nathan’s Famous
    Trade – Etsy

    Brooklyn Culture
    Art – Brooklyn Street Art
    Books – A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith
    Books – The Museum of Extraordinary Things by Alice Hoffman
    Cartoons – Bar Scrawl
    Photography – Brooklyn Changing by Kristy Chatelain
    Music – Jay Z
    Music – Beastie Boys
    Music – Sharon Jones & the Dap-Kings
    Music – Barbra Streisand
    Music – Neil Diamond
    Music – Neil Sedaka
    Music – Aaron Copland
    Music – Max Roach
    Movies – Saturday Night Fever
    Movies – The Lords of Flatbush
    Movies – Dog Day Afternoon
    Movies – Once Upon a Time in America
    Movies – Do the Right Thing
    Movies – The Angriest Man in Brooklyn
    Movies – Crooklyn
    Movies – She’s Gotta Have It
    Movies – Mo’ Better Blues
    Movies – The Squid and the Whale
    Movies – Moonstruck
    Movies – Smoke
    Movies – Blue in the Face
    Movies – Arsenic and Old Lace
    Movies – Sophie’s Choice
    Plays – Arsenic and Old Lace
    Plays – Brighton Beach Memoirs
    Plays – Death of a Salesman
    TV – Honeymooners
    TV – Welcome Back Kotter
    TV – The Cosby Show
    TV – Girls
    TV – Brooklyn 99
    TV – Broad City
    TV – The Patty Duke Show
    TV – The Honeymooners

    Media Coverage
    Brooklyn – Wikipedia
    The Brooklyn Brand Goes Global – NY Times
    Brooklyn Billion Dollar Brand- CNBC
    Brooklyn the Brand – Wall Street Journal
    The 25 Coolest New Business in Brooklyn – Business Insider
    Brooklyn Becoming Popular Baby Name (Outside New York) – Slate
    The Brooklynization of the World – Conde Nast Traveler
    Made in Brooklyn: the New York Borough That Became a Global Brand – The Guardian
    The Doors of Brooklyn – Brownstoner

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    Brooklyn Museum, Pitkin Theater, Brownsville

    Media Companies Based in Brooklyn
    Vice
    Thought Catalog
    Northside
    BlankSlate
    Brownstoner
    Brokelyn
    Brooklyn Daily Eagle
    mindbodygreen

    Things named Brooklyn that are NOT in Brooklyn
    Food – Brooklyn Taco
    Food – Brooklyn Chewing Gum
    Food – Brooklyn Diner
    Food – Brooklyn Bagel and Coffee Company
    Food – The Brooklyneer
    People – Brooklyn Decker
    People – Brooklyn Beckham
    Places – Brooklyn, Mississippi
    Places – Brooklyn, Portland
    Places – Brooklyn Park, Minnesota
    Places – Brooklin, Maine
    Places – Brooklyn, Maryland

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    Coney Island, Brighton Beach, Manhattan Beach, Brooklyn College

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    With all of the acquaintances I've had over the years that regularly go there to "interact" with the local populace it's always funny to realize that homophobia is still the norm.
    Still it's encouraging to see some slight change.
    Personally, I've never not met someone from DR that didn't dabble in at least the bi side of life and if anyone has the chance to check out, do so.
    Beautiful place, beautiful people that counts among them
    Zoe Saldana
    Juan Luis Guerra
    Fabolous
    Alex Rodriguez
    Dania Ramirez and
    Hosea Chanchez
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    Editorial Observer

    By ERNESTO LONDOÑO APRIL 4, 2016

    Shortly after taking up his post as American ambassador to the Dominican Republic in November 2013, Wally Brewster got a bit of unsolicited advice from the Vatican’s envoy to the Caribbean nation.

    “If you keep your private life behind the walls of your embassy, you’ll be O.K. here,” Nuncio Jude Thaddeus Okolo told Mr. Brewster. He meant that Mr. Brewster, to be an effective diplomat, would be wise to keep his husband, Bob Satawake, out of sight in a country where prejudice against gay people remains widespread.

    The advice went unheeded. Mr. Brewster and Mr. Satawake, who have been together for nearly 28 years, have been out and proud in Santo Domingo, sparking a spirited debate that has galvanized the nation’s fledgling gay rights movement and outraged local leaders of the Catholic Church.

    The attacks against Mr. Brewster, a Chicago businessman who raised money for President Obama’s re-election campaign, began just days after the White House nominated him for the post. During a news conference in June 2013, Cardinal Nicolás de Jesús López Rodríguez, the archbishop of Santo Domingo, said he was appalled that Washington would be represented by a “maricón,” a slur term for gay men. Monsignor Pablo Cedano, another senior church leader, predicted that Dominicans would make Mr. Brewster so miserable, he wouldn’t last long.

    • It was an odd time for the Catholic Church in the Dominican Republic to be attacking anyone. Just weeks after that news conference, the Vatican’s ambassador to Santo Domingo was quietly recalled after superiors learned that he had been paying poor underage boys for sex. And allegations of child abuse have been made against other priests.

      Mr. Brewster never contemplated backing out of the job. “We knew the warmth of the people,” he said in an interview. “We also knew this was a place where there was a lot of opportunity to make progress on human rights.”
      Soon after arriving, Mr. Brewster and Mr. Satawake, who had been active in the gay rights movement in the United States, hosted a small group of Dominican activists at their residence. At the time, the very few resources gay rights groups on the island had came from H.I.V. prevention initiatives, and they didn’t have a strategy to press for legal or societal reforms.

      The embassy began providing money for gay rights groups as part of the State Department’s initiative to advance equality for gay and transgender people around the world. “The arrival of this ambassador is the biggest thing that could have happened to us,” said Marlenne Bennedeck Dumont, a transgender rights activist in Santo Domingo. “We’ve seen that change is possible and have begun to find allies.”

      This year, for the first time, openly gay people in the Dominican Republic are running for local office. Last month, the American Embassy helped start a L.G.B.T. chamber of commerce. Mr. Brewster’s presence has brought about a national conversation about prejudice and tolerance, said Pablo McKinney, a Dominican newspaper columnist.

      “In the Dominican Republic, it’s fine to be gay as long as you don’t acknowledge it and lead a double life,” said Mr. McKinney. “I think it’s wonderful that by coming here, this man has brought this reality to the fore.”
     
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